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Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Joan Denoo on Sunday. 95 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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A Powerful Message from an old wise teacher :

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Plinius Sep 28. 8 Replies

I received a gift this morning from a virtual friend, Pamela Smith:A Powerful Message from an old wise teacher :" One day an old wise teacher was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have…Continue

Speak English? YOU FIRST! (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Donald R Barbera Sep 27. 5 Replies

Honestly, the title to this piece is badly under-representative of the content.  To be far more accurate, what we have here is Mrs. Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, going on a rant.  Before you say it ... Say WHAAAA?  Betty Bowers ranting? …Continue

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10 Things About Patriotism (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Plinius Sep 26. 2 Replies

It seems as though lately, Mrs. Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, is evolving into America's Best Patriot.  She has recently been taking some fairly well-aimed shots at a certain Orange Nightmare and his sycophantic hangers-on, regarding the…Continue

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A Prayer for Our Nation (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Sep 21. 2 Replies

I'm going to keep this one short and sweet.  Mrs. Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, has seen what is going on with the current occupant of the Oval Office, and my impression is that she is not at all happy with it.  True to her citizenship,…Continue

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Any Babymetal Fans Here?

Started by Bruce Carroll. Last reply by Idaho Spud Sep 12. 5 Replies

Any Babymetal fans here besides me? I have to ask because 1) I really like Babymetal and 2) Babymetal unknowingly played a role in my journey out of religion.For those who are unfamiliar with Babymetal, here is a link to one of their most popular…Continue

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Comment by Steph S. on November 24, 2013 at 9:15pm

Comment by Steph S. on November 24, 2013 at 9:14pm

Carl that soup looks so good. Good to eat when you are feeling under the weather. Still cold and rainy here and more rain expected all week long.

Comment by Steph S. on November 24, 2013 at 9:13pm

Patricia - that is so funny!!

Thanks

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 24, 2013 at 4:37pm

Oh! Carl, that bowl of soup looks so good. Just right for a cold day. 

Thank you for your kind words; you do a tremendous job of being straightforward, honest (even about football), and supportive. There is hope for a better world with people such as yourself and those on this string, and on this site. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on November 24, 2013 at 2:35pm

Steph, cute picture of the cats under the umbrella.  I saw you are getting rain in your area.  Supposedly that weather system is predicted to continue northeast and screw up holiday travel plans on the East Coast in the next few days.  We shall see.  Have a great day. 

Mindy, I hope you feel better soon.  I hate being sick.  It depresses me.  I feel like it's wasted time......but what can you do?  BTW, don't be mad, but I confess that I hate football.  Yes, "hate" is a strong word, but I've chosen it wisely.  I hope we can still be friends!  As you are aware, Chicago is a HUGE sports town, but I've never had any interest whatsoever in any sports.  If I wasn't the last, I was the second-to-last kid to be chosen in gym or on the playground for sports teams.  It was an aspect of my life that I not only accepted but that I embraced.  Give me music and art anytime!    

Joan, when people hear truths they don't like or don't want to be true they get angry and defensive.  Good for you for always speaking out and keeping your integrity intact.  I'm glad to hear that some of your soured relationships have been restored.  Perhaps you've been successful in planting a few seeds of knowledge and rationality.  You have so much to offer other people. 

It's cold here too.  Overnight it was 13-degrees.  It's now warmed up to 25 with sunny skies.     

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 24, 2013 at 1:37pm

Steph, loved your comment and photo of cats sitting and enjoying rain. Looks like paradise. Yes, I agree that this site is a very special one, full of thoughtful, caring, compassionate people who have open minds and not so open that their brains fall out. 

It is very cold here, clear skies, not so much wind, yet. I probably will lose some plants because of the low day and night temps. Well, if the climate changes, we will be losing a lot of plants because of water or temperature changes. I might as well get used to it. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on November 24, 2013 at 1:26pm

Oh! Mindy! I understand your reasons for leaving Facebook. The hate mail can be dreadful! Thankfully, there is a "Block" button to weed out filth. 
I kind of like those who attempt to give me rational reasons for disliking my writings. It gives me a chance to reconsider my thinking and either agree or disagree with them and why. Over time, I feel stronger in my thinking. I do often realize I have overstated or made a reasoning mistake. As to feelings, there can be no mistakes in how one feels. The feelings may be based on erroneous thinking, but if so, I am able to make changes in my own thinking and come out stronger. 

My experience with Facebook was it was far too conservative for my liking, and I just didn't want to listen to a bunch of delusions. I blocked them as well. Family and friends sent me all kinds of sickeningly sweet, syrupy, mawkish, sentimental, trite, saccharine things that made my teeth itch. I wrote them individually and told them I did not think their material made any sense and didn't stand up to scrutiny. I would block them in the future if I got any more of it. Well, you can guess ... a lot of family and friends unfriended me.

Slowly, over time, many of those individuals reconnected with me and send me thoughtful (full-of-thought) comments, and we restored our relationship, to my benefit, and I hope theirs.  

Thanks to people like you and ... oh dear, I won't list names because I will surely leave some very precious friends out. I have been able to rethink my positions and make appropriate adjustments. 

Arguing does me no good! Asking question, pointing out what, how, and why I do not share an idea, helps me, even if it infuriates another. I love to challenge another to think, even as I love being challenged ... if based on reason.

Feelings are another matter. One can not argue with how another feels; it is their reality. I can look at my own feelings and listen for what they tell me. Why am I angry, sad, mad, afraid, guilty or ashamed? When I sort those kinds of things out, I have a better understanding of what drives me. 

Honesty seems to have great power. Especially for my cousins, many of whom are very active in their churches. One married a Lutheran minister with patriarchal ethics. In her email comments she sounds depressed and unhappy and wonders why. I can read how dominated she feels, even though she doesn't say it. I simply ask her questions about her feelings, and her values. She hangs in with me until she gets angry (which really means she is afraid). 
No one said growing up would be easy. There are no good roadmaps. The holy books lead one astray, filling the head with nonsense that I call The Passive Gospel. So, we can be active in thought and action. We can celebrate together our stressors and accomplishments. We can stand as a cloud of witnesses for each other, with encouragement, information, ideas, ...jeez, I had a terrible time finding a secular word cloud: 
Comment by Steph S. on November 24, 2013 at 10:30am

Good thing you got away from Facebook. The Nexus site is so much better. I hope everyone is having a good day. IT is rainy and cold here today.

Comment by Idaho Spud on November 23, 2013 at 6:32pm

Ruth, thanks for the explanation of "like".  Someone said that it was connected to facebook, so I was concerned, even though I never found any of my Nexus likes on facebook.  Your explanation reduces my concern even more.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on November 23, 2013 at 5:26pm

The "like" button does two things. It tells everyone you liked that, in the Latest Activity and adds to the like count for that thing. If you want to go back to it later, a shortcut is stored under "Likes" on your profile page. Well, also someone could look at your likes from your page to get an idea of your preferences.

 

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