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Hang With Friends

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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Goodwill to Few Men (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Donald R Barbera Jul 23. 3 Replies

Think Goodwill Industries does well by the poor?  Fact is, they do WAY BETTER for themselves, to the point where America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, thinks they're ripping off the christian playbook a bit too well!  Have a look for yourself:…Continue

Tags: ripoff, Goodwill Industries, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Plinius Jul 10. 12 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

losing faith (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jul 5. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees has recently begun producing a new series of YouTube videos, which added to a wonderful library of earlier observations regarding his experience of religion. Good as all those pieces are, I personally think they pale against this…Continue

Tags: story, history, faith, TheraminTrees

Betty Explains Religious Freedom (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jul 3. 10 Replies

Well, considering all the RFRA bills popping up all over the United States, plus all the fun and games ISIS is bringing to the good folks in Syria and Iraq, Betty Bowers, the epitome of well-dressed christianity, has decided to clarify the true…Continue

Tags: persecution, ISIS, Religious Freedom, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

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Comment by Loren Miller on Monday

Wow, hadn't heard about this at all.  Thanks a LOT for the info, Carl.  Next time you talk to her, let her know she's got smooches & hugs coming from me, along with my best wishes!

Comment by The Flying Atheist on Monday

Hello, Friends.  I just spoke on the telephone with Felaine.  She's at her local hospital in Burbank being treated for gangrene and a breathing issue.  She is in pain, but we shared a few laughs during our short conversation.  It's a great relief for me to hear her tell me that she feels she is getting top-notch medical care. 

She wanted me to say HELLO to all of you here.  Her trip to the hospital was sudden, so she was unable to plan ahead and notify us.  I took the liberty on behalf of everyone here to express how much we miss her and are concerned about her. 

I know it's difficult for her to not have access to a computer and the contact information for her friends.  She gave me her telephone number a few months back, so I was able to track her down through her sister. 

I got the impression that she may stay at the hospital for the remainder of this week, possibly a little longer.  I'm just so glad she's getting the care she needs.

I told Felaine I would post this message in Hang With Friends.  If all of you could please spread the news to other people and groups on Atheist/Nexus that she participates in, that would be wonderful. 

Comment by Ian Mason on Monday

How lovely your project sounds, Joan. I remember a quote from 'Zorba the Greek' On seeing an old man planting an orange tree, Zorba asks him why, as the old man will never eat the fruit. 'Me, I live as if I'm to die tomorrow' says Zorba. 'Me, I live as if I will live forever'  the old man replies. I (Ian) prefer the old man's atittude. As for my books: from my cold, dead hand.

Carl, it's true that we let friendships die, often because of no good reason. Perhaps maturity will make us more careful and attentive. Having said that, I think there's 2 or 3 mails I should write soon.

I hope nothing nasty has happened to Felaine. I don't know of anyone who could post a message on her behalf.

Comment by Joan Denoo on Monday

Life has been chaotic, interesting and fun! The greenhouse dome is finished and now to the building of the grow-beds. My son-in-law is a jewel of a man and skilled in many ways, and he is no carpenter. I watched him doing some carpentry work on one of the out-buildings, and it was comedic. He used up lots of feet of lumber trying to get a correct cut. The grow-beds are all about lengths, angles, and ratios. Not his best domain. The carpenters will come back after finishing another job. In the meantime, I can start some seeds outside in pots and seed trays and move them inside when we expect the first frost. 

It was bitterly cold yesterday. Far too cold for wanting to work with wet soil. The heat is expected to return tomorrow, and I will plant the seed today, crazy time to be planting some things and sensible, given the situation.

We had a big party for my great-granddaughter's first birthday on Sunday. What a sweet little girl, easy going, and a lovely child. Her inquisitive nature will be a curse or a blessing for her. Her mother is, as expected for a young, first-time mother, overly protective. Her family lives a few miles away, and her five cousins will offer her opportunities to explore and experiment. 

I will return to my book-filled home and start sorting out what I want to keep. I now have one bookcase in my bedroom with five shelves. Parting with my books seems to be harder for me than giving up my 41-year-old garden/meditation outdoor room. 

Creating a new garden at my age will be my last hurrah. 

There was an upgrade on my computer and I can't figure out how to get a photo. 

I wrote to Felaine; no answer. I am concerned and hope she got some medical help. This damned health system is so broken and she is caught in the web. I don't have her address or phone number or a way to talk to her sister. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on Monday

Randy, that's great you got to see an old friend after all these years and had a nice visit. 

I feel guilty that I've let some old and dear friendships slip away due to my own neglect for various reasons.  I know that as we age, friendships definitely ebb and flow with the times and some just fade away, some for good reason.  But I had many friendships that didn't deserve to vanish but did because I let them. 

Comment by Randall Smith on Monday

It was great seeing my old friend. Surprised to discover we both have 4 children, the first three females, then a male! We had many other similarities--twiced divorced, retired at the same age, etc. No wonder we were best friends way back then.

Why do we let those things happen? Nowadays, keeping "in touch" with old friends is so easy. Actually, without the internet, our get-together probably wouldn't have happened.

Comment by Randall Smith on July 25, 2015 at 7:54am

Having lunch today with one of my best friends from high school days. Haven't seen him in 54 years! We have lots of catching up to do!

Comment by Plinius on July 25, 2015 at 2:17am

Thanks Carl, good music! 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on July 24, 2015 at 9:18am

Some summer songs to get your weekend started right......

And one bonus song that is not summer related....but just too good to pass up......

Comment by Joan Denoo on July 23, 2015 at 3:30pm

Chris, your time of great stress took a lot more out of you than your iPod, forgetfulness is bad enough, and your family needs that stretched you so thin can knock even the most organized person. Good news that you can slow down and enjoy life, sort out old stuff and find such golden treasures. I think you had a good stress management process you used. 

Ian, I am such a book fanatic, all my walls have bookcases from floor to ceiling, wall to wall. Cary met the realtor who will manage the sale and reported back to me that the realtor remarked I have more books than some libraries. In 1975, when I started back to college and worked on family violence, not one library, public or private had any resources on that topic. I had to send to others libraries for inter-library loans. My reference material is now out of date and I doubt they will have any resale value. We plan to box up the lot that have barcodes and send them to a place that contacts book-sellers.  

Randy, I am a hoarder, but I am an orderly hoarder. My family will be meeting at the house August 1 to pack up the things I want to keep, plan a garage sale for things I don't want, box up the older books to give to American Association of University Women, and give my old business suits and dresses to The Hearth that gives them to women in transition and looking for work. All my garden equipment will come with me. 

I haven't heard from Felaine, for the last couple of weeks. Here is the most recent message she sent: 

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My Mom's family were "Okies" who moved west to escape the Dust Bowl..  She could never bear to talk about it.  Nor could her sister and 4 brothers.  The brothers could talk about WW2 (they were all i...

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