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bending truth, or "We Can All Be Manipulated" (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Compelledunbeliever yesterday. 37 Replies

The following is one of TheraminTrees' most thorough-going pieces, wherein he looks at the process and techniques whereby a "religious" organization (which will sound VERY familiar to most of us, once introductions are made!) takes a person who…Continue

Tags: indoctrination, truth, manipulation, TheraminTrees

punishing doubt (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Sep 6. 0 Replies

If you are associated with religion and especially a fundamentalist religion, doubt is intolerable.  Certainty, however it may be achieved or imposed, becomes a necessary element, especially considering the utter dearth of any form of evidence or…Continue

Tags: religion, TheraminTrees, punish, doubt

We Don't Want Your (Atheist) Money! (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Idaho Spud Sep 2. 17 Replies

I suppose I've heard stories like this before:Conscientious atheist donates money to worthy cause.Worthy cause initially accepts money.Worthy cause discovers source of donation.Worthy cause rejects donation.Swell, eh?  Well Matt Willbourne of…Continue

Tags: American Baptist Churches Association, Murrow Indian Children's Home, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

The Whole Bible in 30 Seconds (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randy Hatly Sep 2. 3 Replies

Ever decide that you wanted to read the whole bible, cover to cover, only to realize half-way through Deuteronomy that the darn thing is industrial-strength BORING?!?  Well, never fear!  America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, has done the Cliff's…Continue

Tags: bible, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Are You a Patriot? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris G Aug 29. 22 Replies

You might think that Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, would be stepping outside of her comfort zone in tackling the concept of patriotism.  As it turns out, not only does she have a proper handle on the term and its implications, she also…Continue

Tags: patriot, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

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Comment by Joan Denoo on August 4, 2012 at 10:32pm

sk8eycat, I had to look up, "Aspie" and read a couple of articles suggested by Google. Can you, if you want to, describe what Aspie means to you, how you experience it, does stress cause you problems, other than usual. Do you experience unusual giftedness in some area of your life? How has it held you back, and how has it put you forward?  I hope these aren't too personal. If so, just tell me to mind my own business. 
I like your business card idea, as well. 
Someone suggested a response to a religious person, "I respect you too much to not tell you I disagree with your statement." 

Comment by sk8eycat on August 4, 2012 at 9:24pm

I quit believing in the supernatural about 50 years ago, and then I noticed commentators on TV (when they still had real people doing the news...mostly) sometimes saying "Well, I don't agree with his beliefs, but I have to respect him for them."  And I started asking myself, "WHY?"  It was sort of their form of the knee-jerk, "Any religion is better than none" crap.  So I came up with this:


I should print it on business-size cards to hand out to the doorbell-ringers. 

(Oh, my nerves!  You all KNOW that my sister, who lives with me, is a Jehovah's Witless, AND an Aspie.  Such fun!)

Comment by sk8eycat on August 4, 2012 at 4:14pm

Oh, Melinda, don't do that to your mouth! It will damage your teeth. He's a self-righteous son of a something (I will NOT insult female dogs!), and not worth it.  I just wish the people in the stadium would boo and laugh at him.  Show-off.

The real thing that's p*ssing me off about quitting driving is that I really haven't saved all that much money.  Okay, no taxes, no gasoline, no insurance, no mantenance, BUT the price of food and meds keeps going up.

And when I quit driving last year I didn't have any I have two.  Good brands of litter are damned expensive; I won't use the clay crap...or even the crystals.  I get the brands that are biodegradable. (Wheat or Corn leavings...wonder what the disaster in the midwest is going to do to those products!)I am glad I adopted the old kitteh-men, though. Jerry is becoming a real comfort...just recently he's started sleeping in my arms, and that helps me go to sleep.  He's so soft!

Comment by sk8eycat on August 4, 2012 at 2:38pm

The "god did it" sounds too much like "god did it for ME."  It's very close to the theme of the last column Judy Hayes wrote titled, "I'm So blessed."  The kind of stupid things people say when they pass a test or something.  Yeah.  I'm blessed, and you're NOT.  Arrogant.

"God loves me and helped me win a gold-plated medal, and he lets 7 million children die of hunger and disease every year."

One of the things that opened my eyes 50 years ago was how self-centered Christians sounded to me when I stopped going to church regularly.  I cringed, and hoped I didn't do too much of that kind of god-talk when I was caught up in it.


When I was in Holiday, I used to see some of the European skaters quickly cross themselves just before the curtains opened for the opening number. I wodered if they were hoping it would help them skate well, or just protect them from falling on their a##es and looking stupid.

Comment by Ian Mason on August 4, 2012 at 1:31pm

Never really thought about it before reading posts here, this sport and God connection. Danish competitors have won a handfull of medals in rowing at the Olympics and have been interviewed for what seems like hours and all the talk is of "hard work" "deserved" "believed in ourselves" "believed we could" "a little bit of luck" and the like. The nearest there's been to religion has been a picture of two people praying (on others behalf) before an event. I can't imagine what it would be like hearing "God did it" so often.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on August 4, 2012 at 12:01pm

Sk8eycat, my little Toyota Corolla permanently went kaput eleven years ago and I never bothered to replace it.  I can't begin to imagine the amount of money I've saved by not having to pay for gas, insurance, municipal fees, and maintenance for ten-plus years.   

Comment by sk8eycat on August 4, 2012 at 11:27am

(Personal) News Item: I finally sold my old (and only) car to a wrecker yesterday.  I feel kinda like I had to have a pet euthanized....

BRB when I get used to it.


Comment by sk8eycat on August 4, 2012 at 11:06am

I don't think their imaginary friend is much of a sports fan.  She/he/it would rather watch sparrows fall.

Comment by Grinning Cat on August 4, 2012 at 11:01am

Of course, at every "important" game, half of the religious people offering prayers for their side to win are sure to be disappointed!

Comment by Ian Mason on August 4, 2012 at 3:51am

Spot on, Joan. So very well put.


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