Hang With Friends

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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

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Discussion Forum

Issues Atheist, Feminist, GLBTQ, Climate Change

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by BenGee yesterday. 3 Replies

This is a test Continue

The Whole Bible in 30 Seconds (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randy Hatly on Thursday. 15 Replies

Ever decide that you wanted to read the whole bible, cover to cover, only to realize half-way through Deuteronomy that the darn thing is industrial-strength BORING?!?  Well, never fear!  America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, has done the Cliff's…Continue

Tags: bible, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

punishing doubt (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo on Tuesday. 2 Replies

If you are associated with religion and especially a fundamentalist religion, doubt is intolerable.  Certainty, however it may be achieved or imposed, becomes a necessary element, especially considering the utter dearth of any form of evidence or…Continue

Tags: religion, TheraminTrees, punish, doubt

A moment to relax and see the Earth from space; some how this comforts me.

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Qiana-Maieev Oct 16. 3 Replies

All the squabbles and struggles that I have do not compare with those of some others on this great planet. There are no boundary lines, no political arguments, no up or no down. What is, is. For right now, the scenes offer tranquility. Just the…Continue

Tags: and, wonder, awe, of, space

His Dark Materials and the Catholic Church

Started by Tonya R. Wheeler. Last reply by Plinius Oct 16. 27 Replies

I recently watched the movie, "The Golden Compass" and since I could not find the sequels, I read the books. I enjoyed them, and I will be reading the first one, Northern Lights, starting tomorrow, since it just arrived via inter-library…Continue

Tags: Fantasy, Catholic, Religion, Atheist, Pullman

bending truth, or "We Can All Be Manipulated" (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Sep 29. 39 Replies

The following is one of TheraminTrees' most thorough-going pieces, wherein he looks at the process and techniques whereby a "religious" organization (which will sound VERY familiar to most of us, once introductions are made!) takes a person who…Continue

Tags: indoctrination, truth, manipulation, TheraminTrees

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Comment by Joan Denoo 3 hours ago

Please excuse my misspellings, even my proofreading was not working. 

Comment by Joan Denoo 3 hours ago

This morning at 12: 27 AM Cary died of esophageal cancer with the aid of a doctor. His body was ravaged with the disease and was not able to have any operable or radiology that would prolong his live for many more days of life. He has been on palliative care since I took him to the ER as he hemorrhaged blood. 

The doctors, nurses and staff performed their arts and sciences impeccably and provided me with the clear description of what was happening in his body. Craig returned from Colorado, Laura and her husband and two daughters were with him for the afternoon and into the night. We discussed the prognosis with a clear understanding of what was happening and our options. We chose to pull the plug and see what would happen. They all stayed for the procedure and we touched his arms and legs as he breathed his last breath. It was very simple, just turned off the machines and he was gone within an hour. He was in no pain. We comforted each other.

Cary had a cough since last spring and we all, family and neighbors, and friends tried to talk him into going in. He refused, with strong anger. Laura talked to him privately why he would't go to the doctor and he said he had to take care of me. 

On Tuesday morning at 4:00 AM he woke me up hemorrhaging  blood. We went into the ER, immediately to ICU and processes began. He was in excruciating pain and was immediately heavily sedated. The family agreed on palliative care and then on Friday nigh all members of the family agreed that the tumor was not treatable, and with the advice of all the doctors involved, we agreed to pulling the plugs on all the machines. 

He breathed softly for a few minutes and then he was gone. 

Cary provided me faithful, loving, compassionate care as I was so very sick. I have many happy memories of him and he left us a legacy of a graceful and grateful death. 

I am at peace knowing he is out of pain, chemicals, and machines in order to stay alive for no longer than a month. 

Laura asked for a chaplain and she explained to him that Cary was an atheist and wanted no religious language in his comments. His thoughts and words comforted me and I could kiss Cary for the last time and walk away. 

I love you Cary, Mom 

Comment by Joan Denoo 3 hours ago

I enjoy watching this family grow up even if they are teaching their children gender roles. There is much about their style that comforts me. The children's names are biblical but I don't hear biblical language. The parents are so different then my parents or me for the first ten years of their childhood that I enjoy a less violent way to raise children. I know some of you won't like it; go ahead express your opinion, I am able to have a  conversation with those who disagree with me. 

Comment by Randall Smith 12 hours ago

Yes, Joan is our rock. I miss her comments when she's "gone" for awhile.

As you can see, I survived the dinner and "sleepover". The kids were great. I had to work on table manners, however. That's what grandparents do!

Comment by Qiana-Maieev yesterday

She's on my mind almost constantly too, k.h.

Comment by k.h. ky yesterday
I hope Joan is trying to get some rest. And that everything is going as well as can be expected. She's been on my mind a lot.
Comment by Idaho Spud on Friday

There's usually 2 sides to an issue, and deciding which way to go is often a conundrum, especially the ones I get here in Idaho.  Most of them are not as easy to decide as the 3 you showed us (and not as important).

Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on Friday

Randy, have fun!

Im usually not a fan of ballot measures.  However, I like these.  The State and US Congress have too much corporate control for those systems to enact there laws. 

Here is a website abouit ending Citizen's United

On the carbon tax, it's an example of how the people can take control of this issue.  I had some mixed feelings. It might not pass.   Commutes in my area are some of the worst in the country due to rapid Californication.   The infrastructure is overwhelmed.  But many of the people who pay the tax will be working people who can least afford it.  My county is more affourdable housing than Portland, so a lot of the movement to here is economic.  The people don't have as much control over where their jobs are.   Still, I think we need to encourage solar and wind, and electric when well managed, discourage fossil fuel when possible, so there is a carrot and stick.

Comment by Idaho Spud on Friday

Ballot issues sound good Daniel.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on Friday

That sounds like a fun time, Randy. A good meal with fun company.

I like those ballot issues, Daniel. If we end up with both a Democratic president and congress, I suspect Citizens United will be fixed by law.


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