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A Prayer for Our Nation (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Patricia on Tuesday. 1 Reply

I'm going to keep this one short and sweet.  Mrs. Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, has seen what is going on with the current occupant of the Oval Office, and my impression is that she is not at all happy with it.  True to her citizenship,…Continue

Tags: prayer, Donald Trump, Oval Office, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Any Babymetal Fans Here?

Started by Bruce Carroll. Last reply by Idaho Spud Sep 12. 5 Replies

Any Babymetal fans here besides me? I have to ask because 1) I really like Babymetal and 2) Babymetal unknowingly played a role in my journey out of religion.For those who are unfamiliar with Babymetal, here is a link to one of their most popular…Continue

Tags: Japanese Idol, Babymetal

If you could rid the world of one thing, what would it be?

Started by Idaho Spud. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Sep 11. 30 Replies

Today, I heard Seth Andrews talk about the question, "If you could rid the world of one thing, what would it be?"  My first thought was religion, but after a few seconds I decided it would be irrational or anti-scientific thinking.  That would take…Continue

Tags: anti-scientific, irrational

Ignorance is Bliss: Why Religious People Seem Happier Than the 'Nones'”.

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Sep 11. 16 Replies

“Highly Religious Volunteer More, Lie Less, and Claim to Be Happier”~ Houston Chronicle; “Strongly Religious People are Happier than Non-Religious”  ~ Christian Daily."The study determined that 40 percent of highly religious adults—defined as those…Continue

Tags: Nones, happiness, non-religiosity, religiosity, bliss

Eating Our Own: How You Can Save the Movement (David Smalley | The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Daniel W Aug 27. 11 Replies

While I've been peripherally aware of him for a while, David Smalley has not spent much time in the center of my focus when it came to scoping out atheist material on YouTube or elsewhere ... at least up until now.  His talk – Eating Our Own – came…Continue

Tags: Seth Andrews, The Thinking Atheist, Eating Our Own, David Smalley

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Comment by kathy: ky on February 17, 2015 at 7:39pm
Carl, I'm glad your health hasn't taken a sudden turn for the worse. Isn't family the most wonderful thing?
I hope you're feeling stronger.
Comment by The Flying Atheist on February 17, 2015 at 6:42pm

Hello, everyone.  I'm back from a little break which I felt I needed after the recent blow-up here.  I was quite shocked at the response to that stupid dog gif I posted.  The reaction, I thought, was overly emotional and hyperbolic.  To me it was visually obvious that the cranking of the dog's tail was just pretend, and that the dog, its tail and spine were not being physically harmed or twisted in any manner.  Furthermore, like icing on the cake, I was even more astonished that shortly afterward, a post appeared addressing the issue of sexual abuse of dogs and bestiality (!), as if that topic was somehow related.  At that point I felt I needed a break from the insanity.  Abuse of animals is an important topic, but I think the dog gif I posted was the wrong springboard to start that conversation. 

I also have read Ruth's post, Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors.  In it she makes an important statement:  "As I see it, the video wasn't the real cause of our problem." 

Obviously, there were some other long-standing and festering personality and character issues that surfaced via an ugly display of nasty personal comments.  That exchange took on a life of its own, leaving me at a loss for words.  I'm deeply saddened that, as a result, we have lost not only members from our group but persons who we consider to be our friends.

Whether you agree with my above-stated opinions or not, I'm glad I could finally sit down and express my feelings.      

Comment by Ian Mason on February 17, 2015 at 10:42am

Thank you, everyone. I've chatted with my nephew and it seems that his heart episode should be a one-off event. (I had one like it years ago. Hasn't happened since) His 17 y.o. cousin is out of hospital although still under doctor's care. My brother and his wife are, it seems, coping as well as possible but are in bed and asleep before 10 p.m. every evening. They need the rest, especially my brother who is up at 5 a.m. for work. I'll get updates from my nephew as and when things change.

Thanks again, lovely people.

Comment by Plinius on February 17, 2015 at 7:53am

A cartfull of bad trouble in your family, Ian! It doesn't feel good when your help is unwanted, but it doesn't mean you are unwanted.

Comment by Randall Smith on February 17, 2015 at 7:39am

Yikes, Ian. Perhaps a phone call, email, or letter might be appropriate and appreciated. Shows you're thinking of them.

Yes, I had a feeling we'd lose Mindy. I'm still in a state of shock over all the fuss. On my old blog site, I made a mortal enemy when I mentioned the words "will power" when trying to lose weight, like "you gotta have...". Now, I can make new enemies over here!

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 16, 2015 at 10:37pm

Ian, sorry to learn of your family members with a lung infection, another with heart irregularities at 22 y.o., a collapsed lung in their 17 y.o. nephew., an elderly father in a care home, and their dog, old, ailing and incontinent. It sounds as though they need quiet and rest. Perhaps there is another way you can give them support and encouragement. The information that now is not a good time for you to visit them reflects respect for you, even as you could help in some way. 

With all that you list indicates these are long term problems and they may need your help at some future time. In the meantime, keep yourself healthy, your spirits up, and focus on letting them know you are available when/if they need you. 

I'm glad you shared your feelings with us; this is a good place to express your disappointment. 

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on February 16, 2015 at 10:02pm

I'd give your family their space, Ian. I know when I'm sick I don't really want company. It can be stressful to have visitors, even people you love, when your stress level is already over the top. Thanks for sharing.

Comment by Ian Mason on February 16, 2015 at 3:24pm

Something personal. Feeling a bit rejected. I mailed my brother and his wife about going over and they've asked me not to. Everything bad seems to be happening to them. My sister in law has had 2 weeks in bed with a lung infection. Their eldest son is being checked and scanned for heart irregularities (he's 22) Their 17 y.o. nephew is in hospital with a collapsed lung. My s-i-l's dad is now in a care home. The dog is old, ailing and almost incontinent. I understand that they don't want to entertain guests but also felt that as family I could support or help in some way. I must allow them that they know best what they can and can't cope with amid an avalanche of woes. They're really feeling the pressure. Makes all my problems seem petty in comparison.

That's better: got that off my chest.

Comment by Ian Mason on February 16, 2015 at 3:14pm

No, not going to Copenhagen. It's a long and expensive trip.

I too would like to hear from Carl again. He's going through a hard time and I'm concerned.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 16, 2015 at 1:57pm

I haven't heard from Carl since he sent me a message that he wanted to discuss the video with everyone but didn't have the energy at that time. I haven't heard from him since. 

I am no longer able to contact Mindy. She had given me her Facebook information and we had some very special conversations until my responses to her were blocked. 

I am sorry that I raised the question and that I tried to find what really happened. My concern backfired on me big time. 

Carl, I am concerned about you, I hope you feel better. I especially look forward to seeing you able to get on with whatever the doctors advice. You are the same age as my three children and I kind of think of you as family. I apologize to you if I contributed to your distress. 

 

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