Hang With Friends

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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

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The End of the World ... Again?!?

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by The Flying Atheist 3 hours ago. 11 Replies

Uh, guys and gals?  Hate to tell you, but the world ended the other day.  And the hell of it is, I MISSED IT!  Yeah, too busy with other stuff, mowing the lawn, enjoying the company of my wife, and taking care of puddy-cats, and I just MISSED it!One…Continue

Tags: AronRa, prophecy, end of the world

bending truth, or "We Can All Be Manipulated" (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner 23 hours ago. 2 Replies

The following is one of TheraminTrees' most thorough-going pieces, wherein he looks at the process and techniques whereby a "religious" organization (which will sound VERY familiar to most of us, once introductions are made!) takes a person who…Continue

Tags: indoctrination, truth, manipulation, TheraminTrees

Sam Harris The Case Against Christianity

Started by dudaboli yev. Last reply by Donald R Barbera Sep 30. 1 Reply

Sam Harris The Case Against Christianity Sam Harris offers his case against the Christian god conceptSamuel Benjamin "Sam" Harris is an American author, neuroscientist, philosopher, the co-founder and chief executive of Project Reason, a non-profit…Continue

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by amer chohan Sep 2. 13 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

An AN member passed away

Started by Deidre. Last reply by Deidre Aug 18. 4 Replies

Went into the chat room last Friday night, for the first time in a while, and learned that Mequa passed away. I had been good friends with him for a time, but we had differences and stopped talking back in the spring of this year. I knew however,…Continue

A Parable by Mrs. Betty Bowers

Started by Loren Miller Aug 17. 0 Replies

Betty Bowers is becoming SO GOOD at delivering as America's Best Christian, she now does 30-second parables!  (Okay, 32 seconds!  Picky, picky!) Have You Had YOUR Betty Today?Continue

Tags: bible, parable, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

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Comment by Joan Denoo on December 21, 2013 at 12:14am

You make good points Loren. Perhaps I am naive to think that believers will read and care about the issues I share with family and friends. I get a larger response, almost all positive from Twitter than I do from Facebook. 

You have always graciously agreed when I request to share your writings with Facebook and Twitter. Have you had any negative response from either site? 

I don't often get responses, but I do get requests to be a friend, and when I read their home page I select those who seem to have healthy correspondence going on there. I don't respond to the ones who appear to be wanting to pick a fight or get into the tent of non-believers. 

I could be wrong and welcome any feedback. I definitely value your judgement. 

Comment by Loren Miller on December 20, 2013 at 9:56pm

Mindy, my apologies ... but I will have NOTHING to do with Facebook, and for the same reason that I don't engage theists on other boards in discussion or debate.  I did that for four years on The Experience Project and it was largely wasted time, made worse by an administration that clearly favored the theists over the atheists while thinking they were being egalitarian.  I'll grant you that there may be onlookers who may benefit, but if they can't be bothered to identify themselves or at least express some appreciation for my effort, frankly, it is not worth it to me.

When the Jehovah's Witlesses come to my door, they get their asses handed to them, but then, they came to MY door, decided to argue their bullshit on MY turf, and deserve everything they have coming to them.  That doesn't mean that I perforce go out looking for confrontation.  I don't.

I don't start fights.  I finish them.

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 20, 2013 at 9:33pm

According to the Farmer's Almanac, the shortest day of the year, the Winter Solstice, the time when the Earth spends two days in the same relationship to the Sun is  ..... drum roll please ....

December Winter Solstice is on Saturday,

December 21, 2013 at 17:11 UTC

December 21, 2013 at 9:11 AM Pacific Standard Time 

Please correct me if I am wrong. 

Days will start to get longer and longer and longer and longer .............

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 20, 2013 at 7:55pm

Loren, you say it so clearly! I would only add:

"Do you really believe in a supernatural god? 

"Can there actually be a virgin birth? 

"Surely you can't believe in a spirit world? 

"Don't you think the devil is a construct of a fear filled person?

"Do you put your trust in a story that came out of a desert people 2,000 years ago? 

"Do you actually believe the Earth is 6,000 years old? 

"Will Stone age people's solutions solve today's problems? 

"Do you actually believe in miracles? 

"Where is the evidence? 

"Have you ever read the scriptures? 

"When are you going to give up childish things and think as an adult? 

"I respect you too much to listen to this nonsense!

I want to force a person to think. I really don't care if they have an answer for me because I won't be around to hear it. I certainly don't want them around me or on my internet strings. Thankfully, it is easy to block nonsense. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 20, 2013 at 7:43pm

Mindy, yes, this is a good place to come and explode in disgust and whatever the feeling. 

I also think it is quite appropriate to state, directly to the one that ticks you off, that you don't like it. Point out exactly what you don't like, You don't need to say why, that is pointless to get into that because he/she will just come back with some sort of denial or defense.  

Just a very simple script: 

"When you  ... say, do, or share an offensive piece ... or whatever. 

"I feel  ... disgust, revulsion, insulted, nauseated ... or whatever. 

"I want you to ... stop, quit, apologize, discontinue, ... or whatever. 

"If you don't ... stop, I will block your site ... or whatever. 

Just remember, 7,200,803,677 other human beings inhabit the Earth and you don't have to put up with any one!!!!! 

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 20, 2013 at 7:29pm

Loren, your music selections refresh me. You have a real ear for beautiful sounds, calm moods, I like your offerings very much. Thanks. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 20, 2013 at 6:46pm

I saw this today and it seems to be particularity appropriate right now. 

Comment by Loren Miller on December 20, 2013 at 6:19pm

To those who wish to assert that shaming religions as silly and not real is not okay:

  • Have you actually READ your holy book?
  • Have you seen some of the utterly ridiculous things it asserts?
    • Talking donkeys and snakes
    • People who live for centuries
    • Creation that took seven days (with no evidentiary support) as opposed to 13.7 billion years (and enormous volumes of evidence)
    • Proscriptions for things like pork, shellfish, and wearing clothes made of two different materials
    • Too many other things to name
  • Are you prepared to offer satisfactory proof that they are for real?

If not, we suggest you either get used to it ... or rethink your attachment to a ridiculous, millennia-old myth.

Comment by Loren Miller on December 19, 2013 at 9:24pm

More delicious music from my all-time favorite jazz ensemble, Oregon:

Comment by sk8eycat on December 19, 2013 at 5:19pm

Oh, that is SO true!  My best friend for the last 10 years is a man  in DC...we talk on the phone a lot, but we've never met face to face, or I would have hugged him and never let go.  We"met" on an atheist forum that no longer exists.  I have 2 or 3 longtime friends from that forum, and we all keep each other hanging onto life when things get rough.

I just thought of a line from one of Armistead Maupin's "Tales of the City" books, "I'd rather have 5 good friends than one mediocre lover."  I've got the friends...gave up on lovers so long ago I can't remember who the last one was; just that he was worse than average.



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