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Are You a Patriot? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller 47 minutes ago. 0 Replies

You might think that Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, would be stepping outside of her comfort zone in tackling the concept of patriotism.  As it turns out, not only does she have a proper handle on the term and its implications, she also…Continue

Tags: patriot, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

The Ark Encounter: A Less than Grand Opening (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat on Monday. 24 Replies

The day finally arrived.  Ken Ham's Ark Encounter opened on 7 July, 2016 ... to something a bit less than Disney-sized crowds, and more than a couple dissenting voices!  Seth Andrews has gathered a quartet of significant participants in the protest…Continue

Tags: Tracey Moody, Dan Broadbent, Seth Andrews, David Silverman, AronRa

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Idaho Spud Aug 14. 91 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Wedding Haka - Subtitled & translated

Started by Joan Denoo Aug 13. 0 Replies

I ran across a video of a wedding in which a group of wedding guests celebrated with a performance of a traditional Māori ancestral war dance, called a Haka. It was intended for sons, however, the women have joined in a participation of…Continue

Tags: new, traditions., women, men, Haka

Onward (Unpaid) Christian Soldiers (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris G Aug 13. 1 Reply

Proselytizing in the military is a dirty little secret most radical christians would rather didn't get out.  Well, never let it be said that America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, was ever a wallflower where a pit bull was needed!  In the following…Continue

Tags: Military Religious Freedom Foundation, MRFF, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

grooming minds (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Aug 10. 20 Replies

There are likely very few among those who frequent Atheist Nexus who would argue against the idea that indoctrinating children with religion is at minimum less than moral or ethical and more likely considered child abuse. Personally, I have aligned…Continue

Tags: religion, TheraminTrees, child abuse, indoctrination, education

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Comment by Joan Denoo on August 5, 2012 at 12:05am

dr kellie, thanks for the correction about sk8eycat's sister. I am quite embarrassed I read so carelessly. Do you have insights you can offer me  regarding my neighbor boy? I would like to be prepared for ... whatever. 
I love your way of dealing with door bell proselytizers. That must get them off subject really quickly. 
I had larger breasts than most girls but at 76 years old, they are not  very pleasant to look at. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 4, 2012 at 11:58pm

sk8eycat, Thanks for being willing to share your experience caring for an Aspie. Not knowing about the condition, and experiencing her "peculiarities", how old was she before there was a "diagnosis", even if she didn't go for medical care. What were the presenting symptoms? Is she good natured, or difficult, and what strategies do you use. 

A new little boy moved into our neighborhood this summer and he has Aspies. He seems to enjoy being with the other kids in my back yard but sometimes he gets rough with them verbally, never physically. My response is to sit with him until he settles down and then talk about what he is feeling. I really like the boy and need to know how to respond to him in positive and healthy ways. The other kids are great, and they seem to get along with him, even as he is blunt. 

Comment by sk8eycat on August 4, 2012 at 11:50pm

booklover, I just had another idea about the "business cards."  after the line, "...BUT I DO NOT HAVE TO RESPECT WHAT YOU BELIEVE.!"  I should add, "AND I DON'T!"   Maybe with  or   at the end of the line.  Or underneath the last line.

They didn't call me "La Bruja del Hielo" fer nuttin'!

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 4, 2012 at 11:46pm

sk8eycat, I misread your sentence on Aspie, and am sorry I read it so carelessly. However, I am interested in how it is for you. 
OH! You have already responded. I shall get back to you after I read your comment. 

Comment by sk8eycat on August 4, 2012 at 11:38pm

Joan...my sister has never been able to drive a car, work outside the home (except to peddle Watchtowers), control her temper, form any lasting relationships except with a small number of people in her congregation.  Has never been on a date with anyone of any sex.

As an infant and toddler, she didn't like being held, she'd push Mother away when given a hug.

She does love our cats, and the neighbors' dogs, has a memory like a steel trap.  Doesn't "nurse" a grudge, she cherishes them; she still talks about a first grade teacher who was "mean" to her.  I have told her and told her that I had the same teacher 5 years before she did, and she was "mean" (strict) with everybody.  Doesn't register; she loves feeling victimized.  For a long time her hobby was Musical Doctors...every time some new condition would be in the news, she thought she had it, got a checkup, and when her doctor told her she didn't have...chronic fatigue syndrome, or fibromyalgia, or whatever, she'd pitch a fir and go shopping for a new doctor.

And during all this time NObody in the USA had ever heard of Asperger's Syndrome, even though it was first described in 1944...the year she was born.  But Dr. Asperger was in Austria, and "there was a war on."

She's never been diagnosed because JWs don't go in for things like neuropsychiatry, but MY doctor an MY therapist have told me her behavior is "classic."

Too late to do anything about it now except accept that that is the way she is, and try to live with it.  I was pretty much on my own from 1957 till the mid-'80s when our parents started needing help, and I moved back in the house. 

When dad had a catastrophic stroke, and the EMTs were wheeling him out of the house for the last time, she went in her room and closed the door.  He lived another 3 months, but she never visited him in the hospital.  Didn't ever visit Mother all the times she was hospitalized, either.

But she knows a hell of a lot about astronomy....   [shrugs]

Comment by dr kellie on August 4, 2012 at 10:38pm

Joan, her sister is an Aspie.  My brother was, too.

 

My resonse to the door bell ringers is to go to the door topless.  They really run off.  I might have to stop when I get older and don't like going topless.  I think I have a few more years:)

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 4, 2012 at 10:32pm

sk8eycat, I had to look up, "Aspie" and read a couple of articles suggested by Google. Can you, if you want to, describe what Aspie means to you, how you experience it, does stress cause you problems, other than usual. Do you experience unusual giftedness in some area of your life? How has it held you back, and how has it put you forward?  I hope these aren't too personal. If so, just tell me to mind my own business. 
I like your business card idea, as well. 
Someone suggested a response to a religious person, "I respect you too much to not tell you I disagree with your statement." 

Comment by sk8eycat on August 4, 2012 at 9:24pm

I quit believing in the supernatural about 50 years ago, and then I noticed commentators on TV (when they still had real people doing the news...mostly) sometimes saying "Well, I don't agree with his beliefs, but I have to respect him for them."  And I started asking myself, "WHY?"  It was sort of their form of the knee-jerk, "Any religion is better than none" crap.  So I came up with this:

OKAY, I RESPECT YOUR RIGHT TO BELIEVE WHATEVER MAKES YOU FEEL IMPORTANT, BUT I DO NOT HAVE TO RESPECT WHAT YOU BELIEVE!

I should print it on business-size cards to hand out to the doorbell-ringers. 

(Oh, my nerves!  You all KNOW that my sister, who lives with me, is a Jehovah's Witless, AND an Aspie.  Such fun!)

Comment by sk8eycat on August 4, 2012 at 4:14pm

Oh, Melinda, don't do that to your mouth! It will damage your teeth. He's a self-righteous son of a something (I will NOT insult female dogs!), and not worth it.  I just wish the people in the stadium would boo and laugh at him.  Show-off.

The real thing that's p*ssing me off about quitting driving is that I really haven't saved all that much money.  Okay, no taxes, no gasoline, no insurance, no mantenance, BUT the price of food and meds keeps going up.

And when I quit driving last year I didn't have any cats...now I have two.  Good brands of litter are damned expensive; I won't use the clay crap...or even the crystals.  I get the brands that are biodegradable. (Wheat or Corn leavings...wonder what the disaster in the midwest is going to do to those products!)I am glad I adopted the old kitteh-men, though. Jerry is becoming a real comfort...just recently he's started sleeping in my arms, and that helps me go to sleep.  He's so soft!

Comment by sk8eycat on August 4, 2012 at 2:38pm

The "god did it" sounds too much like "god did it for ME."  It's very close to the theme of the last column Judy Hayes wrote titled, "I'm So blessed."  The kind of stupid things people say when they pass a test or something.  Yeah.  I'm blessed, and you're NOT.  Arrogant.

http://s129542369.onlinehome.us/thh/2012/05/31/im-so-blessed/

"God loves me and helped me win a gold-plated medal, and he lets 7 million children die of hunger and disease every year."

One of the things that opened my eyes 50 years ago was how self-centered Christians sounded to me when I stopped going to church regularly.  I cringed, and hoped I didn't do too much of that kind of god-talk when I was caught up in it.

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When I was in Holiday, I used to see some of the European skaters quickly cross themselves just before the curtains opened for the opening number. I wodered if they were hoping it would help them skate well, or just protect them from falling on their a##es and looking stupid.

 

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