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The Burial Waltz

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Donatien Alphonse François Apr 26. 4 Replies

Hi everyone,It was almost a half-century ago, at age 15 or so, that I encountered one of the more important influences in my life: a crazy group of poets/musicians who called themselves The Fugs.They had a huge impact on me in that, though raised in…Continue

Some William Blake to Ponder

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Donatien Alphonse François Apr 25. 6 Replies

Hello all,I'm new here, and so hope this isn't old hat. But, I just had to point you toward a marvelous poem by William Blake in case you've never read it. Despite his sometimes heavily tinged biblical references in his other art and poetry, this…Continue

God's Not Dead - The Christian Persecution Complex (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Annie Willis Apr 20. 7 Replies

Doubtless most if not all of you have heard about that sorry piece of cinema known as God's Not Dead, and perhaps its sequel, cleverly entitled: God's Not Dead 2 (wow, how original!).  Personally, I have wasted neither time nor money on either,…Continue

Tags: God's Not Dead, patheos, Neil Carter, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Confirmed: flagged by religious people for "bullying."

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller Apr 19. 4 Replies

According to Seth Andrews @SethAndrewsTTA  Apr 16"Confirmed. TTA was flagged by religious people for "bullying." Apparently, criticism and skepticism = persecution. #GodHatesFacts"Others reported as "Flagged" and taken off line: @The Thinking…Continue

Tags: @SethAndrewsTTA, @morehead_sarah, @Matt_Dillahunty, @jteberhard, confirmed

The Value of Atheist Nexus ... and of Keeping Contact

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Apr 17. 13 Replies

I don't know about you, but the last 24+ hours were VERY uncomfortable for me.  Why?  Because something I value a LOT, being Atheist Nexus and the people I care about on A|N were temporarily unavailable to me.  No, we're not Facebook; I don't think…Continue

Tags: maintenance, community, availability, Atheist Nexus

Atheist Pig STRIKES AGAIN!!!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Qiana-Maieev Apr 5. 1 Reply

There's no getting around it, Atheist Pig is fast becoming my fave secular comic, and as evidence, I refer you to the following.  Jesus and Mo had better watch their respective asses, 'cuz they got a porker coming up on the outside, and I'm pretty…Continue

Tags: Atheist Pig

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Comment by Steph S. on February 6, 2013 at 5:18am
Awww .. That kitty knows what's it is like to look at a beautiful view. What a wonderful picture Tony!
Hope everyone has a great day!
Comment by Tony Carroll on February 6, 2013 at 4:59am

Wow! What a view!

Comment by Ian Mason on February 6, 2013 at 3:17am

Patricia, martyrdom is such a cruel, manipulative defence. Glad to hear that you're not buying it. Stick with the people who really care.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 6, 2013 at 3:06am
Comment by Joan Denoo on February 6, 2013 at 2:03am
Patricia, you are a wiser woman than I and I appreciate your journey. thankfully, you had a good husband and in-laws, friends and neighbors. It appears you have your feelings and needs met now. Good for you!
Comment by Joan Denoo on February 6, 2013 at 1:05am

Chris, I agree with your assessment. Especially, "Take comfort in honest things and honest people."

Comment by Plinius on February 6, 2013 at 12:57am

You're right Patricia, not to start a fight again and not to force yourself into something you aren't. Some things just cannot be patched. Take comfort in honest things and honest people.

My father sent me an invitation a short time before he died, for a happy family-show, to cover up that he had broken the family. I threw it away.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 6, 2013 at 12:02am
Patricia, Happy belated birthday greetings ... I just now am opening my mail.
Your wounds run so deeply, and have such a long history, I can understand being confused by your mother's card and request for forgiveness. That is a lot to ask for. She undoubtedly is feeling her mortality, and her neglect of you as a loving, caring mother. When you needed her love and support and not have it hurts. I wish you could tell her how you feel especially when you needed her during cancer recovery. That won't change anything, but at least you will have had the chance to say, honestly, what you needed and missed from her. She might not be able to hear your words or recognize your feelings, but to be able to speak your truth, not to hurt her, but to let her know your thoughts may be healing for both of you. That is a judgment call you can make and either way makes sense to me.
There is much care, compassion, and just plain loveliness here on this site; this is a good place to renew and refresh.
Comment by Lillie on February 5, 2013 at 10:27pm

My mother is deceased which is a great relief to me as Melinda said about her grandmother.  However, I have been able to have some compassion for her now because I have had so many valuable opportunities to heal and move forward which she never had.  I like the idea that we can choose our families now and not stay stuck in harmful situations.  I have an older female friend who is like a mother figure to me.  She is so positive and loving that I feel only uplifted when in her presence.

Comment by Ian Mason on February 5, 2013 at 2:16pm

Happy birthday Patricia.

It does seem a bit late, the apology and the contact. Intimations of mortality? What you do is up to you,of course.

My brother and me resumed contact with our mother after a hiatus of 20 years, hoping for some explanations of what happened leading up to/around the divorce from our father. That didn't happen but we've stayed in touch out of a sense of duty. It hasn't been easy but we've felt compelled to "do the decent thing". If that's right or wrong I couldn't say.

Your view that there can only be an aquaintanceship between you sounds sensible. Distant and polite/amiable could be the best solution. Just mull things over and find out what is best for you.

 

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