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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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What Annoys God Most? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris on Thursday. 9 Replies

Long story short, it's those near misses, the almost-but-not-quite, close but no cheroot moments, or, would you believe ... Near Death Experiences!  So what's the big deal?  Betty Bowers, America's BEST Christian and self-proclaimed expert on such…Continue

Tags: Near Death Experiences, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

degrading love — part one (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Nov 22. 11 Replies

Love is by many considered among the highest of positive emotions.  Yet when love of the type offered by deities is examined, something seems to go seriously wrong.  The love of Yahweh seems less a gift than a demand, not so much beneficence as a…Continue

Tags: TheraminTrees, god, love

Ning, Error 500s, and Whether to Migrate

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Nov 13. 47 Replies

I just got the following notice from Ning yesterday, (31 October, 2016), in the wake of this latest website outage:As some of you may be aware, we experienced a system outage earlier this morning. The cause was due to a specific network…Continue

Tags: downtime, Atheist Nexus, Ning

Introducing Douglas Murray

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 7. 4 Replies

Most of us who have been around atheism for a while know the heavyweights of our ilk.  Names like Hitchens, Dawkins, Dennett, Harris, Dillahunty and AronRa get nearly daily mention in posts and discussions on Atheist Nexus.  One name I was…Continue

Tags: Agatan Foundation, Douglas Murray

If There's a God - She's a Woman - The Author T

Started by Joe. Last reply by Chris Nov 3. 4 Replies

I came across this story and thought some here might find it interesting and humorous.It’s titled:If There’s a GodShe’s a WomanFrom the Series:Things You Can Learn from a VaginaIts on the website TheAuthorT.com under the tab, “Free to Read…Continue

His Dark Materials and the Catholic Church

Started by Tonya R. Wheeler. Last reply by k.h. ky Oct 30. 35 Replies

I recently watched the movie, "The Golden Compass" and since I could not find the sequels, I read the books. I enjoyed them, and I will be reading the first one, Northern Lights, starting tomorrow, since it just arrived via inter-library…Continue

Tags: Fantasy, Catholic, Religion, Atheist, Pullman

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Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on September 30, 2013 at 7:51pm

Have a happy October, Everyone!

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on September 30, 2013 at 2:01pm

Good luck with your new cat, sk8eycat. I hope Pumpkin lives long and prospers with Fred.

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 30, 2013 at 12:33pm

Mindy, I know the angst! My greatest hope was that I could teach my kids independence and self-reliance before I died. Damn! they are so independent I need not have worried. Those early 20s are a tough time, but then, so were the 10s and 30s.  

Jeez! Cary turned 50 in Sept and the twins will be 50 in Feb. They all survived and flourished. Just think of all those years I fussed and stressed out. To be honest, I was scared to death I would not be able to raise responsible adults. 

If I had it to do over, I would worry less and enjoy more. I would make sure they had basic interpersonal skills of communication, problem solving, conflict resolution and tools to empower their self-sufficiency. 

We raised all our own vegetables and fruits from the time they were 10 until they left home. They learned how to fix all kinds of household appliances and make repairs on equipment. They bought and supported their first cars themselves and had to support their clothing purchases from 16 years on. They participated in household chores until the day they left my household. 

I was forced into these tactics because of my divorce when they were 10. Looking back, I should have had them doing these things when we had way more money than we needed to survive. As it turns out, they were able and willing to participate during their growing,  and now raise their kids with responsibilities as well as right. 

If I learned anything in all this, is the overrating of "obedience" as a rule of life. It teaches dependence. One has to look for direction outside oneself in order to be obedient. Not a good value system. 

Well, there is no comfort for you in my mini-lecture, just some ideas about letting go and trusting your kids to learn what they need in order to fully function as a flourishing adult. I don't have any knowledge about depression to offer. 

Comment by Ian Mason on September 30, 2013 at 1:00am

Enjoy the new house-mate, Felaine.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on September 29, 2013 at 10:47pm

Hey, Steph.  Were you recently in Chicago waiting for the train?

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 29, 2013 at 8:14pm

I wonder how Pumpkins and Fred would do with a wind up mouse, or a ball of yarn? Would they fight? or participate? Or perhaps a group of boxes, big and small? 

Comment by sk8eycat on September 29, 2013 at 7:40pm

I don't know why, but "Fred" is a good cat name...IMO, anyway.  We had a (male) Fred when I was in my 20s...he was red, so he was "Red Fred."

Heard some hisses, and Pumpkin came out to complain about the interloper.  Fred is half-hiding in a cardboard carton that's lying on its side by the window wall.

Maybe I should put her personal litter box out there...

Comment by sk8eycat on September 29, 2013 at 7:34pm

Joan, there's also Bob, the Rain God...only sends rain when you don't need it or want it.  Oh, about 20 years ago the bishop or archbishop of San Francisco led a special service to pray for rain (there was a terrible drought) and a couple of days later it SNOWED in SF!  First time in 50 or 75 years. 

Everybody laughed.

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 29, 2013 at 7:30pm
I like Fred and Ginger! Well, maybe Freda
Comment by Joan Denoo on September 29, 2013 at 7:20pm
sk8eycat, it has been months since I did any housework and a few cousins and friends drop by from time to time and I tell them the snifter of dust on my bookshelves is star dust, and I don't want to disturb it, it is too precious. They report that dust mites like my snifter and I do not let that deter me.

I look forward to your stories of your new addition to your household. Fred is a good name.

A.C. Grayling states that if someone wants to pray for you, say you will do the honors and then say, "Thank Fred for all these gifts bestowed upon me and my family!"

I don't know why Fred, it just doesn't sound like "god" I guess.
 

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