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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Mental health in the age of violence: Dr. Elliott Ingersol

Started by Loren Miller 21 hours ago. 0 Replies

I literally just discovered Dr. Elliott Ingersol yesterday, as a part of a discussion I had with other members of the Northern Ohio Freethought Society.  Dr. Ingersol is a licensed psychologist and clinical counselor in Ohio, as well as a professor…Continue

Tags: talk, psychotropic, therapy, psychology, Elliott Ingersol

maggie and milly and molly and may (Edward Estlin Cummings & Eric Whitacre)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 20. 2 Replies

It's amazing what you discover when you go looking for something you had no idea you'd find.  On an impulse, I pulled up Eric Whitacre's website to see if he had created any new pieces.  It would seem that he has: a song cycle called The City and…Continue

Tags: e e cummings, Eric Whitacre

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISIS

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Randall Smith Nov 18. 1 Reply

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISISGrowth in population, policies and practices that create a gap between the typical person and the wealthy,…Continue

Passive and Active voices

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 16. 1 Reply

Have you noticed that much of the discussion in families and with friends, in the print media, on TV, and now on the internet is in the Passive Voice? Many people whine, complain, gripe, accuse, blame, call names, ridicule, grumble, bitch, rebuke,…Continue

Tags: and, behaviors, communication., attitudes, learned

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by The Flying Atheist Nov 14. 2 Replies

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested"In 2009, a Wayne County assistant prosecuting attorney noticed…Continue

Tags: women, Enough, SAID, black, victims

Something Beautiful – Nathan Phelps & Seth Andrews

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 10. 7 Replies

And it is beautiful, too, indeed, I think some of Seth Andrews' best work.  Interesting point: rather than Seth's dulcet baritone doing the narration, this piece presses Nathan Phelps' deep bass intonation into service, bringing a different flavor…Continue

Tags: Nathan Phelps, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, beautiful, something

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Comment by Idaho Spud on May 21, 2014 at 6:55am

Joan, thanks for your explanation of why we don't have free will.  I'm starting to grasp what's meant by that.  Since getting rid of religion, I'm getting better at using my reasoning mind to determine what's true and what's false.  My stress level is also reduced, and I'm trying to reduce it further.

Comment by Idaho Spud on May 21, 2014 at 6:48am

Felaine, that's a good bit of sarcasm. 

Comment by Ian Mason on May 20, 2014 at 11:57pm

I've had a very good week away: seen the sights of Istanbul - Blue Mosque, Aya Sophia, Topkapi Palace, Museum of Archeology. Mosaics Museum, Museum of Modern Art - plus taken a couple of trips, to Gallipoli and to the ruins of Troy. Also took a walk to Taksim square where many demonstrations have taken place. When I tried to get close to the monument in the middle to see what it was I was politely told to leave by plain-clothes coppers. When I lookes round I could see that there was a large police presence around the square. The penny dropped. They were afraid that the coal-miner protests were going to spread.

Gallipoli was very moving.  It made me think of Hamlet:

"We go to gain a little patch of ground/that hath in it no profit but the name"

1,500 ANZACs and 3,000 Turks died in 3 days of fighting for a position the size of 3 football pitches at Lone Pine; at The Nek 450 ANZACs died trying to capture a piece of ground the size of 2 tennis courts. In all, 37,000 Allied troops and over 80,000 Turkish were died in a pointless campaign, Churchill's biggest f*** up in the meat-grinder that was WW1.

Lone Pine Memorial:

Comment by Ian Mason on May 20, 2014 at 11:28pm

That particular cake is almond, eaten with tea while looking out over the Bosphorus from the Topkapi Palace museum.

Comment by sk8eycat on May 20, 2014 at 7:17pm


Comment by Joan Denoo on May 20, 2014 at 6:57pm
Spud, it is important that we understand that we do NOT have free will. That is a construct of religious dogma telling people they have choices in how they feel, think and act. Their god gets off the hook when people behave in ways unacceptable to their clan rules.
There are influences in our genetic code of which we are not aware that create feelings that are based on things from our historic past. We have no control over those feelings because they come from the code.
I am not saying a person is not responsible for their actions, I am saying people are not responsible for their feelings.
Robert Sapolsky speaks to these influences from each individual's past. When his statement sturck a nurve in you, it was a perfect example of which he speaks. In the case of Holland's Winter of Hunger, there was a genetic change that can be documented through DNA tests. Who knows how many of us have stress related DNA changes caused by things that happened in generations previous to ours.
The skill required is to recognize the stress and anxiety that we feel that comes from the brain's amygdala, learn how to manage the stress with our reasoning mind, and make decisions and take action with those cognitive processes.
Sam Harris speaks to this,
"Sam Harris argues that this truth about the human mind does not undermine morality or diminish the importance of social and political freedom, but it can and should change the way we think about some of the most important questions in life."
Comment by sk8eycat on May 20, 2014 at 6:02pm

The only tricksters I enjoy are stage magicians, illusionists, and sleight of hand artists.  I love to sit there wondering, "How the *bleep!* did they DO that?" 

People who pretend, or believe, they can contact spirits, or read minds, or whatever annoy me.  Especially so-called pet psychics. 


Welcome back, Ian.  Now please tell me what that dish is; I'm hungry.

Comment by Ian Mason on May 20, 2014 at 3:09pm

Hello everyone. I'm back from a week in Istanbul. Had a great time and here's the reason why:

Comment by k.h. ky on May 20, 2014 at 1:23pm
Good one Booklover.
Comment by Plinius on May 20, 2014 at 9:41am

No, I can get fascinated by frauds too - and their audiences. The world is full of idiots doing senseless things and getting exited about it, like buying wedding dresses or other useless things. I can enjoy watching them. 


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