Hang With Friends

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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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maggie and milly and molly and may (Edward Estlin Cummings & Eric Whitacre)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 20. 2 Replies

It's amazing what you discover when you go looking for something you had no idea you'd find.  On an impulse, I pulled up Eric Whitacre's website to see if he had created any new pieces.  It would seem that he has: a song cycle called The City and…Continue

Tags: e e cummings, Eric Whitacre

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISIS

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Randall Smith Nov 18. 1 Reply

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISISGrowth in population, policies and practices that create a gap between the typical person and the wealthy,…Continue

Passive and Active voices

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 16. 1 Reply

Have you noticed that much of the discussion in families and with friends, in the print media, on TV, and now on the internet is in the Passive Voice? Many people whine, complain, gripe, accuse, blame, call names, ridicule, grumble, bitch, rebuke,…Continue

Tags: and, behaviors, communication., attitudes, learned

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by The Flying Atheist Nov 14. 2 Replies

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested"In 2009, a Wayne County assistant prosecuting attorney noticed…Continue

Tags: women, Enough, SAID, black, victims

Something Beautiful – Nathan Phelps & Seth Andrews

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 10. 7 Replies

And it is beautiful, too, indeed, I think some of Seth Andrews' best work.  Interesting point: rather than Seth's dulcet baritone doing the narration, this piece presses Nathan Phelps' deep bass intonation into service, bringing a different flavor…Continue

Tags: Nathan Phelps, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, beautiful, something

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Joan Denoo Oct 27. 14 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

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Comment by Tony Carroll on January 15, 2013 at 3:28am

Joan, I don't think the music will follow when this thread gets long enough to go to another page. So I will post a couple of things to test my hypothesis.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 15, 2013 at 2:11am

sk8eycat, of course a girl should have free access to contraceptives and I saw the subcutaneous type, it makes a lot of sense. I had to train rats when I was in school and I learned so much I recommend all parents take rat training courses. Pretty much the same principles apply. Your driving analogy is a good one.

Yes, playing with babies is a lot different than dealing with a two year old, or seven, or 14, or even 21 year old. After that, being with them depends on whether it is fun or not. 

I love your story of dinner out with your parents and your response of "She talks BABY talk!" is perfect! Good for your parents. Gogo gaga with a baby is one thing, but with a four year old, you were one smart and courageous little cookie to be able to speak your truth.

You may never know why you feel as you do, but the more important thing is that you know what you feel. 

I am so sorry your father had a drinking problem; it is hard for me to understand how a parent could abandon a child to alcohol.I've worked with a lot of kids of alcoholic parents and they all felt abandoned and had abandonment issues. That is a form of abuse, and you may have not been hurt physically, something happens to the spirit of a developing child when alcohol takes away the attention and effection of a parent. 

Your insomnia and migraines concern me. Have you had a thorough physical recently? Do take care of yourself. There are so many wise nutrition-interested people here, there may be some remedies they could offer. 

There is one thing I know for sure, you have spirit and gumption and have a wonderful sense of humor. You are also pragmatic and wise, and I don't pretend to know what may help you, but I find some relaxation in broadening my thinking. You probably have tried these before. Here are just two ideas:
The Most Astounding Fact - Neil deGrasse Tyson

Voice of Reason Lawrence Krauss Reality is liberating

I like these because I can get out of my stressed life for a few minutes and see a far larger universe. 

You are a dear friend and may you be in full health. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 15, 2013 at 1:44am
Napoleon Bonaparte, I love you dearly, but your music drives me crazy. I can't turn it off. I have done everything I can to get it to stop. Can you turn it off, Please OH PLEASE! I shall be eternally grateful.
Comment by sk8eycat on January 15, 2013 at 1:29am

Joan, I have believed for decades that a) girls should have free access to contraceptives (perferably the subcutaneous type) as soon as they reach menarche, AND b) both prospective parents should be given rigorous psychological/psychiatiric tests, and tests on general knowledge before the contraceptives are removed.  We need to know something about how to drive a car before being issued a drivers  (Same thing goes for gun ownership.)

I used to enjoy playing with my friends' kids when they were infants, but as soon as they started walking and talking, I was outta there.  I felt awkward with them.

I don't know why I'm like this; my parents treated me with the respect (and love) due an adult from the earliest time I can remeber. There was a time they took me out to dinner with them...I think I was almost 4...and the waitress talked to me the way the cheezburger cats "talk;" "Duzz oo know what oo wants to eet?" I turned to mother and said in a shocked manner (and a rather loud voice), "She talks BABY talk!"  I remember that very clearly....

Dad was choking on his martini, trying not to LOL.

Life was good till Dad's drinking got out of control.

Steph, I love Super Lazy...not only is she/he adorable, she/he is ME. I'm still catching up on the sleep I missed last week.  Ditto for all the chores I let slide when I went into the Insomniac Crazies. Had some interesting migraine light shows, too.  I'm just glad it's over.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 15, 2013 at 12:19am

Steph, I think laughter, good, solid, honest laughter from pure joy is the best thing, at least for me. Learning how to laugh at a carton of broken eggs, or bunch of kids tracking in snow can be very funny. Now, tracking in mud is an entirely different story; the wrath of the Wicked Witch of the North prevents that from happening too many times. Life is too short to let some things upset us, and some good honest training of adults and children on responsible behavior makes life better for everyone. As the old saying goes, "Mom ain't happy, ain't nobody happy. That saves a lot of misery all around. 

If I didn't enjoy children, I would not have had them. Not everyone is healthy with all that chaos. It is far better that individuals decide for themselves whether to become a parent or not. Working at the boys' ranch, I saw far too many parents who hated their responsibilities and the kids failed to thrive. Perhaps there should not be a marriage license but a licence to have kids. 

Comment by Steph S. on January 14, 2013 at 10:12pm

Comment by Ian Mason on January 14, 2013 at 10:10pm

Felaine, you did what was right for you. There have been many who haven't because of social pressure and who have had unhappy lives because of it.

I've known depression and anxiety all my life. Treated them with alcohol, alcohol and meds and now the best combination, exercise and meds. It would be nice to be more social and have some friends though.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on January 14, 2013 at 6:54pm

Joan, I got page not found for that video when I tried to play it.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 14, 2013 at 5:47pm
sk8eycat, you have no reason to be ashamed, you did what was best for you, and probably those pregnancies. There is nothing sacred about having a baby. I tried for seven years and couldn't carry a baby to term, even though I had five pregnancies in that time. Through a physician friend we found a young girl who was about three months pregnant and wanted to give her baby up for adoption. So we waited for her to deliver in September, 1963. However, in July of 1963 I discovered I was pregnant with twins. I asked my doctor if there were any medical contraindications to go ahead with the adoption and he said, "No Medical reason!" So, we brought him home when he was five days old and when he was five months and 13-days old our twins were born. I love parenting; I made some terrible mistakes, but I am so proud of all three and what they have made of their lives.
Comment by Idaho Spud on January 14, 2013 at 3:50pm

Joan, Lawrence Krauss' view is amazing indeed!  So much more so than the simplistic and childish religious stories.

I learned 4 new words in your unsettled weather report :)

Couldn't get "Look'n at daddy" video to play.

Felaine, I'm also self-centered and responsibility is not something I like either.  I also agree there are too many unwanted, abused, lonely children in the world. 

Although, if I had children they would not be abused or lonely, and probably not unwanted, despite my dislike of responsibility.  I've taken responsibility seriously when I've had to.


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