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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Goodwill to Few Men (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Donald R Barbera Jul 23. 3 Replies

Think Goodwill Industries does well by the poor?  Fact is, they do WAY BETTER for themselves, to the point where America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, thinks they're ripping off the christian playbook a bit too well!  Have a look for yourself:…Continue

Tags: ripoff, Goodwill Industries, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Plinius Jul 10. 12 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

losing faith (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jul 5. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees has recently begun producing a new series of YouTube videos, which added to a wonderful library of earlier observations regarding his experience of religion. Good as all those pieces are, I personally think they pale against this…Continue

Tags: story, history, faith, TheraminTrees

Betty Explains Religious Freedom (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jul 3. 10 Replies

Well, considering all the RFRA bills popping up all over the United States, plus all the fun and games ISIS is bringing to the good folks in Syria and Iraq, Betty Bowers, the epitome of well-dressed christianity, has decided to clarify the true…Continue

Tags: persecution, ISIS, Religious Freedom, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

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Comment by Ian Mason on July 3, 2012 at 3:25pm

Spread the Good Word, Sister Melinda. If I ever officiate at a funeral (being on Ordained Minister of the First Church of Atheism, I can) I'll use that text.

Comment by Ian Mason on July 3, 2012 at 1:42pm

Just remembered that I've got this on my computer for when my time comes.

"You want a physicist to speak at your funeral. You want the physicist to talk to your grieving family about the conservation of energy, so they will understand that your energy has not died. You want the physicist to remind your sobbing mother about the first law of thermodynamics; that no energy gets created in the universe, and none is destroyed. You want your mother to know that all your energy..., every vibration, every Btu of heat, every wave of every particle that was her beloved child remains with her in this world. You want the physicist to tell your weeping father that amid energies of the cosmos, you gave as good as you got.

And at one point you'd hope that the physicist would step down from the pulpit and walk to your brokenhearted spouse there in the pew and tell him/her that all the photons that ever bounced off your face, all the particles whose paths were interrupted by your smile, by the touch of your hair, hundreds of trillions of particles, have raced off like children, their ways forever changed by you. And as your widow rocks in the arms of a loving family, may the physicist let him/her know that all the photons that bounced from you were gathered in the particle detectors that are her/his eyes, that those photons created within her/him constellations of electromagnetically charged neurons whose energy will go on forever.

And the physicist will remind the congregation of how much of all our energy is given off as heat. There may be a few fanning themselves with their programs as he says it. And he will tell them that the warmth that flowed through you in life is still here, still part of all that we are, even as we who mourn continue the heat of our own lives.

And you'll want the physicist to explain to those who loved you that they need not have faith; indeed, they should not have faith. Let them know that they can measure, that scientists have measured precisely the conservation of energy and found it accurate, verifiable and consistent across space and time. You can hope your family will examine the evidence and satisfy themselves that the science is sound and that they'll be comforted to know your energy's still around. According to the law of the conservation of energy, not a bit of you is gone; you're just less orderly."

Comment by James M. Martin on July 3, 2012 at 1:00pm

sk8eycat, really now, Fanny Mail?!

Comment by Ian Mason on July 3, 2012 at 12:36pm

Comment by Plinius on July 3, 2012 at 1:02am

Sk8eycat, I'm sorry about your loss. I find that the people we lose stay with us, in the sense that we look at the world partly in the ways they taught us. And we even continue the dialogues we had with them, because we knew them so well. So let go and cherish her memory.

Comment by sk8eycat on July 2, 2012 at 10:34pm

Judith started writing her Happy Heretic columns on the net around 1994.  She wanted to help "fence-sitters," people who didn't know anybody else who had lost their faith, and felt that maybe they were wrong...or the only person in the world who was having doubts. She used humor and sarcasm to point out how ridiculous (and nasty) the buybull really is, and she had a section with links to other web sites for non-belevers. (There weren't all that many back then.)  I didn't find her web site until I first went on the net at a friend's house in 2000, I loved her writing, wrote my first "fan email," (that doesn't sound right...) and I guess I made her laugh, because she wrote back.  When I finally got my own (used) Gateway in 2001, we just kept writing to each other....and then there were occasional phone calls when we'd just forget about religious/atheist issues andjust do "girl-talk"...cooking, men, pets.

I need to get in touch with some of her other long-time friends...her webmaster did have access to her computer & address book, but I don't know if he still does.  The Sheriff's dept. may have grabbed it.

There are a lot of other Heretic fans all over the world who are feeling lost and bewildered right now.  There are still things I want to talk to her about...and I can't  8>/

Everyone here is helping, though, and I thank you all very much.

Comment by Joe Meyer on July 2, 2012 at 9:15pm

Sorry to hear about your friend, Judith,  sk8eycat.

Comment by sk8eycat on July 2, 2012 at 7:11pm

James, I don't want to scratch a believer.  I like to keep my nails clean.

Comment by James M. Martin on July 2, 2012 at 5:54pm

sk8eycat, I just learned from Hitchens's first chapter that his mother was a suicide and that one of my favorite atheist issues, death and dying, and in particular the concept of consciousness, actually was a concern of Lucretius.  Atheists say death is not to be feared because one was not conscious before birth, nor will they be conscious afterward.  I forget how Lucretius put it, but here is that delightful old Epicurean's devotion to a friend, words I want to be of use to you now: "But still your merit, and as I hope, the joy/ Of our sweet friendship, urge me to any toil."  When a friend of mine passes, I also think of Donne, who was both poetically and scientifically right (I am thinking of the implicate order of Bohm) when he likened a clod falling into the ocean as an injury to all one's country.  (As you know, it is silly to belabor Donne's Christianity.)

Comment by James M. Martin on July 2, 2012 at 5:41pm

I did not know Ms. Hayes but just went to her website and will be reading her books as soon as I finish Hitch 22.

 

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