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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Grinning Cat yesterday. 99 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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A Powerful Message from an old wise teacher :

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Plinius Sep 28. 8 Replies

I received a gift this morning from a virtual friend, Pamela Smith:A Powerful Message from an old wise teacher :" One day an old wise teacher was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have…Continue

Speak English? YOU FIRST! (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Donald R Barbera Sep 27. 5 Replies

Honestly, the title to this piece is badly under-representative of the content.  To be far more accurate, what we have here is Mrs. Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, going on a rant.  Before you say it ... Say WHAAAA?  Betty Bowers ranting? …Continue

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10 Things About Patriotism (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Plinius Sep 26. 2 Replies

It seems as though lately, Mrs. Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, is evolving into America's Best Patriot.  She has recently been taking some fairly well-aimed shots at a certain Orange Nightmare and his sycophantic hangers-on, regarding the…Continue

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A Prayer for Our Nation (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Sep 21. 2 Replies

I'm going to keep this one short and sweet.  Mrs. Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, has seen what is going on with the current occupant of the Oval Office, and my impression is that she is not at all happy with it.  True to her citizenship,…Continue

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Any Babymetal Fans Here?

Started by Bruce Carroll. Last reply by Idaho Spud Sep 12. 5 Replies

Any Babymetal fans here besides me? I have to ask because 1) I really like Babymetal and 2) Babymetal unknowingly played a role in my journey out of religion.For those who are unfamiliar with Babymetal, here is a link to one of their most popular…Continue

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Comment by Steph S. on January 19, 2013 at 4:50pm

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 19, 2013 at 1:54pm

Melinda, your story is most compelling, full of the human frailties that bring so much misery into the world. Your Mom clearly broke the "bitch" cycle and she has strength of character to create herself in her own image; she sounds like a woman with great heart, generosity and compassion that children so badly need. 

Perhaps your mother was attracted to the "playboy" aspect of your father even as she has sense enough to be able to see reality and make whatever adjustments she needed. A truly noble character. She offers you a good example for the troubled times we approach in this day. Be realistic, recognize others' flaws and develop resilience. 

Of course you had "panic attacks!" That is a perfectly normal coping strategy, especially for young children. Some people are never able to learn how to manage such experiences throughout a lifetime. With solid reasoning, loving yourself, and perhaps help from a therapist, and certainly with a loving husband, such attacks can be managed. What we learn as children to get through the stressers are often dysfunctional in adults. 

Growing up is a process of learning to overcome dysfunctional coping strategies and learning how to respect yourself and your story. As you learn these, you share your life with a loving partner and children, thus breaking old patterns. 

Please give your mother and husband a hug from me and tell them how much I appreciate their being in your life. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 19, 2013 at 1:38pm

Comment by Ian Mason on January 19, 2013 at 10:57am

Some very heartwarming accounts of brave lives lived in defiance of adversity. They give others hope and encouragement. Thank you so much.

Comment by Steph S. on January 19, 2013 at 10:44am

Love the Ikea cat and Tiger photo booklover.

Thanks for sharing your family stories with us.

I enjoy reading about your daily lives here.

Thanks so much for sharing.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 19, 2013 at 1:55am

Grinning Cat, this is a wonderful resource. I can't imagine I have never seen or heard of it before. Thank you so much. The language is strong, it does not mince words, and it is a powerful message. Thanks.
"A thriving church community can be an amazing thing. But it is the people who make that happen, not any imaginary being."

The bible is repulsive

Comment by Grinning Cat on January 19, 2013 at 12:50am

Future wrote, a page or two ago:

In my vision of a perfect world, all churches would be shuttered not because they had no choice, but because their members started thinking critically and left.

In line with Joan Denoo's comment, we can hope they'll become secular fellowships that do things to improve the world, as the author of Why Won't God Heal Amputees would like to see:

What About Churches
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A thriving church community can be an amazing thing. But it is the people who make that happen, not any imaginary being. Once the imaginary being is gone, churches continue to exist as communities of people who enjoy each others' company, who help one another in times of need, and who focus on goodness and good deeds for the benefit of society as a whole. What's not to like about that? By removing the imaginary being, church attendance may actually go up, because a strong church has a lot to offer.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on January 18, 2013 at 11:09pm

Great video, Joan! Thanks. I have to share that in Parenting Little Heathens too. Have a great night, all.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 18, 2013 at 9:48pm
Comment by Joan Denoo on January 18, 2013 at 7:30pm
Melinda, your mother must have had a mighty challenge to overcome to become such a good mom to you. Having a mother who was so hard on her, it makes me wonder if she was running away from her mother and sadly married a man with a problem. Did she know it when she married him?
There were a lot of grown women whose parents were alcoholic in my classes in the Displaced Homemaker Program. Many of these women ran away from mothers and/or fathers, but failed to see the problems they were getting into with the choice of a marriage partner. There is a common saying among social workers, children of addictive parents choose addictive spouses even if they do not have a problem. We often had women who married one addicted husband after another. Their addiction is addicted spouses.
 

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