Hang With Friends

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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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maggie and milly and molly and may (Edward Estlin Cummings & Eric Whitacre)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 20. 2 Replies

It's amazing what you discover when you go looking for something you had no idea you'd find.  On an impulse, I pulled up Eric Whitacre's website to see if he had created any new pieces.  It would seem that he has: a song cycle called The City and…Continue

Tags: e e cummings, Eric Whitacre

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISIS

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Randall Smith Nov 18. 1 Reply

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISISGrowth in population, policies and practices that create a gap between the typical person and the wealthy,…Continue

Passive and Active voices

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 16. 1 Reply

Have you noticed that much of the discussion in families and with friends, in the print media, on TV, and now on the internet is in the Passive Voice? Many people whine, complain, gripe, accuse, blame, call names, ridicule, grumble, bitch, rebuke,…Continue

Tags: and, behaviors, communication., attitudes, learned

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by The Flying Atheist Nov 14. 2 Replies

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested"In 2009, a Wayne County assistant prosecuting attorney noticed…Continue

Tags: women, Enough, SAID, black, victims

Something Beautiful – Nathan Phelps & Seth Andrews

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 10. 7 Replies

And it is beautiful, too, indeed, I think some of Seth Andrews' best work.  Interesting point: rather than Seth's dulcet baritone doing the narration, this piece presses Nathan Phelps' deep bass intonation into service, bringing a different flavor…Continue

Tags: Nathan Phelps, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, beautiful, something

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Joan Denoo Oct 27. 14 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on May 9, 2014 at 1:20pm

Oh! my goodness! Problems go unsolved, Conflicts escalate! Inefficient and ineffective social services abound!

What is one to do? 

Curl up under the covers and peek out only to go potty and pour something in to be excreted? 

Pretend everything is good? 

Deny any problems or conflicts exist? 

Sit down, breath deeply, enjoy the breath, recognize life continues to exist even as challenges reign? 

Join with others who experience the same problems and conflicts?

Find people with different but similar challenges? 

Write a book? Poem? Song? 

Look realistically at what one has, what one needs, how to get basic needs met? 

Cry? Whine? Complain? Blame? Accuse?

Confront? Take a stand? Insist on being heard? 

Refuse to be trivialized, discounted, demonized?

Given what is real, how do I, as an individual, find joy, peace, community, meaning, purpose? 

I don't know? 

Comment by sk8eycat on May 9, 2014 at 10:35am

Mindy, I've been a member of the Church of the Innersprings for decades.  Love it!  Now, if I could just teach the cats to bring me breakfast in bed (but NOT kibble!  I want waffles with fresh strawberries, and hot tea!  Perhaps some chai...)

Comment by Plinius on May 9, 2014 at 8:59am

Beautiful picture, Randall, thanks. And get better soon, FA!

Comment by Randall Smith on May 9, 2014 at 7:59am

Friends, the sun WILL rise again to brighten your days!

Comment by The Flying Atheist on May 9, 2014 at 2:53am

Yes, it appears this has been a bad week for several of us.  I missed two days of work because I wasn't feeling well.  I spent most of this week sleeping and hardly got anything done that I wanted to. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on May 9, 2014 at 2:24am

Sk8eycat, we have Peapod here in the Chicago area.  It's an online grocery and delivery service.  I've never used it but many times have sworn that I was going to sign up for it.  I imagine there must be a similar service in a city the size of L.A.  It may be cheaper to have your groceries delivered rather than paying for a cab.  Just a thought.

Comment by Plinius on May 9, 2014 at 2:07am

Difficult days for Ruth, Ian and Mindy. I had one of those days yesterday. We had a meeting about and with brother-in-law, plus a therapist, a psychologist, etc. He has been a model patient till last week when he picked a quarrel with a nurse.... about nothing of course, but he is also an Asperger patient. So when everyone wanted to discuss and organize things, brother-in-law was screaming murder and repeating every unimportant detail in a voice that could be heard in the whole building. So today I am dizzy with a blinding headache. It depresses me very much, having to care for someone to stubborn to see what needs to be done. 

My story - who's next? ;-S

Comment by Ian Mason on May 9, 2014 at 12:58am

Rant away, dear friends. It's good to get those feelings out and know that others understand. I hope you are ready to get back into the fray. My poor sister-in-law in England, who isn't a well woman to start with, has been driven close to distraction by the pure incometence she's had to battle with r.e. my mother. Private care-home, public social services, seem to care about doing a decent job except those at the basic, hands-on carer level. With that kind of work (the same job I have) when the shit hits the floor (literally) there's only you to clean it up. No telephone, computer or paperwork to hide behind.

Hugs, understanding and good wishes to all.

Comment by sk8eycat on May 8, 2014 at 11:59pm

I have only Medicareless parts A and B...NO Rx insurance (Part D). When that first went into effect, my doctor warned me that it was a scam to benefit the pharmaceutical and insurance companies, NOT the patient.  Pharmaceutical companies are required to provide prescribed meds to low-income patients at no cost, and no questions asked, except one's total annual household income.  My sister and I are so far below the poverty level that we're I've been getting my diabetes meds from Pfiser for free for 14 years. 

And we can get proper groceries once a month from a local aid center (NOT the county "food bank," that hands out mostly carbohydrates and sugary cereals)...IF  I can get a ride, and help carrying the bags.

I just feel guilty asking friends for a ride...but I became frightened of driving my huge old car a few years ago, so I sold it to a junker...and now I beg rides, or take taxis.  (It cost me $40 ...including go to my doctor today.)

The good news is that my A1c has been perfect for more than a year...the bad news is that I've gained 12 lbs since February.  I don't know how I did that...haven't changed my diet at all.

And that's my rant for now.  I need to share some hugs with you all...sounds like we need them.


Thank you.  <3

Comment by The Flying Atheist on May 8, 2014 at 11:45pm

Geez, Ruth.  I know exactly how you feel.  I think we've all had to put up with that type of treatment, and not just from he medical industry.  I hope your situation finally gets resolved to your satisfaction.  In the mean time. if you need to rant, you know we're here for you.  

Mindy, my grocery budget certainly seems to get less bang for my buck these days as well.  I go to the store, spend a wad of money, and when I get home, it seems like I hardly have anything to show for it.  I don't have a car, so thankfully the grocery store is basically right around the corner.  I'm there several times a week buying what I can walk home with.  I consciously try really hard not to buy frivolously since a large portion of my food bill is spent eating out while traveling, which is obviously more expensive.

I hope Sunday morning you'll once again be attending services at The Church of the Internet Provider.   


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