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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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bending truth, or "We Can All Be Manipulated" (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller 1 hour ago. 39 Replies

The following is one of TheraminTrees' most thorough-going pieces, wherein he looks at the process and techniques whereby a "religious" organization (which will sound VERY familiar to most of us, once introductions are made!) takes a person who…Continue

Tags: indoctrination, truth, manipulation, TheraminTrees

punishing doubt (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Sep 6. 0 Replies

If you are associated with religion and especially a fundamentalist religion, doubt is intolerable.  Certainty, however it may be achieved or imposed, becomes a necessary element, especially considering the utter dearth of any form of evidence or…Continue

Tags: religion, TheraminTrees, punish, doubt

We Don't Want Your (Atheist) Money! (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Idaho Spud Sep 2. 17 Replies

I suppose I've heard stories like this before:Conscientious atheist donates money to worthy cause.Worthy cause initially accepts money.Worthy cause discovers source of donation.Worthy cause rejects donation.Swell, eh?  Well Matt Willbourne of…Continue

Tags: American Baptist Churches Association, Murrow Indian Children's Home, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

The Whole Bible in 30 Seconds (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randy Hatly Sep 2. 3 Replies

Ever decide that you wanted to read the whole bible, cover to cover, only to realize half-way through Deuteronomy that the darn thing is industrial-strength BORING?!?  Well, never fear!  America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, has done the Cliff's…Continue

Tags: bible, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Are You a Patriot? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris G Aug 29. 22 Replies

You might think that Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, would be stepping outside of her comfort zone in tackling the concept of patriotism.  As it turns out, not only does she have a proper handle on the term and its implications, she also…Continue

Tags: patriot, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

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Comment by Joan Denoo on February 13, 2014 at 1:52am

Thank you Felaine, for your very kind words and your quote:

"Some of the best things in history have been accomplished by people who got 'tired of being pushed around.' "  by Robert A. Heinlein - in several different books.

You and Loren Miller like Robert A. Heinlein and I bought his "Stranger in a strange land" on Loren's recommendation and haven't read it yet. I must clear some time and read it. 

I am feeling overwhelmed with gratitude at this time. So lucky to have made it and now past the terrible part of cancer. Life is profoundly good to me. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 13, 2014 at 1:44am

That is the important thing, Chris, to be with and live with people who are partners on a team. No domination or submission, no violence and no aggression. Being happy with someone you respect is a wonderful thing. I look back on those early years of my life and of my children and I just shudder. Never, in my wildest dreams did I ever think I would be part of such a civilized family. The lesson is clear, don't put up with unacceptable behaviors. 

The odd part of this, my ten year old daughter put her hands on her hips, said to her dad, "You don't have a right to treat me this way!" She was the one that awakened me to the insanity of our lives. That very month we loaded the car and headed north from Texas to Washington state. Life has been better and healthier from that day forward. No money, our only food was from our garden, no job, no job skills, and we made it. I am, of all women, most grateful that we pulled it off. 

Comment by Plinius on February 13, 2014 at 12:48am

I love a family like yours, Joan! Teamspirit, love and cooperation are such wonderful things in a group! I've always been sorry that we never managed to enlarge our team, but the two of us make a very good team.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 12, 2014 at 11:46pm

Thank you for your all your kind words. I just feel so overwhelmed about how my family turned out when it was absolutely a fractured, suffering, unhappy, afraid, angry one only 39 years ago. We have built a real team and the granddaughters seem to be following the trends we put in place. 

Born into a violent family, married a violent man, and all that is gone now. Never to return. Seeing the younger generations all using good communication skills, problem solving and conflict resolution, with lots of debate, discussions, differences of opinions and they continue to use those wonderful tools. My heart is just about bursting with joy, and pride, and great hope that others can learn and develop such environments. 

They all have a gentle hand with the dogs, cats, horses, and wildlife. 

Peace! 

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 12, 2014 at 11:20pm

Chris, great photo. Just what makes the best sense. 

Comment by sk8eycat on February 12, 2014 at 9:54pm

Joan, I read this a couple of weeks ago and thought of you...but then you weren't around, at least not in this group, for a while so I didn't post it.  I need to get it off my saggy chest before I forget it, so here goes!

"Some of the best things in history  have been accomplished by people who got 'tired of being pushed around.' "  by Robert A. Heinlein - in several different books.

It may be your own personal history that you changed, but I have the feeling that you have helped many other people improve their lives, so here's to you! [Lifts teacup in salute, along with the biggest smile in my repertoire...(I used to know how to go out on the ice and really "sell it."  I can still do that!) ]

Love,

Elaine aka Felaine  

(The "F" is legit; my first name is Frances, but that was Mother's name, too, so I have been called "Elaine" since the day I was born.  Causes all kinds of fun when I have to show my Medicare card...  And now you all know my big "secret."  Tee-hee!)

Comment by Idaho Spud on February 12, 2014 at 7:50pm

Glad you had a nice day Mindy.

I agree that Joan has made a wonderful family.

Comment by Idaho Spud on February 12, 2014 at 7:48pm

Sorry for your bad day Mindy, and hoping for a better one tomorrow.

Comment by Idaho Spud on February 12, 2014 at 7:39pm

Nice spring video Carl.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 12, 2014 at 3:23pm

Mindy, I am very happy to learn that you are having a little outing today with your mother and daughter! Hope that dark cloud is dissipating a bit, and you feel like you have better control over your life.

You came to the right place for a rant, you are entitled with all the stressful events in your life. Just remember, you can't eat an elephant in one bite ... take one bite at a time and work it through.  

Your resilience and flexibility exist in your character; your strength endures. 

Just as the Mexican plum refreshes and restores each year, you have cycles of dormancy, blossom, fruit, harvest, and dormancy again. 

 

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