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maggie and milly and molly and may (Edward Estlin Cummings & Eric Whitacre)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller on Friday. 2 Replies

It's amazing what you discover when you go looking for something you had no idea you'd find.  On an impulse, I pulled up Eric Whitacre's website to see if he had created any new pieces.  It would seem that he has: a song cycle called The City and…Continue

Tags: e e cummings, Eric Whitacre

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISIS

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Randall Smith Nov 18. 1 Reply

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISISGrowth in population, policies and practices that create a gap between the typical person and the wealthy,…Continue

Passive and Active voices

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 16. 1 Reply

Have you noticed that much of the discussion in families and with friends, in the print media, on TV, and now on the internet is in the Passive Voice? Many people whine, complain, gripe, accuse, blame, call names, ridicule, grumble, bitch, rebuke,…Continue

Tags: and, behaviors, communication., attitudes, learned

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by The Flying Atheist Nov 14. 2 Replies

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested"In 2009, a Wayne County assistant prosecuting attorney noticed…Continue

Tags: women, Enough, SAID, black, victims

Something Beautiful – Nathan Phelps & Seth Andrews

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 10. 7 Replies

And it is beautiful, too, indeed, I think some of Seth Andrews' best work.  Interesting point: rather than Seth's dulcet baritone doing the narration, this piece presses Nathan Phelps' deep bass intonation into service, bringing a different flavor…Continue

Tags: Nathan Phelps, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, beautiful, something

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Joan Denoo Oct 27. 14 Replies

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Comment by Brent Feeney on July 30, 2014 at 8:54pm

Joan, I have a few stories from my brief Wally World experience I could share. Found out after I'd been hired at that particular Walmart that it had been evacuated about a year and a half before I hired on because someone was caught cooking meth in a soda bottle in her purse while she was in the store - a couple of weeks AFTER she had been arrested for the same thing at a gas station!

Comment by Brent Feeney on July 30, 2014 at 8:51pm

Thanks for the kind words everyone. It means a lot to me. I'm glad things worked out so I could get paid for doing this, even if it's part-time. Started out at $10.05/hr, with a raise coming in November, so it does help with the bills and puts a bit of money in my pocket to enjoy life.

I agree with the sentiments about your Molly, Mindy. I wish we were allowed to have that kind of choice on when we go if the time came too. I hope you're doing well too.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on July 30, 2014 at 5:29pm

Thanks for the update, Brent. I'm glad you found at least a partial solution.

I hope your new pet at least partly helps with your grief, booklover and Randall.

Great LOL, booklover, and political quote too. Did you create that, or what? No author was credited.

Comment by Joan Denoo on July 30, 2014 at 3:43pm

Brent Feeney, thank you for bringing us up to date your your situation and challenges you face. It is never easy for a son to take care of a mother. My son, Cary, took care of me the year I was in cancer treatment and he did a wonderful job. My other two children were relieved  because he did a fine job and was trustworthy. 

Sorry your Walmart experience turned out the way it did. Frankly, I am glad you are not working for them anymore ... I boycott them because of their labor policies. 

It seems 2013 was a big transition year for you with your father's passing and mother's stroke and then heart problems. Taking on the responsibility of caring for her is a big job. There are many strategies that can make it easier and I am glad you had some training.

I cared for my dad after he broke his hip and began to fail. He lived with me the last seven years of his life. A home nursing organization came in and gave me instructions as his needs changed, and I had help from visiting nurses for his baths.

That is a good idea to get financial help while caring for her. It just makes sense that public funds be used in such a way, so that you can receive assistance with expenses when you can't work and care for her.

I tried to work and care for dad, but gave that up after about a year. I was teaching classes at the time and he would call needing help, and his needs became more intense. At the end I was doing body lifts and he was too heavy for me. We both realized I could no longer do all the tasks and instead of going back into a nursing home, he chose to die. He was 86, he couldn't hear, his sight was failing, and nothing tasted good. He had no control over anything and was not a happy elder. He chose wisely. 

Your experiences will undoubtedly be different than mine, and we are here to listen when you need to vent, and perhaps we can offer some suggestions that will help. 

In the process, I hear your challenge and respect you for the efforts you make on your mother's behalf. Stay in touch. I look forward to walking this walk with you. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on July 30, 2014 at 3:25pm

Mindy, I'm so sorry to hear your sad news.  I know you've mentioned recently that this day would be coming, but that doesn't make it any easier.  At least you know that Molly had a wonderful life as part of your household.

(and Patricia, that's a beautiful candle posting!)

Brent, it's always good hearing from you.  What great news that you're actually getting paid to care for your mother!  I had no idea that such a program existed. 

Comment by Brent Feeney on July 30, 2014 at 2:51pm

While I'm here *LOL*, wanted to give everyone an update on what's been going on with my mom.

As you may or may not know, I left a job I had at an area Walmart the first part of February after being told to take a transfer from stocking groceries to maintenance or be fired. Took the transfer, found I couldn't do it and turned in my resignation.

As some of you may also remember, I have been having a fairly rough year and a half; my dad died of Parkinson's complications in January 2013 and my mom had a stroke in October 2013. The damage was minimized fortunately but it has affected her some.

Not long after that, mom had to go into the hospital with a case of congestive heart failure. The good news is that she was able to get better and was released from the hospital a couple of days after she went in.

Right at the end of the Winter Olympics, my sister asked me if I wanted to come over and help take care of her so she and my other sister could both go back to work. I accepted and spend the week over with mom, my sisters and a nephew and niece over on the Illinois side of St. Louis, returning to my place in St. Louis city on the weekends. For the most part, it's worked out pretty well.

I brought up the idea of trying to get into a program where I could be paid to help take care of mom, and not long after, they had an interview with an state agency office, who then referred me to another company called Help at Home, a Chicago-based company with an office in Wood River, IL, not far from where mom lives in Glen Carbon (between Collinsville and Edwardsville, for those familiar with STL-area geography).

Submitted an application, passed all the checks, took three days of required training and now I'm being paid (at least part-time; she was approved for 17.5 hours/week) to help take care of mom. It's been a big help, no doubt, but I'd still help out even if I wasn't getting paid. At least being paid helps get the bills at home paid.

I do basic stuff for her; cook breakfast, get her lunch, clean out floors, make sure she gets her meds, help her out, generally make sure she has what she needs. It's pretty difficult at times but rewarding as well.

I hope everyone's doing well too. I should contribute more often to this group, I'll admit.

Comment by Brent Feeney on July 30, 2014 at 2:42pm

Mindy and Randy, sending you all good thoughts and wishes on the loss of your dogs. I'm a dog lover myself (though i do have plenty of room in my heart for cats too) and I hate to hear what's happened to your dogs.

Comment by Joan Denoo on July 30, 2014 at 8:40am

Randy, your wrote, "The Ray Rice case is a good example."

I had to look up his name to figure out what you meant. 

February 15, 2014, domestic violence arrest, with an unconscious woman with Ray Rice coming out of an elevator. The article didn't say what caused the unconscious state, but by deduction from he arrest, I assume it was a domestic violence incident. 

March 28, 2014, marriage of Ray Rice and his girlfriend!  

Alarm bells, sirens ringing, whistles blowing. This is not the end of any domestic violence, it is merely the first of many incidents until the girlfriend/wife wakes up from her denial and delusions and realizes she is being treated as an object, a thing, a non-person. I do hope she and Rice get some powerful counseling ... not the mamby pamby kind of feel good therapy, but the deeply rooted exploration of the thinking minds of each one. 

Comment by Randall Smith on July 30, 2014 at 7:22am

Thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your notes of sympathy. Your words bring tears to my eyes. I am going to the humane society today to see what they have. 

Comment by Plinius on July 30, 2014 at 6:18am

Another Molly who leaves an empty place! I'm sorry for your loss!


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