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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

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Yasmine Mohammed - Confessions of an Ex-Muslim (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Idaho Spud Jul 7. 6 Replies

Yasmine Mohammed is not your average ex-Muslim.  Not only did she get shut of Islam, she also managed to escape what was at one time the most notorious of radical Islamist organizations: Al Qaeda.  She has since documented the story of her apostasy…Continue

Tags: Islam, Al Qaeda, Yasmine Mohammed, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Ignorance is Bliss: Why Religious People Seem Happier Than the 'Nones'”.

Started by Joan Denoo Jul 6. 0 Replies

“Highly Religious Volunteer More, Lie Less, and Claim to Be Happier”~ Houston Chronicle; “Strongly Religious People are Happier than Non-Religious”  ~ Christian Daily."The study determined that 40 percent of highly religious adults—defined as those…Continue

Tags: Nones, happiness, non-religiosity, religiosity, bliss

Afrodisiacs – African Aphrodisiacs

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Jun 26. 4 Replies

Am I so old and not know the definition of aphrodisiac, and its historical definition being based on Aphrodite, that her name came from the African drugs that Egyptians, Greeks, and Romans used for sexual enhancement? Dhu!  Aphrodite, ancient Greek…Continue

Tags: Africa, Lady, Victorian

Degrees of Doubt: The Claims and Credentials of Ravi Zacharias (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris May 17. 1 Reply

Anyone here ever run onto an apologist by the name of Ravi Zacharias?  I've seen his name dropped multiple times on YouTube as supposedly being THE ONE APOLOGIST that no atheist wants to cross swords with, because of his facility with christian…Continue

Tags: Ravi Zacharias, Steve Baughman, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

The Most Hated Woman in America (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Gary S Apr 19. 7 Replies

Before Aron Ra and Matt Dillahunty, before Dawkins or Dennett or Harris or even Hitchens, there was Madalyn Murray O'Hair.  In the midst of an America where Christianity was being flaunted as a defense against the godless communists of the Soviet…Continue

Tags: Frank Zindler, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, Madalyn Murray O'Hair

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Comment by Idaho Spud on April 26, 2014 at 4:13pm

Mindy, glad to hear that things are going well for your daughter.

I finally quit facebook a couple of weeks ago, but now I'm getting some posts from people on G+.  I'd like to quit it also, but understand if I do that my mail  from gmail.com will disappear and I don't want that to happen.  Does anyone know about that?

Comment by Idaho Spud on April 26, 2014 at 4:06pm

For those that have computers that don't work like my iMac, perhaps I should try reposting the image:

Comment by Idaho Spud on April 26, 2014 at 3:56pm

Mindy, nothing showed-up for me until I right clicked in the blank space, and it gave me a lot of open image and save image options.  I clicked on open image in a new tab and saw it.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on April 26, 2014 at 3:46pm

Hi Mindy.  I thought I'd chime in with an opinion about your Facebook situation.  Everyone here has given you excellent advice.  In addition, it's pretty obvious you know how you want to respond, you just needed some outside validation.  I think your daughter hit the nail on the head:  "%&#@, no!"   As you pointed out (and Patricia dually noted) you weren't very close friends with this person to begin with, so there's no reason, in my opinion, to rekindle a friendship that didn't have a firm foundation from the start.    

I'd rather have a small group of strong, loyal friends than a large group of many acquaintances and friends of questionable value.  The fact that you are questioning whether or not you want to be friends with this person pretty much sums up the situation in a nutshell. 

Comment by Ian Mason on April 26, 2014 at 3:43am

If it's not too late, have a good trip, Patricia.

Mindy, it's all been said so I won't try to add more.

I enjoy FB but I know it's just for fun. If I need to share something personal THIS is the place and YOU are the people.

Have a great weekend. Hugs to all.

Comment by Steph S. on April 25, 2014 at 10:23pm

Hugs to you too Mindy - you are my good friend too.

Everyone have a good weekend.

Comment by sk8eycat on April 25, 2014 at 5:50pm

Patricia, is this a NIGHT trip?  Or will you be able to enjoy the scenery?  Either way, relax, and have a grand time!

Comment by Steph S. on April 25, 2014 at 4:24pm

Patricia have a safe trip. Be safe.

Comment by Steph S. on April 25, 2014 at 4:23pm

Mindy she sounds like a shallow "friend" - I don't think you should take her back as friend. I think the time has passed and you are older and more mature now. Look forward to better friends in the future who like you for who you are.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 25, 2014 at 3:05pm

Mindy, You are just very fine! What you feel is what you feel and you can honor that without guilt. If you want her for a friend, by all means make that choice. If you don't want to, or not now, make that choice. You don't have to explain anything. Just make your statement and go on with life. 
About the anxiety attack, a good counselor can help you with that. Basically, sit quietly, paying attention to your breath. When a thought comes to mind, thank it for visiting and dismiss it away. It takes a lot of practice to get to the point where you can just sit, relaxed, breathing easily, and letting go of thoughts. That static in your mind can wear you out. 

Mindfulness Strategies

I like Chris' response: a hug, even virtual, is coming your way from me and I am sure all of us on this string. 

Ruth gives very good advice, and based on healthy communication skills. She is right on target about being honest with yourself and then letting her know. 

Patricia always has strong responses and, by golly, she is right. I really like what she said. You are who you are. Period.

Felaine has good sense as well ... goodness, we are lucky to have such trustworthy and wise friends. She advises using the Block button on Facebook and that is a great idea.

So, you have a lot of options and even more if you need to find a better way. However, there are some good options here to kick around. You are not a victim. You have everything you need to come out of this a winner. Sit back, enjoy that you have breath, celebrate your life, and experience the gratitude of strong family and friends. 

I just read your response and it seems you have been able to quiet your thoughts and get your anxiety down. Remember, anxiety is a symptom of feeling helpless. To feel optimistic is the goal. The method to achieve your goal lies within the symptoms. Look for mad, glad, sad, afraid, guilt, shame and you will usually find the cause of your anxiety. 
 

 

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