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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

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Comment by Paula T. on May 6, 2012 at 3:28pm
I hope everyone had a happy Cinco De Mayo...we went out to dinner after our last night of bowling and all agreed to avoid any Mexican restaurants! After driving past a couple of our way to our destination, we could tell we made the right decision...lines out the door!

On the topic burials, I would love to be composted, but I don't believe that option is available (or legal?) in the United States. I've already let my family know to spend as little as possible when the time comes, including no viewing and absolutely no funeral. I am toying with the idea of leaving my body for medical research, but that isn't compatible with organ donation. So in some respects, I still have to final decisions to make. I must admit that I have had close to ZERO experience in planning funerals, but I have a feeling I will be helping out when my dad passes. With his health problems, it looks like it will be sooner rather than later.
Comment by Natalie A Sera on May 6, 2012 at 1:24pm

About burial: it is my cultural tradition to bury to un-embalmed body in a simple linen shroud, and nothing else. (Whence the origin of the shroud of Turin). I would be perfectly happy with that, because the linen would decay rapidly, and my body would return to the soil. Too bad the law doesn't allow that, so we've substituted wooden coffins -- those decay, too. I don't really want to be a fossil, because I think there are enough examples of homo sapiens, but what I REALLY would like is for my body to be a hanging skeleton in a high-school biology classroom! But alas, they're all plastic nowadays -- waste of plastic when you could have the real thing! :-)

Comment by sk8eycat on May 5, 2012 at 9:57pm

I had some leftover chicken breast that I had baked with bell peppers, onion, corn.  I cut it up into small pieces and added some salsa and leftover jalapeno slices; nuked it all and rolled it up in a warm corn tortilla. (I forgot to add some avocado and cilantro) It was okay.

BUT:

I think what I'm really hungry for is a restaurant Chili Relleno .... or two. 

YUM!

Comment by Steph S. on May 5, 2012 at 7:28pm
Oh what a cute graphic sk8eycat!
Well that cheese enchilada sounds like a yummy idea.
I love Mexican food myself! Very tasty!
Comment by sk8eycat on May 5, 2012 at 6:49pm

(What I'm really hungry for right now is a chili tamale with cheese on top, but none of the Mexican restaurants around here deliver [I don't drive anymore. Too dangerous]....well...I do have tortillas, cheese, and salsa fresca.  I guess that will have to do.  *sigh*)

Comment by Steph S. on May 5, 2012 at 6:30pm

On a happier note ... Happy Cinco De Mayo.

Comment by Pamela on May 5, 2012 at 10:40am

My father-in-law died last summer, and although he never made his beliefs known he did leave specific instructions for the disposal of his remains.  His instructions started with "call someone to haul my carcass away" and didn't get much more serious after that!!  He wanted a cremation and burial next to his wife and even wrote "don't be afraid to go cheap on a container, it's just going in the ground).  No clergy, no wake, etc.  His two sons and their wives stood in complete silence while the small box was buried.  Nicest funeral I ever attended!

Comment by sk8eycat on May 5, 2012 at 10:23am

Ruth, what is so not-green is/are the fancy metal caskets...our molecules should be returned to the Earth that nourished us, but most "civilized" places won't allow that.  It's even against the law to bury dead pets in your own yard...so we don't tell anybody when we do it.

One friend still has the ashes of her first Chow in a plain brown wrapper that she puts under her Solstice tree every year.  She says he always took such pleasure in lifting his leg on her holiday decorations....

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on May 4, 2012 at 11:58pm

The Neptune Society option is interesting. I just asked that my useable organs parts be donated, the rest used by a medical school, and what was left could be disposed of the cheapest way that's legal. Taking up a cemetery plot seems so not-green. The ocean is greener.

Comment by sk8eycat on May 4, 2012 at 11:26pm

I don't know if the Neptune Society is a national organization or not, but I joined and paid in full more than 10 years ago.  They take care of the cremation and then scatter the ashes at sea.  They give you wallet cards with instructions for EMTs and hospitals, and papers with more complete instructions to keep at home. 

I told my Jehovah's Witless sister that she could just flush my ashes down the toilet with the cat poop if she wanted to. I don't care.

I think my dad was a closeted atheist, and some years before he died he told Mother that he just wanted to be cremated and be tossed in the ocean with no services, but mother forgot to tell me until after I'd made the mistake of having his body sent to Forest Lawn because I thought he'd bought a plot there.  (I'd seen receipts and cancelled checks when I worked in his accounting office.  Turns out he sold the plot back to them, but I didn't know that, and by the time it was obvious that he was going to die, he'd had a massive stroke, and couldn't speak.) We had to go through a lot of phone calls and extra paperwork to have them do things the way he wanted, and it cost a lot more than the Neptune Society. 

Dad's sister and her husband were offended that we didn't even have a memorial service...my uncle was "a son of a preacher-man."  He always had to pray over his meals, no matter where he ate.

I did call Neptune when Mother died.  Almost 20 years ago!  Seems like yesterday.  She was a bit of a fundie, and got more so with age and illness, but she thought funerals were a waste of money, and god wouldn't care..

When our neighbors have lost a family member, I usually avoid the funeral and send a single white rose, or a white or pale pink phaleanopsis (SP?) orchid, in a bud vase to the house.

I also wear a MedicAlert bracelet (because I'm diabetic and allergic to morphine) that has "DNR" at the very top.  If/when I stop breathing, that's IT.

 

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