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Mental health in the age of violence: Dr. Elliott Ingersol

Started by Loren Miller 13 hours ago. 0 Replies

I literally just discovered Dr. Elliott Ingersol yesterday, as a part of a discussion I had with other members of the Northern Ohio Freethought Society.  Dr. Ingersol is a licensed psychologist and clinical counselor in Ohio, as well as a professor…Continue

Tags: talk, psychotropic, therapy, psychology, Elliott Ingersol

maggie and milly and molly and may (Edward Estlin Cummings & Eric Whitacre)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 20. 2 Replies

It's amazing what you discover when you go looking for something you had no idea you'd find.  On an impulse, I pulled up Eric Whitacre's website to see if he had created any new pieces.  It would seem that he has: a song cycle called The City and…Continue

Tags: e e cummings, Eric Whitacre

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISIS

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Randall Smith Nov 18. 1 Reply

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISISGrowth in population, policies and practices that create a gap between the typical person and the wealthy,…Continue

Passive and Active voices

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 16. 1 Reply

Have you noticed that much of the discussion in families and with friends, in the print media, on TV, and now on the internet is in the Passive Voice? Many people whine, complain, gripe, accuse, blame, call names, ridicule, grumble, bitch, rebuke,…Continue

Tags: and, behaviors, communication., attitudes, learned

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by The Flying Atheist Nov 14. 2 Replies

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested"In 2009, a Wayne County assistant prosecuting attorney noticed…Continue

Tags: women, Enough, SAID, black, victims

Something Beautiful – Nathan Phelps & Seth Andrews

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 10. 7 Replies

And it is beautiful, too, indeed, I think some of Seth Andrews' best work.  Interesting point: rather than Seth's dulcet baritone doing the narration, this piece presses Nathan Phelps' deep bass intonation into service, bringing a different flavor…Continue

Tags: Nathan Phelps, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, beautiful, something

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Comment by Ian Mason on January 14, 2013 at 10:10pm

Felaine, you did what was right for you. There have been many who haven't because of social pressure and who have had unhappy lives because of it.

I've known depression and anxiety all my life. Treated them with alcohol, alcohol and meds and now the best combination, exercise and meds. It would be nice to be more social and have some friends though.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on January 14, 2013 at 6:54pm

Joan, I got page not found for that video when I tried to play it.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 14, 2013 at 5:47pm
sk8eycat, you have no reason to be ashamed, you did what was best for you, and probably those pregnancies. There is nothing sacred about having a baby. I tried for seven years and couldn't carry a baby to term, even though I had five pregnancies in that time. Through a physician friend we found a young girl who was about three months pregnant and wanted to give her baby up for adoption. So we waited for her to deliver in September, 1963. However, in July of 1963 I discovered I was pregnant with twins. I asked my doctor if there were any medical contraindications to go ahead with the adoption and he said, "No Medical reason!" So, we brought him home when he was five days old and when he was five months and 13-days old our twins were born. I love parenting; I made some terrible mistakes, but I am so proud of all three and what they have made of their lives.
Comment by Idaho Spud on January 14, 2013 at 3:50pm

Joan, Lawrence Krauss' view is amazing indeed!  So much more so than the simplistic and childish religious stories.

I learned 4 new words in your unsettled weather report :)

Couldn't get "Look'n at daddy" video to play.

Felaine, I'm also self-centered and responsibility is not something I like either.  I also agree there are too many unwanted, abused, lonely children in the world. 

Although, if I had children they would not be abused or lonely, and probably not unwanted, despite my dislike of responsibility.  I've taken responsibility seriously when I've had to.

Comment by sk8eycat on January 14, 2013 at 3:10pm

Joan, the only fact I knew for sure from the time I was about 13 (after doing a lot of baby-sitting to pay for skating lessons) was that I never, ever wanted to have children.  I'm too self-centered to be a decent parent; sometimes even the daily cat care gets on my left nerve.

Mother kept telling me that I'd change my attitude once I had a baby (she was terribly anxious to be a grandmother), but I didn't think it would be fair, or safe, for the child to take such a risk.

I got pregnant 3 times (before the Pill), and got violently ill before I even missed a period every single time.  So I had 3 abortions before the 6th week...all illegal, of course.  A lot of people helped me find real MDs who were willing to do D&Cs on the sly.

I still sometimes think I should be ashamed, but I don't.  I think it's a worse "sin" to bring an unwanted child into the world than it is to abort one...or 3.  There are too many unwanted, abused, lonely children as it is.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 14, 2013 at 2:29pm

sk8eycat, We learned so many things that are not true. I guess that is what growing up means ... question authority, think for yourself, enjoy today for this is all there is, and appreciate natural things. 

By the way, in the movie, "Look'n at daddy"  there is scene that looked like our house at feeding time 48 years ago. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 14, 2013 at 2:24pm
Comment by sk8eycat on January 14, 2013 at 2:19pm

Joan, thank you.  Stuff like that just takes my breath away.

I wish I'd known some of this when I was a teen, struggling to make myself believe what I was told in church.  I just couldn't believe that my contemporaries actually had two-way conversations with a god, and I thought the fault was mine.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 14, 2013 at 1:39pm
Voice of Reason Lawrence Krauss Reality is liberating
Comment by Joan Denoo on January 14, 2013 at 1:22pm
Unsettled weather including snozzle, frizzle, grapple, drizzle, snow, fozzle, and frain. Walks and roads covered with ice and I am snug in my blanket with a nice cup of coffee and home-grown and made Concord grape juice.

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