Hang With Friends

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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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maggie and milly and molly and may (Edward Estlin Cummings & Eric Whitacre)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 20. 2 Replies

It's amazing what you discover when you go looking for something you had no idea you'd find.  On an impulse, I pulled up Eric Whitacre's website to see if he had created any new pieces.  It would seem that he has: a song cycle called The City and…Continue

Tags: e e cummings, Eric Whitacre

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISIS

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Randall Smith Nov 18. 1 Reply

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISISGrowth in population, policies and practices that create a gap between the typical person and the wealthy,…Continue

Passive and Active voices

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 16. 1 Reply

Have you noticed that much of the discussion in families and with friends, in the print media, on TV, and now on the internet is in the Passive Voice? Many people whine, complain, gripe, accuse, blame, call names, ridicule, grumble, bitch, rebuke,…Continue

Tags: and, behaviors, communication., attitudes, learned

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by The Flying Atheist Nov 14. 2 Replies

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested"In 2009, a Wayne County assistant prosecuting attorney noticed…Continue

Tags: women, Enough, SAID, black, victims

Something Beautiful – Nathan Phelps & Seth Andrews

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 10. 7 Replies

And it is beautiful, too, indeed, I think some of Seth Andrews' best work.  Interesting point: rather than Seth's dulcet baritone doing the narration, this piece presses Nathan Phelps' deep bass intonation into service, bringing a different flavor…Continue

Tags: Nathan Phelps, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, beautiful, something

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Joan Denoo Oct 27. 14 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

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Comment by Plinius on March 19, 2014 at 2:45am

I'd love to say that, that I have very little debt, but it's not horrible either: half our apartment belongs to the bank.

How to open the discussion with your niece - quite a problem! "Live and let live", has the baby no rights? Perhaps you can start with info about the risks?

Comment by The Flying Atheist on March 19, 2014 at 2:16am

I have very little debt at the moment, and that should be cleared up pretty soon.  However, I'd like to purchase a condo sometime later this year.  If I end up going through with that plan, I'll be taking on a huge financial responsibility for years to come.  I just really want a place to call my own, and now seems to be a good time to make real estate purchases.  And my job appears to be much more stable for the first time in quite a few years, so I feel confident in making this commitment.  I shall see.    

On an unrelated note, it was recently announced in my family that my niece here in Chicago, who is in her mid-twenties, is pregnant and will be having a son.  I now have to figure out an acceptable, but non-creepy, non-pushy, and tactful way to broach the subject with her about not having the baby circumcised.  I don't like to push my unsolicited views on her about such a personal topic, but I have a very strong opinion regarding keeping babies intact.  I'm pretty much a "live and let live" type of person, but I'd like to make sure she is educated on the subject.  She doesn't appear to be overly religious and I don't believe she as attended church regularly for any significant portion of her life.  We've never had any conversations about religion, so I'm not 100% sure about her spiritual views.  I've saved some YouTube videos over the years that are related to the topic of circumcision, so I have those ready to go as part of my arsenal.  Beyond that, I'm at a loss for a strategy to get the conversation started.      

Comment by Ian Mason on March 19, 2014 at 12:22am

Almost debt-free, Melinda. Congrats. I've found that situation to be a good one as there's more time and energy to take care of the important things in life, like people. Hope your son's problem is resolved soon.

Patricia, back problems can give pain almost anywhere because the nerves to the reat of the body pass through the spine. A little bit of pressure on a nerve can cause pain a long way away.

I'm off now. See you soon :-) Take care of yourselves.

Comment by Joan Denoo on March 18, 2014 at 11:58pm

Mindy, Unsettling news about the difficulty diagnosing your son's knee problem. 

You are so very wise to have gotten rid of your debts so young. You will not realize how important that is until you get nearer retirement age and have to face the reality of current economic situations. Things are not going to get better any time soon. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on March 18, 2014 at 11:22pm

Melinda, in my inexpert medical opinion, I would guess that only having swelling is a better situation to be in than having a buildup of fluid.  Of course, I'm not a doctor.  I don't even play one on TV.  Just curious.  Is the swelling causing pain?  In any case, I hope your son gets answers and subsequent treatment soon.  And congratulations on your family's financial health.  You are a rare breed and you are to be commended.

Comment by sk8eycat on March 18, 2014 at 11:14pm

O, my nerves! How terrible!

That reminds me SO much of the time Gary Powers' KNBC news-chopper crashed here in the Valley.  He ran out of fuel because he spent too much time covering a fire up near Santa Barbara.  Ironic...he survived his U-2 being shot down in 1960,but not this:

According to Powers' son, an aviation mechanic had repaired a faulty fuel gauge without telling Powers, who misread it. At the last moment he noticed children playing in the area, and directed the helicopter elsewhere to prevent their deaths. If not for the last second deviation, which compromised his autorotative descent, he might have landed safely.

He was sort of a neighbor for a year or two when I lived in a 4-story "party" apt. bldg.  He did NOT party with the rest of us...he stayed in his penthouse most of the time. That was 1965-66, he was still recovering from the trauma of the whole USSR business.

Anyway, whenever I hear of a helicopter crash I think of him.  He was a good local newsman after he came out of his shell.

Comment by sk8eycat on March 18, 2014 at 7:42pm

Meliinda, that is very strange about your son's knee.  I thought he'd already had a thorough MRI done...wouldn't that have shown whether the swelling was fluid/blood or tissue?  (I've had MRIs of my spine and neck, and I'm always amazed at the detail that shows up in the images...including a little goiter I didn't know I had...)

As for the debt (almost) payoff....CONGRATULATIONS!!!

Comment by sk8eycat on March 18, 2014 at 2:03pm

If you read Spider Robinson's Callahan's Place short story collections, you'll find out that Tuesday (night) is/was ALWAYS Punday.  The teller of the worst pun (they were also usually shaggy dog stories) had his or her tab for the night refunded. 

Nice custom.

Try Callahan's Crosstime Saloon.

Comment by Grinning Cat on March 18, 2014 at 1:31pm

Ian, thanks for pointing us to Einstein's "The World As I See It".

This link should work:

Comment by Grinning Cat on March 18, 2014 at 1:27pm

Ignoring my own advice:

Two atoms bump into each other.

"Ouch! I lost an electron!"

"Are you sure?"

"I'm positive!"


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