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New Rule: Win or Go Home (Real Time with Bill Maher)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 4. 5 Replies

In case you hadn't noticed, we have a mid-term election coming up in three days, and it's more than a little important.  With it we can take back at least one if not both houses of Congress from the Republicans and send a message to Donald Trump…Continue

Tags: election, vote, millennials, Hitler, Donald Trump

Alexa for Evangelicals! (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Patricia Oct 9. 1 Reply

Never let it be said that Mrs. Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, is anything less than up to date with the state of the art as it comes to the modern household.  However, as a discriminating conservative Christian, Betty would never tolerate…Continue

Tags: digital assistant, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

New Rule: Church and Destroy (Real Time with Bill Maher - HBO)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Sep 30. 6 Replies

Bill Maher is an atheist [whoa, shock and amazement!].  He is also a dedicated opponent of Donald Trump and anyone who would support the man or his goals ... and that includes ol' Yahweh, himself!  As it turns out, there is a substantial correlation…Continue

Tags: Stalin, Mao, Hitler, New Rules, Donald Trump

concealing abuse (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Sep 23. 3 Replies

We think of institutionalized child abuse and for many of us, the natural reaction is to think of the Catholic Church. Certainly, their guilt is beyond question, even as the headlines of the Boston Globe early in 2002 and the more recent news…Continue

Tags: Children of God, Jehovah's Witnesses, David Berg, child abuse, TheraminTrees

Liberal Redneck - Climate Change the Game (Trae Crowder)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Sep 20. 2 Replies

Trae Crowder isn't just about atheism.  He has a deep and abiding concern about what's going on with this planet's climate and the all-too-probable catastrophe we face from a fundamental change in weather patterns.  That said, Trae is thinking about…Continue

Tags: climate change, Al Gore, Trae Crowder

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Comment by Ian Mason on April 28, 2013 at 12:59am

Melinda, you've had all the good advice there is so I won't add more.

"Why do you care?" YES, that gets up my nose too. I care because that religious stuff is DANGEROUS. As soon as anyone believes that the "Truth", perfect and unquestionable, is out there the seed is sown for fanaticism. On top of that, believers expect respect for just being believers and religion is held to be above criticism. How often have we said that certain behaviour is unacceptable and been rebuffed with "but it's their religion"? Dennet's book "Breaking the Spell" goes into this in detail and if anyone hasn't read it, I can recommend doing so.

Comment by Lillie on April 28, 2013 at 12:07am

Melinda, I had the same thing happen with a friend who was becoming very pushy and dictatorial.  I began having other plans whenever she called.  Eventually she stopped calling.  You could tell your friend that alcohol no longer agrees with you and you would just rather not be around it.  Or more to the point you could tell her that it is becoming more difficult to discuss religion as you have moved so far from these discussions.  At any rate, I know you will be able to deal with this as you are becoming more confident in the direction your life is taking.  I like to think that A/N is playing a part in this.  Good luck.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 27, 2013 at 10:56pm

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 27, 2013 at 10:23pm

sk8eycat, you write, "I am so passionate about keeping religion out of politics" reveals that you have understanding about the long range consequences of mixing the two. 

Remember the physician, Dr. Ignaz Philipp Semmelweis, who realized doctors were infecting their patients with some unseen infections and tried to convince them to wash their hands between touching those who are sick. His colleagues laughed at him and called him insane. The poor man was committed to an asylum, where he died at age 47 after being beaten by the guards, only 14 days after he was committed.

Or remember the geologist, J Harlen Bretz, who published research papers in 1923 theorizing water caused the landforms in eastern and southern Washington state, even though there was no evidence of water that could have done it. Other geologists laughed at him and dismissed him. A man by the name of Joseph T. Pardee knew where the water came from. It wasn't until mid-1950s Bretz’s interpretations could no longer be ignored, and the geology society accepted his theory.

We are, today, at the place where people do not recognize the risk of mixing church and state. Either they don't remember history, or they believe some superpower will come to our rescue, or their economic futures are tied to the value of using religion to control the public. 

Observe the evidence; it is clear what side of the fence you are on and even if you stand alone, you are correct. 

Comment by sk8eycat on April 27, 2013 at 9:25pm

I've been working on my little Pet Press job, witha grumpy computer...aaarrgh!...so I haven't been keeping up with the discussions in here...except for a little bit.

I have a question: One of my best friends is tending toward atheism, but she just doesn't understand why I am so passionate about keeping religion out of politics.  Her attitude toward religion could be described as indifference, while mine is more like disgust.  Has anybody else encountered this attitude of "Why do you care? Why don't you just ignore it?"

I have said that I love my country, and am appalled at all the "god blessing" that comes out of the mouths of people who are supposed to represent me.  I'm also frightend by the dominionists; they have come very close to taking over (with a faith-based office in the White House, for one thing) a few times, and if we don't wake up and do something about them ....well...

The only encouraging news is the growing numbers of "nones" in the last 15 years or so. But I just don't understand indifference.

Anybody got any comments?

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on April 27, 2013 at 8:33pm

Melinda, you might consider cultivating one or two new friendships,  people with whom you share common interests, whose lives don't revolve around religion. Then tell your old friend that you don't feel compatible with her any more, that you've drifted apart. I wouldn't lie, even a white lie about alcohol. I'd tell her how you actually feel when people talk about religion. Be clear that you still respect her and don't think badly of her, it's that particular behavior you can no longer abide.  Say it's not her, that you've changed. Well that's what I'd try. It's best not to cut yourself off socially, keep some friends in your life. This is a "Do as I say, not as I do", because I really haven't got any flesh and blood friends. I got bored with them, or I changed my interests, or they aged out (groups became too young for common interest), or the drive got too long for me. Perhaps I'm not the best person to advise on friendship.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 27, 2013 at 6:54pm
Remember, there are 7,113,105,376 human beings on the planet and some of them will bring you enlightenment, ideas, perspective, and a sense of being part of all that is.
Comment by Megan S. M. on April 27, 2013 at 6:43pm

It's hard to be tolerant of something like religion, at least for me, that causes so much harm.

But my family is super religious so I tolerate their not-so-subtle/friendly religious promotions and talk because I value that relationship enough. When everyone around is religious, tolerance seems to be the only way to not be ostracized.

Booklover, that is a tough situation :/

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 27, 2013 at 6:38pm

Have a red hatter day, Melinda, it is a state of mind. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 27, 2013 at 6:36pm

Melinda, you are so patient. Do you like being patient? If you like it, keep doing it; if you don't, then claim a Red Hatter Age; it is a state of mind.

 

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