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The Playboy Interview: Richard Dawkins

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris yesterday. 14 Replies

I suppose it was the news that Playboy magazine was returning nudes to its pages after a year's hiatus that sufficiently perked my curiosity to check them out again.  I hadn't looked at Playboy since perhaps 2008, when I began to recognize that I…Continue

Tags: Richard Dawkins, Playboy

Such Lyrics!

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Grinning Cat Feb 13. 9 Replies

Hello Friends,I was ruminating a bit today on my sixty-some years existence. My mind went back to teenage years when I first figured out religion is not only obnoxiously loud, but also nothing I wanted anything to do with. Truly. I knew by age 15…Continue

degrading love — part two (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Feb 11. 1 Reply

TheraminTrees set up religion with his left in Part One of his treatise on how religion demeans and degrades the value of love.  Here in Part Two, he brings in a devastating, "Mike Tyson" right, which negates and invalidates any claim that either…Continue

Tags: Christianity, Islam, TheraminTrees, god, love

Questions......

Started by Thomas Murray. Last reply by k.h. ky Feb 9. 6 Replies

   It has been 6 month now since I signed up for Atheist Nexus membership. The past year has been sort of a bi-polar wave of emotions for me. I hope I wasn't offensive to the folks on here and I think I have been but I don't know to who. My desire…Continue

Proud Dad is REALLY Proud Now!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris Jan 31. 15 Replies

As some of you may or may not know, my daughter is a television news producer, currently working in Nashville, Tennessee.  Her assignment is the morning news, which means she blasts herself up at umpti-ump in the morning to organize and prepare a…Continue

Tags: Emmy, news, television, daughter, dad

Men who challenge men to stop violence

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Jan 9. 19 Replies

Many men join in the effort to reduce violence against women and children and other men. He speaks of the need to place responsibility on men instead of focusing on women to stop violence. He offers a breath of fresh air, as do so many of the men on…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on April 19, 2013 at 8:42pm
sk8eycat, I'm very sorry about your friend's illness and your "Brain Fog". Not a good week for you. With Hairy Jerry more comfortable, you can enjoy his company and treasure your time together. "Think Banned Thoughts" looks like an interesting site. Take good care of yourself.
Comment by sk8eycat on April 19, 2013 at 7:00pm

I have to 'splain something.  I'm still home, but have been in sort of what Loren calls Brain Fog for several days.  I'll try to catch up with all the posts I've misssed, but obviously I am NOT cat-sitting for my computerless friend.

She called me Sunday to tell me she'd been sick all weekend, had cancelled the first part of her travel plans, and would be leaving on Thursday instead. Okay.  I tried calling her Tuesday to find out what time she wanted to pick me up Wednesday night...so I would be packed and ready.  Got her voice mail; left a message.  No call back. Called twice more; same thing.  Began to worry. Called 3 more times starting Wednesday morning; voice mail, no call back. I knew something was wrong, and went into panic mode.  By 7PM I was imagining her collapsed on the floor, and unable to reach a phone.  I was ready to call 911 when she did call me...she'd just been released from hospital...been in since Monday...almost died from dehydration and ventricular fibrilation.

THAT's when I went into Fog Mode.  I've slept more in the past day and a half than I had since Sunday.  From relief. I'm selfish.  I would hate to lose her; she's been a fabulous friend for more than 30 years...and taught me to be a better cook.

Other news: The Prednisone seems to be helping Hairy Jerry a little bit; he's more active, and vocal, is ravenous sometimes, and drinking a lot of water...which are all good signs.  But, of course, I'm not expecting a cure.  Just knowing that he's more comfortable is enough.

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Now, I want to turn you all on to a Blog called "Think Banned Thoughts."  I don't know if the writer/blogger is an atheist or not, but I don't care. I like what she has to say, and I've replied to some of her posts.  (Actually, she thinks DEEP thoughts.) 

http://thinkbannedthoughts.wordpress.com/author/thinkbannedthoughts/

 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 19, 2013 at 5:14pm

Melina, I know what you mean. When is love good for a child, and when is love not enough? I think every loving parent goes through this phase. I visioned a narrow walk with high fences, and I had to protect them from dashing into the street and getting run over. As they got older the walk became a street and I had to protect them from killing themselves and others when they started to drive. A little older, a little more freedom, and I had to guide them so they wouldn't have unwanted pregnancies. Then I had to open my controlling hand and let them fly.

I don't know if that gives you any help. We did have a revolving door when they moved back in, moved away, and move back in again. I thought the revolving door would never stop swinging. Now it has, they are all 49 years old, and two have exceptionally fine families. My older son took a much harder path, including alcohol abuse, a failed marriage with a fine woman, and then a brain injury that left him disabled. That is the risk a mother takes when having children. I do not know what I could have done to prevent his life-journey. By remaining flexible, keeping lines of communication open, confronting when necessary, supporting when needed, setting values that make sense to you without imposing them on a child, sets the stage for healthy, productive living. 

My most sincere best to you and your family. May you hear each other and explore for mutual ground. You and your husband provide the kind of love that does not smother, and yet empowers them to grow to be who they are, using their internal guide. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on April 19, 2013 at 12:59pm

What an awesome lizard photo.  He/she is beautiful.  Any scientists on here who can tell if that's a male or female?  I'd be interested in knowing how you tell the difference.   

Loren, those are great cards.  What a fantastic idea.  It's often very easy for us to patronize and pander to people that we feel may need our help.  Those cards are a great way to request that we "back off." 

Comment by Ian Mason on April 19, 2013 at 11:48am

The lizard is fun, Melinda.

Loren, those cards are a great idea. I was at a talk about autism a few days ago and they sound like a useful tool for those with problems in that spectrum.

This popped up. I wonder if there's a natural simian/feline bond?

Comment by Steph S. on April 19, 2013 at 10:10am

Comment by Steph S. on April 19, 2013 at 10:03am

Booklover that lizard is so cute! I love it,

I love the severe brain fog Loren.

Comment by Loren Miller on April 19, 2013 at 9:40am

Nosing about the BBC News website, I discovered the following this morning:


The above is part of a collection of flashcards, meant to be used by people with disabilities, particularly when their communication skills are not what they'd wish them to be.

Frankly, I could use the above-shown card more days than I care to speculate ... and I don't THINK I'm disabled!!!

Comment by Plinius on April 19, 2013 at 7:29am

The Netherlands are not really cooler than e.g. Jackson, MI, USA, Debra, as far as I can tell, but I like it here. My parents were of the christian reformed church; the sort of church you get after about twenty schisms, every schism adding dozens of don'ts.

Yes, very good to see Joan back! :-)!  

 

Comment by Ian Mason on April 19, 2013 at 4:22am

Sounds like you're back on form, Joan. I hope the discomfort is minimal and the prospects good.

I get new JWs at regular intervals. The majority of people (about 98%) of people in this block of flats are pensioners and the God Squad must think that they're easy converts, what with The Reaper sharpening his scythe close behind them. They've got me out of bed in the morning after a night-shift too and I've slammed the door on them.

I read somewhere recently the comment that the news isn't getting worse. It's just the coverage of it that's more comprehensive. As far as climate change is concerned, I don't think that's the case. New records seem to be set every year: hot, cold, drought, rain, snow. There's a lot of evidence for those who care to take notice.

I hope the flood recede soon for those affected and that the insurance companies pay out without pulling the "act of God" number.

Have a great weekend all.

 

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