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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Men who challenge men to stop violence

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Jan 9. 19 Replies

Many men join in the effort to reduce violence against women and children and other men. He speaks of the need to place responsibility on men instead of focusing on women to stop violence. He offers a breath of fresh air, as do so many of the men on…Continue

Ian, a beautiful New Years blessing.

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Chris Jan 5. 7 Replies

Ian, for some reason, my comment would not "send" on Hang with Friends; perhaps it will here!Ian, a beautiful New Years blessing. It goes in my file. I especially like the thought of surprising myself. Laura made a special trip to my Spokane home to…Continue

degrading love — part two (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jan 1. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees set up religion with his left in Part One of his treatise on how religion demeans and degrades the value of love.  Here in Part Two, he brings in a devastating, "Mike Tyson" right, which negates and invalidates any claim that either…Continue

Tags: Christianity, Islam, TheraminTrees, god, love

The Ark Encounter: A Less than Grand Opening (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Idaho Spud Dec 31, 2016. 27 Replies

The day finally arrived.  Ken Ham's Ark Encounter opened on 7 July, 2016 ... to something a bit less than Disney-sized crowds, and more than a couple dissenting voices!  Seth Andrews has gathered a quartet of significant participants in the protest…Continue

Tags: Tracey Moody, Dan Broadbent, Seth Andrews, David Silverman, AronRa

Learning a Language as a Mature Adult

Started by Daniel W. Last reply by Idaho Spud Dec 14, 2016. 27 Replies

Trying to keep my mind exercised, and not interested in most of the reading materials that I can find.I decided to attempt to learn a language.  Actually, two.  The dilemma is, how do I do that without going to school - not an option - and without…Continue

What Annoys God Most? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Dec 7, 2016. 10 Replies

Long story short, it's those near misses, the almost-but-not-quite, close but no cheroot moments, or, would you believe ... Near Death Experiences!  So what's the big deal?  Betty Bowers, America's BEST Christian and self-proclaimed expert on such…Continue

Tags: Near Death Experiences, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

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Comment by The Flying Atheist on August 5, 2012 at 8:37pm

This is a comic made-up article from the website, Laughing In Purgatory.  The owner/author is a member of Atheist/Nexus.

Comment by sk8eycat on August 5, 2012 at 8:35pm

Patricia, where did you get that story?  Do you have a link?  I've been looking and looking, and can't find anything about schoolteachers voting to wear any kind of costumes, OR black teachers being ordered to wear whiteface makeup.

It's gotta be a fake; it's just to outrageous to be anything else.

Comment by sk8eycat on August 5, 2012 at 8:13pm

That HAS to be from The Onion, Landover Baptist Church, or some other satirical web site.  There is only ONE Calaveras County in the USA...it's in California's GOLD Country...NOT "god" country.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Calaveras_County,_California

Comment by sk8eycat on August 5, 2012 at 5:18pm

My sister and I have agreed to disagree about religion, and have rarely discussed it (except how silly the Book of Morons Mormon is. We've both tried to read it, and got bogged down about 1/4 of the way past the 1st page) for decades. 

I think sometimes she regrets her attachment to the JWs...I know she missed doing xmas decoratioons and things like that after our parents died.  She was talking the other day about how much she liked the scent of evergreens in the house, and she always enjoys having someone drive her around to see all the outdoor lights and frou-frou, even though JWs KNOW xmas and Oestre are pagan rituals. 

They also don't believe the "young Earth/universe" nonsense...so we agree on more issues than we would if she were a Baptist. Or if she had stayed in that fundie Missouri Synod Lutheran church that was attached to the private school she went to through 8th grade.  (The public school system couldn't deal with her tantrums and stuff in kindergarten and 1st grade.  The public elementary school is just one block from our house, and she would sneak out and come home.)

But I find it amusing that even though she knows the Book of Morons is fiction, she can't or won't take the same skeptical look at the buybull. 

Well, I'm pretty sure she's terrified of death and dying, for one thing.  That's partly why she would never visit either of our parents the many times they were hospitalized...not that she was afraid she would see them die, but that she might see something disturbing in another room while walking through the halls.

She has never been hospitalized for anything in her life.  (I'm a patchwork of surgical scars.  I think she thought I was crazy when I calmly called a cab to go have my spine re-built in '09.  I wore my "Imagine No Religion" T-shirt, too.  Catholic horse-pissed-all, yanno.)

There have been times when I've wanted to slap her, but what good would it do?  When she gets hissy, and she does, I just go in my room and leave her alone till she gets over herself. This is a big house with plenty of room for two people.  And two kittehs. 

(Thank you for having the brains to make out a Living Trust, Mom!)

And to Spud...I don't see any reason for assuming a person deserves respect just for believing in a bunch of primitive myths.  Just the opposite, in fact. If their behavior shows that they can overcome their beliefs, whatever they are, then I'll respect them.

Maybe.

(I wish I could get my atheist friends in Blackfoot to join this group, but they're involed with other ones.  *sigh*  I have classmates in Coeur d'Alene, too, but he's a retired Baptwit minister...pals around with Tim LaHaye.  Ick.  But I love them anyway. I was a bridesmaid at their wedding in 1958.)

Comment by Idaho Spud on August 5, 2012 at 12:27pm

Sk8eycat, that has to be tough, living with a JW.  I like your respect comment.

Comment by Plinius on August 5, 2012 at 1:17am

Thanks Sk8eycat, for the aspie description - yes, classical behaviour. My brother-in-law is another, diagnosed himself at 50 years old from the internet. No friends, no contacts except his brother and me. Is now doing a training for aspies because he wants to study astronomy - I won't ask when (he's only 56 now). But the combination aspie-religion strikes me as unusual; the aspies I've met are all very rational and dismiss all fairytales and other unprovable things. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 5, 2012 at 12:05am

dr kellie, thanks for the correction about sk8eycat's sister. I am quite embarrassed I read so carelessly. Do you have insights you can offer me  regarding my neighbor boy? I would like to be prepared for ... whatever. 
I love your way of dealing with door bell proselytizers. That must get them off subject really quickly. 
I had larger breasts than most girls but at 76 years old, they are not  very pleasant to look at. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 4, 2012 at 11:58pm

sk8eycat, Thanks for being willing to share your experience caring for an Aspie. Not knowing about the condition, and experiencing her "peculiarities", how old was she before there was a "diagnosis", even if she didn't go for medical care. What were the presenting symptoms? Is she good natured, or difficult, and what strategies do you use. 

A new little boy moved into our neighborhood this summer and he has Aspies. He seems to enjoy being with the other kids in my back yard but sometimes he gets rough with them verbally, never physically. My response is to sit with him until he settles down and then talk about what he is feeling. I really like the boy and need to know how to respond to him in positive and healthy ways. The other kids are great, and they seem to get along with him, even as he is blunt. 

Comment by sk8eycat on August 4, 2012 at 11:50pm

booklover, I just had another idea about the "business cards."  after the line, "...BUT I DO NOT HAVE TO RESPECT WHAT YOU BELIEVE.!"  I should add, "AND I DON'T!"   Maybe with  or   at the end of the line.  Or underneath the last line.

They didn't call me "La Bruja del Hielo" fer nuttin'!

Comment by Joan Denoo on August 4, 2012 at 11:46pm

sk8eycat, I misread your sentence on Aspie, and am sorry I read it so carelessly. However, I am interested in how it is for you. 
OH! You have already responded. I shall get back to you after I read your comment. 

 

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