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...but intelligent people believe in God (DarkMatter2525)

Started by Loren Miller 19 hours ago. 0 Replies

A ridiculous claim should be recognized as such as a matter of course, shouldn't it?  Shouldn't It?!?  What happens if that claim is so imbued and integrated into society over hundreds if not thousands of years that it has been taken as TRUTH…Continue

Tags: religion, indoctrination, ridiculous claim

Optical Illusions

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jan 31. 66 Replies

This one seems a bit creepy, like the middle one shouldn't be able to change rotation like that. from Cheezburger.comContinue

White House Petition: Change National Motto Back to "E Pluribus, Unum"

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by k.h. ky Jan 22. 8 Replies

There is a petition being sponsored by whitehouse.gov to remove "in god we trust" as the national motto and replace it with the original: "E Pluribus, Unum" or "Out of Many, One."  As of this writing, there are around 11,000 signatures on it, with…Continue

Tags: E Pluribus, Unum, in god we trust, petition

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISIS

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller Dec 24, 2015. 3 Replies

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISISGrowth in population, policies and practices that create a gap between the typical person and the wealthy,…Continue

coming out (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Atheist in FundyLand Dec 23, 2015. 6 Replies

Whether as atheist, agnostic, gay / Lesbian or whatever, the process of coming out has been a repeated topic of discussion here on Atheist Nexus and for good reason: it is at once a necessary yet potentially supremely painful process, depending on…Continue

Tags: Lesbian, agnostic, gay, atheist, TheraminTrees

If God Exists (DarkMatter2525)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Dec 23, 2015. 4 Replies

"Practice makes perfect."  That's the concept, isn't it?  Work diligently at something, especially something you enjoy and are adept at, and your skills sharpen, your judgment improves, and the product of your efforts demonstrate that improvement. …Continue

Tags: religion, YouTube, god, DarkMatter2525

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Comment by John Lynch on January 10, 2013 at 7:04am

Chris I to use exercise to help with depression. After some time my children and I are on good terms. I also do not think I was ever a good candidate for marriage. It would have been nice to have that knowledge before the act. Peace to all.

Comment by Plinius on January 10, 2013 at 5:06am

It's bad when things cannot be mended. I was the unwanted daughter of a sexist, hypocrit xtian, who ruined his wife & children's lives. You cannot reason with someone who thinks he's is always right, so I broke the contact and didn't go to his funeral.

Comment by Ian Mason on January 10, 2013 at 4:12am

Congratulations to the happily married. It's a real achievement.

As far as the drunk/bad-tempered/intoverted fathers go - that was me for far too many years. I haven't been able to regain my daughter's affection and probably never will. There was too much shit for too long. Have also recognised that marriage etc. is not the best thing for me. I'm too unstable and that only causes distress for both parties.

My addiction now is exercise. It burns off the excess cortisol (the "bad" stress hormone) and stabilises my moods to some extent. Chocolate is good too but I need to ration myself, otherwise I go wild.

Have a great day, all of you, wherever you are and whatever you're doing. Thanks for listening. Hugs from me.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 10, 2013 at 2:16am

Melinda, Congratulations on 25 years of marriage, 2 great kids and if I were closer I could bring you a bouquet of Witchhazel. It is in full bloom and the only thing in color just now. I love its fragrance. 

Comment by Lillie on January 9, 2013 at 8:48pm

Maybe the cannonball dive was some kind of yoga position.

Comment by Steph S. on January 9, 2013 at 5:13pm

Comment by Steph S. on January 9, 2013 at 5:12pm

I just read your story about your dad sk8eycat - thank you so much for sharing with us.

Cute doglol booklover - thank you for sharing your story with us.

Wow - so much to read today. I am getting caught up.

You aren't boring Melinda. You have a nice peaceful life. Sounds wonderful to me.

Sorry to hear about your drunk dad John. Appreciate your sharing.

Ashley thanks for sharing your story about your dad with us.

I don't drink alcohol myself.

Enjoying the conversation here.

Wonderful to see all the sharing.

Comment by Ashley West on January 9, 2013 at 3:53pm

Hello, everyone. This is my first time commenting on here but once I saw this I just wanted to share something. My dad was an alcoholic before I was even born, and my childhood was spent trying to avoid his temper, or any other dangerous positions he decided to try and put me in. Thankfully my mom left him before he could do any serious damage to me. Like you, Melinda, I cannot tolerate alcohol very well myself these days. I don't know if its a physical reaction to the memory of my father or if I just really can't handle it but it always makes me sick. I know the feeling of growing up and starting to drink too just to try and cope with the other people around you that are doing it, but it just makes the situation worse. At least for me it does.

I am glad for those that have had the problem that have gotten themselves help. It's very hard to overcome, or so it seems with my family. 

By the way, Melinda, that is the cutest picture. My dog used to chase his tail all the time but I don't think he ever caught it. ;-)

Comment by John Lynch on January 9, 2013 at 11:13am

I know my children like me sober over being drunk. My wife put up with me for eleven years before he had enough. I am thankful she did or who knows what that would have led. My ex and I were getting along fairly well until she found out I was an atheist. She began sending me emails with religious messages. I sent her some information on the bible and it seems she did not care for facts. I have not heard from her in some time. I am quite sure my daughter is an atheist and my son is more an agnostic. I do not tell them what to believe or not to believe. 

Comment by John Lynch on January 9, 2013 at 9:59am

I see that some of us has a common link to drunk fathers. My problem is mine never left. Many times I wished he would never come back when he left fr work. I guess the bigger problem was three of his sons, me included, turned to alcohol. I finally sobered up in AA when I was still a believer. I cannot deny it gave me a place to go. I still go to a few meetings but have trouble listening when god speak is in abundance. Some of them you can get through without to much god. Of course I do not join in the prayer after the meeting. I stand aside or just leave.I am not sure I have grown up myself but I am responsible in everyday living. I have a tough time in social gatherings. I never had the problem when drinking. I at least thought I was the life of the party until the next day. 

 

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