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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

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bending truth, or "We Can All Be Manipulated" (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Donald R Barbera 2 hours ago. 35 Replies

The following is one of TheraminTrees' most thorough-going pieces, wherein he looks at the process and techniques whereby a "religious" organization (which will sound VERY familiar to most of us, once introductions are made!) takes a person who…Continue

Tags: indoctrination, truth, manipulation, TheraminTrees

punishing doubt (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Sep 6. 0 Replies

If you are associated with religion and especially a fundamentalist religion, doubt is intolerable.  Certainty, however it may be achieved or imposed, becomes a necessary element, especially considering the utter dearth of any form of evidence or…Continue

Tags: religion, TheraminTrees, punish, doubt

We Don't Want Your (Atheist) Money! (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Idaho Spud Sep 2. 17 Replies

I suppose I've heard stories like this before:Conscientious atheist donates money to worthy cause.Worthy cause initially accepts money.Worthy cause discovers source of donation.Worthy cause rejects donation.Swell, eh?  Well Matt Willbourne of…Continue

Tags: American Baptist Churches Association, Murrow Indian Children's Home, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

The Whole Bible in 30 Seconds (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randy Hatly Sep 2. 3 Replies

Ever decide that you wanted to read the whole bible, cover to cover, only to realize half-way through Deuteronomy that the darn thing is industrial-strength BORING?!?  Well, never fear!  America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, has done the Cliff's…Continue

Tags: bible, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Are You a Patriot? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris G Aug 29. 22 Replies

You might think that Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, would be stepping outside of her comfort zone in tackling the concept of patriotism.  As it turns out, not only does she have a proper handle on the term and its implications, she also…Continue

Tags: patriot, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

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Comment by Randall Smith on January 30, 2016 at 7:34am

Pizza night. I've invited my "kids" over to partake. I'll be spending much of the day cleaning house, esp. the kitchen. Having "company" over is a good excuse to do a thorough cleaning.             We'll celebrate, if you will, my son-in-law's decision and fait accompli to have a vasectomy two days ago. He's 40 with three children (and a great father). I have empathy since I had one after 4 kids. 

Comment by Randall Smith on January 28, 2016 at 8:06am

Thanks, all, for your suggestions. I take them to heart. I'll let you know the results.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 27, 2016 at 6:01pm

Ian, it looks as though the Earth Wind Map directs a lot of wind to your part of the Atlantic system 2016-01-27. 

Atlantic 

Data | Wind @ Surface

Date | 2016-01-27 13:00 Local UTC

Data | Wind @ Surface

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on January 27, 2016 at 3:19pm

Plinius, the painting does reflect our current active core, but I’d rather not restrict ourselves by identifying with that. I particularly miss younger, more diverse An members sharing their experiences here.

Joan, I can relate to kind of "putzing" through one’s days, doing most everything in slow motion. With stable angina I need to carve out new routines that work for me.

Randall,  I agree with Plinius, Bertodd, The Flying Atheist and Joan about how to bring up the subject of parenting.

Comment by Ian Mason on January 27, 2016 at 2:15pm

My daughter became very annoyed some years ago when I broached the subject of the past and my drinking so I've let the matter drop. I think she's aware that a lot of it was self-medicating for depression.

Love the picture, Chris. Stealing it.

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on January 27, 2016 at 11:11am

On the arthritis front, I don't want to do a Dr. Oz here, but years ago I noticed significant stiffness in my knuckles. I read about a supplement that was new at the time called SAM-e. Time mag ran a big article about it back then, claiming it's a natural substance our bodies produce less of as we age. I've been taking it ever since and the symptoms in my knuckles have all but vanished.

Randall, my parents were divorced when I was 11. It seemed quite devastating at the time, but my mom didn't have a lot of choice. Our dad beat the crap out of us on the rare occasions when he was sober and beat the crap out of our mom on the more normal occasions when he was drunk. Of course my mom's boss, a stalwart Catholic orthodontist, promptly fired her because getting a divorce wasn't proper.

In your position I think I would open the door to your children to let them know you're willing to talk if they want to, and leave the choice up to them.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 27, 2016 at 10:34am

Randy, I agree with Chris, "start by telling them something about your own feelings during that time," and listen for an answer. Prepare yourself beforehand to hear what you may not want to hear. If so, don't become defensive, acknowledge whatever you hear. Pay attention to how you feel and describe your feelings without laying blame. You have a right to stand tall and proud of raising your daughters as a single parent. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 27, 2016 at 10:18am

Chris, the painting perfectly reflects our group and makes me laugh.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on January 27, 2016 at 10:09am

That's a great picture, Chris.  I think it represents us very well.  Many of us have lost some of our physicality but not our attitude.

Always nice to hear stories of happy pets.  I wish Dito well.

 

Randy, I think Chris is absolutely correct.  Talking is almost always better.  Perhaps a good way to breach the topic is to tell them how glad you are to see them as happy, grown adults, and that you were worried for them at times because of the divorce.  Like Chris said, that's a good way to open up the subject. 

Comment by Plinius on January 27, 2016 at 8:48am

Scary, but talking is almost always better. You could start by telling them something about your own feelings during that time, to let them know the subject is open. 

 

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