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The Burial Waltz

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Donatien Alphonse François on Wednesday. 4 Replies

Hi everyone,It was almost a half-century ago, at age 15 or so, that I encountered one of the more important influences in my life: a crazy group of poets/musicians who called themselves The Fugs.They had a huge impact on me in that, though raised in…Continue

Some William Blake to Ponder

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Donatien Alphonse François on Tuesday. 6 Replies

Hello all,I'm new here, and so hope this isn't old hat. But, I just had to point you toward a marvelous poem by William Blake in case you've never read it. Despite his sometimes heavily tinged biblical references in his other art and poetry, this…Continue

God's Not Dead - The Christian Persecution Complex (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Annie Willis Apr 20. 7 Replies

Doubtless most if not all of you have heard about that sorry piece of cinema known as God's Not Dead, and perhaps its sequel, cleverly entitled: God's Not Dead 2 (wow, how original!).  Personally, I have wasted neither time nor money on either,…Continue

Tags: God's Not Dead, patheos, Neil Carter, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Confirmed: flagged by religious people for "bullying."

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller Apr 19. 4 Replies

According to Seth Andrews @SethAndrewsTTA  Apr 16"Confirmed. TTA was flagged by religious people for "bullying." Apparently, criticism and skepticism = persecution. #GodHatesFacts"Others reported as "Flagged" and taken off line: @The Thinking…Continue

Tags: @SethAndrewsTTA, @morehead_sarah, @Matt_Dillahunty, @jteberhard, confirmed

The Value of Atheist Nexus ... and of Keeping Contact

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Apr 17. 13 Replies

I don't know about you, but the last 24+ hours were VERY uncomfortable for me.  Why?  Because something I value a LOT, being Atheist Nexus and the people I care about on A|N were temporarily unavailable to me.  No, we're not Facebook; I don't think…Continue

Tags: maintenance, community, availability, Atheist Nexus

Atheist Pig STRIKES AGAIN!!!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Qiana-Maieev Apr 5. 1 Reply

There's no getting around it, Atheist Pig is fast becoming my fave secular comic, and as evidence, I refer you to the following.  Jesus and Mo had better watch their respective asses, 'cuz they got a porker coming up on the outside, and I'm pretty…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on April 19, 2013 at 11:34pm

Oh My Gosh, Dancing Cats, ♯♯, Ha Ha, OO OO, Wee Wee, ♫ ♫, Shake Shake Shake, Your pants, OO OO,♩♩... 

Did you make that, Carl? Love your cake and fruits, too. 

Patricia, the rose and blossoms look so pretty. 

Tony, the 4/20 story reveals the ways holy scriptures were written. Melinda, the story lives on beyond you. Someday, someone will discover it was a pot party. Well, hope your celebration goes well and you have a successful weekend. 

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on April 19, 2013 at 11:27pm

Great to hear your bandages are off and energy is beginning to return, Joan.

Happy birthday, Melinda. All the flowers and cake shows how much you mean to us. :)

It was 81° here today, in Mid April. Well at least we're not drowning like Chicago.

Hansen was quoted as saying that if we burn all of our fossil fuels we'll get a human-free planet. Sitting on a planet at the inner edge of the habitable zone, I feel a bit close to the fire. But I'm less depressed today. It felt quit lovely outside with an approaching-storm breeze. Cognitive conflict between the here and now caressing my skin and abstract concepts of the Venus Syndrome.

Thanks for sharing the close call with your friend, and your brain fog experience, sk8eycat. I send a virtual hug. Glad to hear HJ is feeling better.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 19, 2013 at 11:12pm

Happy birthday Melinda. 

Comment by Ian Mason on April 19, 2013 at 10:31pm

Happy Birthday Melinda. Hope you have a great day.

Felaine, that's a normal reaction. When some parts (esp. brain parts) get more than their usual use something has to shut down. Think of it as a  rest-and-repair mode. You will come back stronger afterwards. I react in the same way sometimes so this is the voice of experience talking. Fresh air and exercise will enhance the recovery process.

Bruises do seem to have their own spectrum not otherwise known. The changes can be quite interesting to follow. Enjoy the rest and recovery Joan. The above applies to you too plus; post-surgical patients are advised to eat a high-calorie diet, so enjoy your favourite cakes, choc, desserts etc. as "doctor's orders".

The 4/20 wouldn't mean much here as there aren't 20 months in a year :-D

Comment by The Flying Atheist on April 19, 2013 at 10:25pm

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, MELINDA! 

I hope you have a wonderful celebration.

Comment by Tony Carroll on April 19, 2013 at 9:55pm

Hey Melinda. This is about 4/20 and pot, from Wikipedia.

The earliest use of the term began among a group of teenagers in San Rafael, California, in 1971,[2][3] calling themselves the Waldos,[4] because "their chosen hang-out spot was a wall outside the school".[5] The group first used the term in connection to a fall 1971 plan to search for an abandoned cannabis crop that they had learned about.[4][6] The Waldos designated the Louis Pasteur statue on the grounds of San Rafael High School as their meeting place, and 4:20 p.m. as their meeting time.[5] The Waldos referred to this plan with the phrase "4:20 Louis". Multiple failed attempts to find the crop eventually shortened their phrase to simply "4:20", which ultimately evolved into a codeword that the teens used to mean pot-smoking in general.[6]

High Times editor Steven Hager wrote "Are You Stoner Smart or Stoner Stupid?" in which he called for 4:20 p.m. to be the socially accepted hour of the day to consume cannabis.[7] He attributes the early spread of the phrase to Grateful Dead followers, who were also linked to the city of San Rafael.

There you go. Anyway, Happy Birthday!!!

(And if you spark a blunt, don't bogart the roach)! LOL :)

       

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 19, 2013 at 9:33pm

Bandages off, an incredibly ugly bruise and no pain. I can handle that just fine. Getting some ambition back ... slowly. I am enjoying sleeping through these cold windy days. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 19, 2013 at 8:42pm
sk8eycat, I'm very sorry about your friend's illness and your "Brain Fog". Not a good week for you. With Hairy Jerry more comfortable, you can enjoy his company and treasure your time together. "Think Banned Thoughts" looks like an interesting site. Take good care of yourself.
Comment by sk8eycat on April 19, 2013 at 7:00pm

I have to 'splain something.  I'm still home, but have been in sort of what Loren calls Brain Fog for several days.  I'll try to catch up with all the posts I've misssed, but obviously I am NOT cat-sitting for my computerless friend.

She called me Sunday to tell me she'd been sick all weekend, had cancelled the first part of her travel plans, and would be leaving on Thursday instead. Okay.  I tried calling her Tuesday to find out what time she wanted to pick me up Wednesday night...so I would be packed and ready.  Got her voice mail; left a message.  No call back. Called twice more; same thing.  Began to worry. Called 3 more times starting Wednesday morning; voice mail, no call back. I knew something was wrong, and went into panic mode.  By 7PM I was imagining her collapsed on the floor, and unable to reach a phone.  I was ready to call 911 when she did call me...she'd just been released from hospital...been in since Monday...almost died from dehydration and ventricular fibrilation.

THAT's when I went into Fog Mode.  I've slept more in the past day and a half than I had since Sunday.  From relief. I'm selfish.  I would hate to lose her; she's been a fabulous friend for more than 30 years...and taught me to be a better cook.

Other news: The Prednisone seems to be helping Hairy Jerry a little bit; he's more active, and vocal, is ravenous sometimes, and drinking a lot of water...which are all good signs.  But, of course, I'm not expecting a cure.  Just knowing that he's more comfortable is enough.

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Now, I want to turn you all on to a Blog called "Think Banned Thoughts."  I don't know if the writer/blogger is an atheist or not, but I don't care. I like what she has to say, and I've replied to some of her posts.  (Actually, she thinks DEEP thoughts.) 

http://thinkbannedthoughts.wordpress.com/author/thinkbannedthoughts/

 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 19, 2013 at 5:14pm

Melina, I know what you mean. When is love good for a child, and when is love not enough? I think every loving parent goes through this phase. I visioned a narrow walk with high fences, and I had to protect them from dashing into the street and getting run over. As they got older the walk became a street and I had to protect them from killing themselves and others when they started to drive. A little older, a little more freedom, and I had to guide them so they wouldn't have unwanted pregnancies. Then I had to open my controlling hand and let them fly.

I don't know if that gives you any help. We did have a revolving door when they moved back in, moved away, and move back in again. I thought the revolving door would never stop swinging. Now it has, they are all 49 years old, and two have exceptionally fine families. My older son took a much harder path, including alcohol abuse, a failed marriage with a fine woman, and then a brain injury that left him disabled. That is the risk a mother takes when having children. I do not know what I could have done to prevent his life-journey. By remaining flexible, keeping lines of communication open, confronting when necessary, supporting when needed, setting values that make sense to you without imposing them on a child, sets the stage for healthy, productive living. 

My most sincere best to you and your family. May you hear each other and explore for mutual ground. You and your husband provide the kind of love that does not smother, and yet empowers them to grow to be who they are, using their internal guide. 

 

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