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Betty Explains Religious Freedom (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randall Smith May 27. 9 Replies

Well, considering all the RFRA bills popping up all over the United States, plus all the fun and games ISIS is bringing to the good folks in Syria and Iraq, Betty Bowers, the epitome of well-dressed christianity, has decided to clarify the true…Continue

Tags: persecution, ISIS, Religious Freedom, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Mar 29. 3 Replies

The FLDS Cult Is Unraveling"the internet is a lifeline for people trapped in the most restrictive and stifling forms of…Continue

Tags: Warren Jeff, internet, FLDS

Ode to Yahweh (Non Stamp Collector & 43alley)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 24. 1 Reply

Ages ago (five or six years, I guess it is) when I first started recognizing my own atheism, one of the first atheist YouTubers I ran onto was Non Stamp Collector.  His handiwork wasn't up to Disney's standards, nor even Hanna-Barbera, but his wit…Continue

Tags: Yahweh, YouTube, 43alley, Non Stamp Collector

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 15. 3 Replies

Oregon Field Guide - Lamprey Decline"Populations of Eel-like lamprey have suddenly plummeted since the year 2000 in the Columbia Basin, surprising…Continue

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Comment by sk8eycat on April 19, 2013 at 7:00pm

I have to 'splain something.  I'm still home, but have been in sort of what Loren calls Brain Fog for several days.  I'll try to catch up with all the posts I've misssed, but obviously I am NOT cat-sitting for my computerless friend.

She called me Sunday to tell me she'd been sick all weekend, had cancelled the first part of her travel plans, and would be leaving on Thursday instead. Okay.  I tried calling her Tuesday to find out what time she wanted to pick me up Wednesday night...so I would be packed and ready.  Got her voice mail; left a message.  No call back. Called twice more; same thing.  Began to worry. Called 3 more times starting Wednesday morning; voice mail, no call back. I knew something was wrong, and went into panic mode.  By 7PM I was imagining her collapsed on the floor, and unable to reach a phone.  I was ready to call 911 when she did call me...she'd just been released from hospital...been in since Monday...almost died from dehydration and ventricular fibrilation.

THAT's when I went into Fog Mode.  I've slept more in the past day and a half than I had since Sunday.  From relief. I'm selfish.  I would hate to lose her; she's been a fabulous friend for more than 30 years...and taught me to be a better cook.

Other news: The Prednisone seems to be helping Hairy Jerry a little bit; he's more active, and vocal, is ravenous sometimes, and drinking a lot of water...which are all good signs.  But, of course, I'm not expecting a cure.  Just knowing that he's more comfortable is enough.

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Now, I want to turn you all on to a Blog called "Think Banned Thoughts."  I don't know if the writer/blogger is an atheist or not, but I don't care. I like what she has to say, and I've replied to some of her posts.  (Actually, she thinks DEEP thoughts.) 

http://thinkbannedthoughts.wordpress.com/author/thinkbannedthoughts/

 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 19, 2013 at 5:14pm

Melina, I know what you mean. When is love good for a child, and when is love not enough? I think every loving parent goes through this phase. I visioned a narrow walk with high fences, and I had to protect them from dashing into the street and getting run over. As they got older the walk became a street and I had to protect them from killing themselves and others when they started to drive. A little older, a little more freedom, and I had to guide them so they wouldn't have unwanted pregnancies. Then I had to open my controlling hand and let them fly.

I don't know if that gives you any help. We did have a revolving door when they moved back in, moved away, and move back in again. I thought the revolving door would never stop swinging. Now it has, they are all 49 years old, and two have exceptionally fine families. My older son took a much harder path, including alcohol abuse, a failed marriage with a fine woman, and then a brain injury that left him disabled. That is the risk a mother takes when having children. I do not know what I could have done to prevent his life-journey. By remaining flexible, keeping lines of communication open, confronting when necessary, supporting when needed, setting values that make sense to you without imposing them on a child, sets the stage for healthy, productive living. 

My most sincere best to you and your family. May you hear each other and explore for mutual ground. You and your husband provide the kind of love that does not smother, and yet empowers them to grow to be who they are, using their internal guide. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on April 19, 2013 at 12:59pm

What an awesome lizard photo.  He/she is beautiful.  Any scientists on here who can tell if that's a male or female?  I'd be interested in knowing how you tell the difference.   

Loren, those are great cards.  What a fantastic idea.  It's often very easy for us to patronize and pander to people that we feel may need our help.  Those cards are a great way to request that we "back off." 

Comment by Ian Mason on April 19, 2013 at 11:48am

The lizard is fun, Melinda.

Loren, those cards are a great idea. I was at a talk about autism a few days ago and they sound like a useful tool for those with problems in that spectrum.

This popped up. I wonder if there's a natural simian/feline bond?

Comment by Steph S. on April 19, 2013 at 10:10am

Comment by Steph S. on April 19, 2013 at 10:03am

Booklover that lizard is so cute! I love it,

I love the severe brain fog Loren.

Comment by Loren Miller on April 19, 2013 at 9:40am

Nosing about the BBC News website, I discovered the following this morning:


The above is part of a collection of flashcards, meant to be used by people with disabilities, particularly when their communication skills are not what they'd wish them to be.

Frankly, I could use the above-shown card more days than I care to speculate ... and I don't THINK I'm disabled!!!

Comment by Plinius on April 19, 2013 at 7:29am

The Netherlands are not really cooler than e.g. Jackson, MI, USA, Debra, as far as I can tell, but I like it here. My parents were of the christian reformed church; the sort of church you get after about twenty schisms, every schism adding dozens of don'ts.

Yes, very good to see Joan back! :-)!  

 

Comment by Ian Mason on April 19, 2013 at 4:22am

Sounds like you're back on form, Joan. I hope the discomfort is minimal and the prospects good.

I get new JWs at regular intervals. The majority of people (about 98%) of people in this block of flats are pensioners and the God Squad must think that they're easy converts, what with The Reaper sharpening his scythe close behind them. They've got me out of bed in the morning after a night-shift too and I've slammed the door on them.

I read somewhere recently the comment that the news isn't getting worse. It's just the coverage of it that's more comprehensive. As far as climate change is concerned, I don't think that's the case. New records seem to be set every year: hot, cold, drought, rain, snow. There's a lot of evidence for those who care to take notice.

I hope the flood recede soon for those affected and that the insurance companies pay out without pulling the "act of God" number.

Have a great weekend all.

Comment by Plinius on April 19, 2013 at 4:14am

I grew up in a fundie church myself, so I know that nothing anyone says will make an impression on a xtian. If I used agressive language they'd only hope to get a cushion on their chair in heaven because of that. But I just want to be left alone.

 

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