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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

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An AN member passed away

Started by Deidre. Last reply by Deidre Aug 18. 4 Replies

Went into the chat room last Friday night, for the first time in a while, and learned that Mequa passed away. I had been good friends with him for a time, but we had differences and stopped talking back in the spring of this year. I knew however,…Continue

A Parable by Mrs. Betty Bowers

Started by Loren Miller Aug 17. 0 Replies

Betty Bowers is becoming SO GOOD at delivering as America's Best Christian, she now does 30-second parables!  (Okay, 32 seconds!  Picky, picky!) Have You Had YOUR Betty Today?Continue

Tags: bible, parable, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Goodwill to Few Men (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Michael Penn Aug 16. 8 Replies

Think Goodwill Industries does well by the poor?  Fact is, they do WAY BETTER for themselves, to the point where America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, thinks they're ripping off the christian playbook a bit too well!  Have a look for yourself:…Continue

Tags: ripoff, Goodwill Industries, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Steven Weinberg on his anti-theism

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller Aug 2. 4 Replies

I like the sound of Steven Weinberg's voice. He has a calming impact on me as I rush to get my home of 41 years ready to sell and plan and put into motion the new garden at my daughter's home. My home is full o empty boxed quickly filling with the…Continue

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Plinius Jul 10. 12 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

losing faith (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jul 5. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees has recently begun producing a new series of YouTube videos, which added to a wonderful library of earlier observations regarding his experience of religion. Good as all those pieces are, I personally think they pale against this…Continue

Tags: story, history, faith, TheraminTrees

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Comment by k.h. ky on February 17, 2015 at 7:59pm
Berthold, I absolutely agree with that! We got 13 inches of snow the last 24 hours with another 2-3 inches predicted tonight. Then our temps will drop below zero :(
Comment by Bertold Brautigan on February 17, 2015 at 7:48pm

Thanks for articulating your thoughts, Carl. I had also thought being atheist at least to some extent entailed realizing life is too short for petty bullshit.

Comment by k.h. ky on February 17, 2015 at 7:39pm
Carl, I'm glad your health hasn't taken a sudden turn for the worse. Isn't family the most wonderful thing?
I hope you're feeling stronger.
Comment by The Flying Atheist on February 17, 2015 at 6:42pm

Hello, everyone.  I'm back from a little break which I felt I needed after the recent blow-up here.  I was quite shocked at the response to that stupid dog gif I posted.  The reaction, I thought, was overly emotional and hyperbolic.  To me it was visually obvious that the cranking of the dog's tail was just pretend, and that the dog, its tail and spine were not being physically harmed or twisted in any manner.  Furthermore, like icing on the cake, I was even more astonished that shortly afterward, a post appeared addressing the issue of sexual abuse of dogs and bestiality (!), as if that topic was somehow related.  At that point I felt I needed a break from the insanity.  Abuse of animals is an important topic, but I think the dog gif I posted was the wrong springboard to start that conversation. 

I also have read Ruth's post, Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors.  In it she makes an important statement:  "As I see it, the video wasn't the real cause of our problem." 

Obviously, there were some other long-standing and festering personality and character issues that surfaced via an ugly display of nasty personal comments.  That exchange took on a life of its own, leaving me at a loss for words.  I'm deeply saddened that, as a result, we have lost not only members from our group but persons who we consider to be our friends.

Whether you agree with my above-stated opinions or not, I'm glad I could finally sit down and express my feelings.      

Comment by Ian Mason on February 17, 2015 at 10:42am

Thank you, everyone. I've chatted with my nephew and it seems that his heart episode should be a one-off event. (I had one like it years ago. Hasn't happened since) His 17 y.o. cousin is out of hospital although still under doctor's care. My brother and his wife are, it seems, coping as well as possible but are in bed and asleep before 10 p.m. every evening. They need the rest, especially my brother who is up at 5 a.m. for work. I'll get updates from my nephew as and when things change.

Thanks again, lovely people.

Comment by Plinius on February 17, 2015 at 7:53am

A cartfull of bad trouble in your family, Ian! It doesn't feel good when your help is unwanted, but it doesn't mean you are unwanted.

Comment by Randall Smith on February 17, 2015 at 7:39am

Yikes, Ian. Perhaps a phone call, email, or letter might be appropriate and appreciated. Shows you're thinking of them.

Yes, I had a feeling we'd lose Mindy. I'm still in a state of shock over all the fuss. On my old blog site, I made a mortal enemy when I mentioned the words "will power" when trying to lose weight, like "you gotta have...". Now, I can make new enemies over here!

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 16, 2015 at 10:37pm

Ian, sorry to learn of your family members with a lung infection, another with heart irregularities at 22 y.o., a collapsed lung in their 17 y.o. nephew., an elderly father in a care home, and their dog, old, ailing and incontinent. It sounds as though they need quiet and rest. Perhaps there is another way you can give them support and encouragement. The information that now is not a good time for you to visit them reflects respect for you, even as you could help in some way. 

With all that you list indicates these are long term problems and they may need your help at some future time. In the meantime, keep yourself healthy, your spirits up, and focus on letting them know you are available when/if they need you. 

I'm glad you shared your feelings with us; this is a good place to express your disappointment. 

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on February 16, 2015 at 10:02pm

I'd give your family their space, Ian. I know when I'm sick I don't really want company. It can be stressful to have visitors, even people you love, when your stress level is already over the top. Thanks for sharing.

Comment by Ian Mason on February 16, 2015 at 3:24pm

Something personal. Feeling a bit rejected. I mailed my brother and his wife about going over and they've asked me not to. Everything bad seems to be happening to them. My sister in law has had 2 weeks in bed with a lung infection. Their eldest son is being checked and scanned for heart irregularities (he's 22) Their 17 y.o. nephew is in hospital with a collapsed lung. My s-i-l's dad is now in a care home. The dog is old, ailing and almost incontinent. I understand that they don't want to entertain guests but also felt that as family I could support or help in some way. I must allow them that they know best what they can and can't cope with amid an avalanche of woes. They're really feeling the pressure. Makes all my problems seem petty in comparison.

That's better: got that off my chest.

 

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