Hang With Friends

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Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Mental health in the age of violence: Dr. Elliott Ingersol

Started by Loren Miller 16 hours ago. 0 Replies

I literally just discovered Dr. Elliott Ingersol yesterday, as a part of a discussion I had with other members of the Northern Ohio Freethought Society.  Dr. Ingersol is a licensed psychologist and clinical counselor in Ohio, as well as a professor…Continue

Tags: talk, psychotropic, therapy, psychology, Elliott Ingersol

maggie and milly and molly and may (Edward Estlin Cummings & Eric Whitacre)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 20. 2 Replies

It's amazing what you discover when you go looking for something you had no idea you'd find.  On an impulse, I pulled up Eric Whitacre's website to see if he had created any new pieces.  It would seem that he has: a song cycle called The City and…Continue

Tags: e e cummings, Eric Whitacre

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISIS

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Randall Smith Nov 18. 1 Reply

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISISGrowth in population, policies and practices that create a gap between the typical person and the wealthy,…Continue

Passive and Active voices

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 16. 1 Reply

Have you noticed that much of the discussion in families and with friends, in the print media, on TV, and now on the internet is in the Passive Voice? Many people whine, complain, gripe, accuse, blame, call names, ridicule, grumble, bitch, rebuke,…Continue

Tags: and, behaviors, communication., attitudes, learned

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by The Flying Atheist Nov 14. 2 Replies

Detroit Businesswomen Team Up to Get Rape Kits Tested"In 2009, a Wayne County assistant prosecuting attorney noticed…Continue

Tags: women, Enough, SAID, black, victims

Something Beautiful – Nathan Phelps & Seth Andrews

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 10. 7 Replies

And it is beautiful, too, indeed, I think some of Seth Andrews' best work.  Interesting point: rather than Seth's dulcet baritone doing the narration, this piece presses Nathan Phelps' deep bass intonation into service, bringing a different flavor…Continue

Tags: Nathan Phelps, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews, beautiful, something

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Comment by Plinius on March 19, 2015 at 1:30pm

Is anyone off to the Hebrides to see the eclipse?

Comment by Plinius on March 19, 2015 at 1:30pm

And I'll try to see it, but the forecast was cloudy.

Don't worry Joan, I'm not depressed. I get a diet of painkillers and something for creaky joints. When I said nobody wants my opinion, I meant life - life never bothers with what it does to you. I've told myself a long time that I would be running to catch a tram etc. and today I did a realitycheck - ok, no more running. But I can read, write, talk to people and cats, do a bit of mini gardening -what else could I wish for? ;-) 

Comment by Idaho Spud on March 19, 2015 at 1:05pm

Very few people will see a total eclipse of the sun tomorrow.  Chris will see 85%

Comment by Joan Denoo on March 19, 2015 at 12:58pm

"Let ours be a time remembered for the awakening of a new reverence for life." 


Korten, David C. (2015-02-02). Change the Story, Change the Future: A Living Economy for a Living Earth . Berrett-Koehler Publishers. Kindle Edition.

Comment by Joan Denoo on March 19, 2015 at 12:54pm

Supermoon total eclipse of equinox sun on March 20

March 20, 2015 total eclipse times from land

Tomorrow! It will begin! Get ready! 

Comment by Joan Denoo on March 19, 2015 at 12:45pm

Good morning world! Sun shines, expected to be 62 degrees today, green begins its yearly commencement, my muscles hurt from yesterday's spreading of 3 yards of manure, I am happy, and all is right with the world.  

My older cousin reminded me that we are in our 80th year and I reminded him we are elders. To my way of thinking, that is an honor not many enjoy.  

My thoughts and yours as well are of Carl. His vulnerable body continues to take terrible hits. If anyone can survive all that, Carl will. 

I offer a bit of spring imagery and sound to get is into the swing of coming spring. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on March 19, 2015 at 12:14pm

Chris, this dreadful news provides no reward for all the work you have done for others. With flat feet, unequal leg length, weak ankles and X-legs, that means your spine gets distorted. Not a good way to go into your Golden Years. 

Now for the reality check. 

Is there anything you can do to have less deterioration and pain?

Are you doing those things? 

Are they working? 

If the answer to those three questions is 

"Yes," then you solved the problem.

"No," then you have some choices to make. 

1. Do more of something, do less, or do something else. 

2. Roll up into the fetal position and become a zombie. 

3. Use feelings: cry, moan, depression, anger, sadness, fear.

4. Allow the reality to define you. 

5. Think of yourself in terms of universal time, from the Big Bang realizing that you exist in just a sparkle of time.

6. Decide how you react to your personal reality.

7. Pay attention to the story you tell yourself about the problem, i.e. "nobody wants my opinion. So I'll get used to it" is your story. 

When we get our story wrong, we get our future wrong. 

8. Listen to your story and decide if that is your desired future story. 

Chris, I hope this isn't just boring material to you. My intention is to offer a process to change what is happening to you as being a "winner". You observed people who needed help, and you did what you could to help them. You knew people needed to learn a new language, and you developed a plan and worked it so that you could help them. You grew up in a dysfunctional home and created a different lifestyle for yourself and your partner. Now your body shows the ravages of overwork, not enough rest, perhaps not enough laughter. Whatever your reality, you can turn it into your victory.  

When I see the words "Chris" or "Plinius", I think of a person with courage, intelligence, healthy instincts. I observe pro-activity, a good heart, skills, care, compassion, talent, and empathy. I admire you and feel honored to have such a trustworthy and steadfast friend. 

Comment by Plinius on March 19, 2015 at 11:22am

He didn't tell me, but I've had flat feet all my life.

Comment by Idaho Spud on March 19, 2015 at 10:16am

Sorry about your knees and legs little mermaid.

Did your GP say why you have flat feet?

Comment by Plinius on March 19, 2015 at 5:05am

Another fine mess I've got myself into... My GP told me that the heavy work of the last fifteen years has worn out my knees. On top of that he told me that I have flat feet (I knew that), weak ankles, and legs of unequal length that are slowly turning into X-legs. I think that I'm far too young to turn into the Little Mermaid, but nobody wants my opinion. So I'll get used to it.


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