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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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An AN member passed away

Started by Deidre. Last reply by Deidre Aug 18. 4 Replies

Went into the chat room last Friday night, for the first time in a while, and learned that Mequa passed away. I had been good friends with him for a time, but we had differences and stopped talking back in the spring of this year. I knew however,…Continue

A Parable by Mrs. Betty Bowers

Started by Loren Miller Aug 17. 0 Replies

Betty Bowers is becoming SO GOOD at delivering as America's Best Christian, she now does 30-second parables!  (Okay, 32 seconds!  Picky, picky!) Have You Had YOUR Betty Today?Continue

Tags: bible, parable, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Goodwill to Few Men (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Michael Penn Aug 16. 8 Replies

Think Goodwill Industries does well by the poor?  Fact is, they do WAY BETTER for themselves, to the point where America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, thinks they're ripping off the christian playbook a bit too well!  Have a look for yourself:…Continue

Tags: ripoff, Goodwill Industries, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Steven Weinberg on his anti-theism

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller Aug 2. 4 Replies

I like the sound of Steven Weinberg's voice. He has a calming impact on me as I rush to get my home of 41 years ready to sell and plan and put into motion the new garden at my daughter's home. My home is full o empty boxed quickly filling with the…Continue

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Plinius Jul 10. 12 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

losing faith (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jul 5. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees has recently begun producing a new series of YouTube videos, which added to a wonderful library of earlier observations regarding his experience of religion. Good as all those pieces are, I personally think they pale against this…Continue

Tags: story, history, faith, TheraminTrees

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Comment by Joan Denoo on November 24, 2013 at 1:26pm

Oh! Mindy! I understand your reasons for leaving Facebook. The hate mail can be dreadful! Thankfully, there is a "Block" button to weed out filth. 
I kind of like those who attempt to give me rational reasons for disliking my writings. It gives me a chance to reconsider my thinking and either agree or disagree with them and why. Over time, I feel stronger in my thinking. I do often realize I have overstated or made a reasoning mistake. As to feelings, there can be no mistakes in how one feels. The feelings may be based on erroneous thinking, but if so, I am able to make changes in my own thinking and come out stronger. 

My experience with Facebook was it was far too conservative for my liking, and I just didn't want to listen to a bunch of delusions. I blocked them as well. Family and friends sent me all kinds of sickeningly sweet, syrupy, mawkish, sentimental, trite, saccharine things that made my teeth itch. I wrote them individually and told them I did not think their material made any sense and didn't stand up to scrutiny. I would block them in the future if I got any more of it. Well, you can guess ... a lot of family and friends unfriended me.

Slowly, over time, many of those individuals reconnected with me and send me thoughtful (full-of-thought) comments, and we restored our relationship, to my benefit, and I hope theirs.  

Thanks to people like you and ... oh dear, I won't list names because I will surely leave some very precious friends out. I have been able to rethink my positions and make appropriate adjustments. 

Arguing does me no good! Asking question, pointing out what, how, and why I do not share an idea, helps me, even if it infuriates another. I love to challenge another to think, even as I love being challenged ... if based on reason.

Feelings are another matter. One can not argue with how another feels; it is their reality. I can look at my own feelings and listen for what they tell me. Why am I angry, sad, mad, afraid, guilty or ashamed? When I sort those kinds of things out, I have a better understanding of what drives me. 

Honesty seems to have great power. Especially for my cousins, many of whom are very active in their churches. One married a Lutheran minister with patriarchal ethics. In her email comments she sounds depressed and unhappy and wonders why. I can read how dominated she feels, even though she doesn't say it. I simply ask her questions about her feelings, and her values. She hangs in with me until she gets angry (which really means she is afraid). 
No one said growing up would be easy. There are no good roadmaps. The holy books lead one astray, filling the head with nonsense that I call The Passive Gospel. So, we can be active in thought and action. We can celebrate together our stressors and accomplishments. We can stand as a cloud of witnesses for each other, with encouragement, information, ideas, ...jeez, I had a terrible time finding a secular word cloud: 
Comment by Steph S. on November 24, 2013 at 10:30am

Good thing you got away from Facebook. The Nexus site is so much better. I hope everyone is having a good day. IT is rainy and cold here today.

Comment by Idaho Spud on November 23, 2013 at 6:32pm

Ruth, thanks for the explanation of "like".  Someone said that it was connected to facebook, so I was concerned, even though I never found any of my Nexus likes on facebook.  Your explanation reduces my concern even more.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on November 23, 2013 at 5:26pm

The "like" button does two things. It tells everyone you liked that, in the Latest Activity and adds to the like count for that thing. If you want to go back to it later, a shortcut is stored under "Likes" on your profile page. Well, also someone could look at your likes from your page to get an idea of your preferences.

Comment by Steph S. on November 23, 2013 at 5:15pm

Love the cats with books and tea cup. Enjoy the posts here.

Patricia I love owls too and enjoy that GIF.

Yes, Mindy we are real friends here and support you. Always thinking about you and wish you the best.

My thoughts are with everyone here.

Comment by Steph S. on November 23, 2013 at 5:12pm

Comment by The Flying Atheist on November 23, 2013 at 2:43am

Just got back in town and reading what I missed. 

Mindy, as horrible as it is to have your daughter come to you in tears, the fact that she feels comfortable enough to emotionally express herself to you says so much about you personally.  In a different scenario she might choose to shut you out and not communicate at all, which I know would be even worse for both of you.  But she hasn't done that.  She trusts you.  You are there when she needs you.  You strongly support her both on good days and bad days.   You're a wonderful mother, Mindy.  You have a very special, close-knit family and your daughter benefits from such a solid and trusting foundation.  I do wish her well.  Hopefully in the near future she will find the right combination of workable tools to minimize and combat these issues.  And great news from your son!  You must all be very proud.  

Sk8eycat, thanks for sharing your very personal details.  Understanding and being aware of others' experiences helps everybody.  I have great admiration for you as well and I always look forward to reading your posts.      

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 23, 2013 at 1:54am

Felaine, what a sweet picture! And an excellent cellebration of Mindy's good news.

Mindy, I am happy for you and your son. Good job of homeschooling and your efforts return to you in a wonderful way. 

Thinking about your daughter and hoping she is finding joy. 

Cheetah Purring

Comment by sk8eycat on November 23, 2013 at 1:36am

Mindy, that news about your son's promotion is absolutely JOYOUS! (Or joyful...I don't know which is correct grammar,,,Heh).  Anyroad, thank you for posting that; it makes me feel good to know that  somebody somewhere is getting the breaks they have earned.

[Lifting cuppa tea in congratulations]

Comment by Plinius on November 23, 2013 at 1:08am

I'm happy that there's good news too in your family; Mindy! That could help your daughter.

 

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