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Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Grinning Cat 19 hours ago. 99 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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A Powerful Message from an old wise teacher :

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Plinius Sep 28. 8 Replies

I received a gift this morning from a virtual friend, Pamela Smith:A Powerful Message from an old wise teacher :" One day an old wise teacher was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have…Continue

Speak English? YOU FIRST! (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Donald R Barbera Sep 27. 5 Replies

Honestly, the title to this piece is badly under-representative of the content.  To be far more accurate, what we have here is Mrs. Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, going on a rant.  Before you say it ... Say WHAAAA?  Betty Bowers ranting? …Continue

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10 Things About Patriotism (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Plinius Sep 26. 2 Replies

It seems as though lately, Mrs. Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, is evolving into America's Best Patriot.  She has recently been taking some fairly well-aimed shots at a certain Orange Nightmare and his sycophantic hangers-on, regarding the…Continue

Tags: patriotism, Donald Trump, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

A Prayer for Our Nation (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Sep 21. 2 Replies

I'm going to keep this one short and sweet.  Mrs. Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, has seen what is going on with the current occupant of the Oval Office, and my impression is that she is not at all happy with it.  True to her citizenship,…Continue

Tags: prayer, Donald Trump, Oval Office, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Any Babymetal Fans Here?

Started by Bruce Carroll. Last reply by Idaho Spud Sep 12. 5 Replies

Any Babymetal fans here besides me? I have to ask because 1) I really like Babymetal and 2) Babymetal unknowingly played a role in my journey out of religion.For those who are unfamiliar with Babymetal, here is a link to one of their most popular…Continue

Tags: Japanese Idol, Babymetal

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Comment by Joan Denoo on February 20, 2015 at 9:07pm

I guess I am going to have to do a little hunting to find out "50 shades of pink" means before I get the point. 

Comment by Loren Miller on February 20, 2015 at 8:56pm

Considering a recent release at the movies, I thought the following might be ... well ... interesting, if nothing else.

Comment by Ian Mason on February 19, 2015 at 12:05pm

Many wise words today. Thank you.

I'm stealing "go far" it's so good.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on February 18, 2015 at 9:42pm

Good luck with your snow-bound days, k.h. ky.

Ian, I’m glad your family is hanging in there.

I’m happy to see you back, Flying Atheist! I wouldn’t go so far as to assume “long-standing and festering personality and character issues”. We all have a suite of communications and thought tools, some better than others. Just one instance of using a poor tool can generate a landslide of pain. I remember an argument I had with my husband, years ago. He used one blaming word, in 20 minutes, and that one word hung me up as if a nail through my heart. He’s a highly skilled psychologist with graduate training in communications skills. It wasn’t until I’d worked out with him how that word hit me, and he retracted it, that we could reach an understanding and forgive one another.

So I urge you not to imagine deep seated festering character issues on the basis of a verbal argument. Just one or two poor choices can create an escalating painful episode, where pain makes us less and less able to communicate as adults, makes us regress and forget our skills. Very few people have the good fortune to study communications skills at the graduate level. We use the thought and word tools we’ve learned, and those toolkits can include blaming, defining the other person or ourselves by a few poor choices, invidious comparison, etc. It doesn’t mean we’re defective people, any more than we’d be defective people because we never learned gourmet cooking or computer programming.

This medium, of black and white words on a screen, is far more difficult to navigate emotionally than being face to face. It’s easy to offend at a distance, just as shouting insults from a hilltop is easy. We primates evolved means of reconciling differences and making up with nonverbal cues and touch, which require close contact. As I see it all of us are doing the best we can to be friends in this difficult medium.  

Joan, thanks for your support. :)

Love the African proverb, Plinius. Thanks.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 18, 2015 at 12:08pm

Chris, a wonderful poster! Thanks. 

Comment by Plinius on February 18, 2015 at 4:53am

Glad to see Ian feels better and Carl is back!

I'd miss you all very much, so don't disappear!

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 18, 2015 at 3:12am

Ian, Happy to learn things settled down in your family and that you have contact with a nephew and keep in touch. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 18, 2015 at 3:05am

Ruth, as usual your good sense and calm manner rise to the occasion. You know how fond I am of you and am very glad you are in my life. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 18, 2015 at 3:01am

Carl, I am so relieved to read your words. I was the one who dug into the story and reported back what I found and I am so very sorry that I did that. I didn't know what to think and wanted more information. Well, obviously, I got into a fake report and made matters worse. 

My memory is really going, or I don't think I read ugly remarks. I know I didn't read anything that Patricia or Mindy said. I did read Felains alarm and thought it appropriate tho strong. That was Felaine being Felain and I mean that in a loving way. That is why I wanted to know what happened to the dog. This is another case of Joan being Joan. Just the facts, no drama, just accurate detail. 

I feel like an old mother hen who wants to keep her flock together and not pulling out each others feathers. Well, for gosh sakes, I am entitled. I am an old 79-year old woman who has seen trouble.

Carl, I hope you forgive my for my part in the kerfuffle.

How are you feeling now? What is your next milepost?

Comment by Ian Mason on February 17, 2015 at 9:41pm

Good to hear from you, Carl and glad that your break wasn't caused by health problems. 

 

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