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Degrees of Doubt: The Claims and Credentials of Ravi Zacharias (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris May 17. 1 Reply

Anyone here ever run onto an apologist by the name of Ravi Zacharias?  I've seen his name dropped multiple times on YouTube as supposedly being THE ONE APOLOGIST that no atheist wants to cross swords with, because of his facility with christian…Continue

Tags: Ravi Zacharias, Steve Baughman, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

The Most Hated Woman in America (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Gary S Apr 19. 7 Replies

Before Aron Ra and Matt Dillahunty, before Dawkins or Dennett or Harris or even Hitchens, there was Madalyn Murray O'Hair.  In the midst of an America where Christianity was being flaunted as a defense against the godless communists of the Soviet…Continue

Tags: Frank Zindler, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, Madalyn Murray O'Hair

Proud Dad is REALLY Proud Now!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Todd Williams Apr 12. 16 Replies

As some of you may or may not know, my daughter is a television news producer, currently working in Nashville, Tennessee.  Her assignment is the morning news, which means she blasts herself up at umpti-ump in the morning to organize and prepare a…Continue

Tags: Emmy, news, television, daughter, dad

attacking ideas (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Apr 4. 1 Reply

Attacking ideas is a considerable portion of what we as atheists do.  Why attack ideas?  Ideas earn attack when they don't serve people, not just us but those who adopt said ideas, mistakenly thinking that they have value when they don't.  Our…Continue

Tags: ideas, Islam, TheraminTrees

bending truth, or "We Can All Be Manipulated" (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Apr 4. 40 Replies

The following is one of TheraminTrees' most thorough-going pieces, wherein he looks at the process and techniques whereby a "religious" organization (which will sound VERY familiar to most of us, once introductions are made!) takes a person who…Continue

Tags: indoctrination, truth, manipulation, TheraminTrees

The Playboy Interview: Richard Dawkins

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Mar 28. 16 Replies

I suppose it was the news that Playboy magazine was returning nudes to its pages after a year's hiatus that sufficiently perked my curiosity to check them out again.  I hadn't looked at Playboy since perhaps 2008, when I began to recognize that I…Continue

Tags: Richard Dawkins, Playboy

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Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on February 18, 2015 at 9:42pm

Good luck with your snow-bound days, k.h. ky.

Ian, I’m glad your family is hanging in there.

I’m happy to see you back, Flying Atheist! I wouldn’t go so far as to assume “long-standing and festering personality and character issues”. We all have a suite of communications and thought tools, some better than others. Just one instance of using a poor tool can generate a landslide of pain. I remember an argument I had with my husband, years ago. He used one blaming word, in 20 minutes, and that one word hung me up as if a nail through my heart. He’s a highly skilled psychologist with graduate training in communications skills. It wasn’t until I’d worked out with him how that word hit me, and he retracted it, that we could reach an understanding and forgive one another.

So I urge you not to imagine deep seated festering character issues on the basis of a verbal argument. Just one or two poor choices can create an escalating painful episode, where pain makes us less and less able to communicate as adults, makes us regress and forget our skills. Very few people have the good fortune to study communications skills at the graduate level. We use the thought and word tools we’ve learned, and those toolkits can include blaming, defining the other person or ourselves by a few poor choices, invidious comparison, etc. It doesn’t mean we’re defective people, any more than we’d be defective people because we never learned gourmet cooking or computer programming.

This medium, of black and white words on a screen, is far more difficult to navigate emotionally than being face to face. It’s easy to offend at a distance, just as shouting insults from a hilltop is easy. We primates evolved means of reconciling differences and making up with nonverbal cues and touch, which require close contact. As I see it all of us are doing the best we can to be friends in this difficult medium.  

Joan, thanks for your support. :)

Love the African proverb, Plinius. Thanks.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 18, 2015 at 12:08pm

Chris, a wonderful poster! Thanks. 

Comment by Plinius on February 18, 2015 at 4:53am

Glad to see Ian feels better and Carl is back!

I'd miss you all very much, so don't disappear!

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 18, 2015 at 3:12am

Ian, Happy to learn things settled down in your family and that you have contact with a nephew and keep in touch. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 18, 2015 at 3:05am

Ruth, as usual your good sense and calm manner rise to the occasion. You know how fond I am of you and am very glad you are in my life. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 18, 2015 at 3:01am

Carl, I am so relieved to read your words. I was the one who dug into the story and reported back what I found and I am so very sorry that I did that. I didn't know what to think and wanted more information. Well, obviously, I got into a fake report and made matters worse. 

My memory is really going, or I don't think I read ugly remarks. I know I didn't read anything that Patricia or Mindy said. I did read Felains alarm and thought it appropriate tho strong. That was Felaine being Felain and I mean that in a loving way. That is why I wanted to know what happened to the dog. This is another case of Joan being Joan. Just the facts, no drama, just accurate detail. 

I feel like an old mother hen who wants to keep her flock together and not pulling out each others feathers. Well, for gosh sakes, I am entitled. I am an old 79-year old woman who has seen trouble.

Carl, I hope you forgive my for my part in the kerfuffle.

How are you feeling now? What is your next milepost?

Comment by Ian Mason on February 17, 2015 at 9:41pm

Good to hear from you, Carl and glad that your break wasn't caused by health problems. 

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on February 17, 2015 at 8:02pm

Hate to rub it in, but it hit 64 degrees today and it was gorgeous. Getting lots of yardwork done.

Comment by k.h. ky on February 17, 2015 at 7:59pm
Berthold, I absolutely agree with that! We got 13 inches of snow the last 24 hours with another 2-3 inches predicted tonight. Then our temps will drop below zero :(
Comment by Bertold Brautigan on February 17, 2015 at 7:48pm

Thanks for articulating your thoughts, Carl. I had also thought being atheist at least to some extent entailed realizing life is too short for petty bullshit.

 

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