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Went into the chat room last Friday night, for the first time in a while, and learned that Mequa passed away. I had been good friends with him for a time, but we had differences and stopped talking back in the spring of this year. I knew however,…Continue

A Parable by Mrs. Betty Bowers

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Betty Bowers is becoming SO GOOD at delivering as America's Best Christian, she now does 30-second parables!  (Okay, 32 seconds!  Picky, picky!) Have You Had YOUR Betty Today?Continue

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Goodwill to Few Men (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Michael Penn Aug 16. 8 Replies

Think Goodwill Industries does well by the poor?  Fact is, they do WAY BETTER for themselves, to the point where America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, thinks they're ripping off the christian playbook a bit too well!  Have a look for yourself:…Continue

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Steven Weinberg on his anti-theism

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller Aug 2. 4 Replies

I like the sound of Steven Weinberg's voice. He has a calming impact on me as I rush to get my home of 41 years ready to sell and plan and put into motion the new garden at my daughter's home. My home is full o empty boxed quickly filling with the…Continue

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losing faith (TheraminTrees)

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TheraminTrees has recently begun producing a new series of YouTube videos, which added to a wonderful library of earlier observations regarding his experience of religion. Good as all those pieces are, I personally think they pale against this…Continue

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Comment by Plinius on November 9, 2013 at 1:04am

I googled the Perils of Pauleen, but I don't understand the connection.

The plant is still there, four floors down. When I'll go out in an hour or two I'll check what they've done to it.

And laughter is absolutely necessary for learning! I have got one class in a bible belt village half an hour from here. Started that class a year ago: and they wouldn't laugh! And had trouble learning!

Now they're getting used to me and gradually allowing some fun. I'll get them there...

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 9, 2013 at 12:46am

Chris, I love your experience with your students. Clearly they respect and like you a lot. Laughter! Excellent atmosphere for teaching. 

How is your plant in the common area doing? Kind of a "Perils of Pauleen" mystery. 

Comment by Plinius on November 9, 2013 at 12:38am

Thanks for all your comments! Yesterday I worried too much, but your kindness helped, two neighbours sent love and today I can face anything again.

A nice description of how you speak, Carl, and I'm just the same! The people I teach know me and often find my mistakes, and I'm the first to laugh and say:" Watch out, I'm going to say something really stupid in a minute." 

How that helps? They build up the self-confidence they sorely need: you don't have to be perfect to try another language! Chris stumbles around like a madwoman and she's a teacher! It makes learning a language a good and happy experience for them.

In the community centre I work in they often ask me why my classes so often roar with laughter. I say I don't know why, they're funny people.

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 8, 2013 at 11:43pm

Patricia, Spud, Mindy, and Carl. Each one of you has great writing and thinking ability. Each very different from the other. Each of you writes from your compassion and disgust about the wonderful and stupid things people do. Each of you writes about your feelings in ways with which I resonate. I read your comments, feel your pain, rejoice in your joys, share in your disagreement with foolishness, and you reveal your concerns about all the things that concern me. 

Your treasures of mindfulness come through the computer screen revealing great jewels. Write on, my hearty companions!  

Mindy, thanks for that lovely photo of painted body art and thanks to Patricia for passing it along. I did not receive it. The patterns amaze me; a fine collection. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on November 8, 2013 at 10:52pm

Patricia, I'm so much better at expressing myself in written form than verbally.  In particular, when speaking about passionate issues, complicated subjects, or in the heat of the moment, I often struggle to express myself clearly.  I stumble and hesitate, trying to spit out a previously known perfect word or phrase that has somehow eluded me at the most inopportune time.  I'm one of those people who fifteen minutes later says, "Oh, I should have said......"

What's funny, I don't really have a fear of speaking in front of crowds or even one-on-one.  I just get major "senior moments" trying to cough up a word I know I want to say but can't remember.   I would be a horrible defense attorney or public debater.  

Leisurely writing down my thoughts allows me to organize and to express myself much more clearly and eloquently. 

Comment by Idaho Spud on November 8, 2013 at 5:16pm

Steph, like Joan, I love the kitty that knows he has feetz!!

Comment by Idaho Spud on November 8, 2013 at 5:15pm

Chris, sorry about your problem with some neighbors.  I can relate, as I'm a worrier also, and get very stressed-out when there's conflict.

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 8, 2013 at 1:22pm

Carl, your words reflect great wisdom and compassion. You don't wear rose colored glasses, you express yourself well and have such a nice way of saying things. 

Patricia, your wording is clear;  you always make good sense. Sadly, religion gives way to hypocrisy far too easily. A most destructive trait. Your realism refreshes me. 

Chris, old wounds hurt when they show up in a new situation. My guess is that these events are red flags waving, trying to tell you areas in which you need healing. Trust your feelings; they are real and provide valuable information. 

Mindy, Friday! Already! 2013 moves right along. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 8, 2013 at 1:06pm
Option:
Do nothing;
Find the anonymous writers and movers and negotiate with them;
Thank those who appreciate your efforts;
Remove the plant and get full enjoyment out of it in your own place;
Take a vote of the building;
Retaliate.
Now the fun is deciding which option to choose and lay or sit in your favorite position and laugh.
Comment by Plinius on November 8, 2013 at 2:26am

And sometimes small things begin to worry me disproportionately. I put a big plant in the hall of this building, and some neighbours liked the initiative and said so. Others began to post anonymous notes - it wasn't good enough - and began to pust the plant around. I found it in dark corners, where it will die, it was pushed against the wall, so the leaves broke, and I put it back every time. Now I don't know what to do: put the plant in the garbage, kill some neighbours, burn the building? I've been pestered quite a lot when I was younger, and this plant incident brings up a lot of memories I'd rather had forgotten...

 

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