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Hang With Friends

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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

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Discussion Forum

Goodwill to Few Men (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Donald R Barbera Jul 23. 3 Replies

Think Goodwill Industries does well by the poor?  Fact is, they do WAY BETTER for themselves, to the point where America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, thinks they're ripping off the christian playbook a bit too well!  Have a look for yourself:…Continue

Tags: ripoff, Goodwill Industries, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Plinius Jul 10. 12 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

losing faith (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jul 5. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees has recently begun producing a new series of YouTube videos, which added to a wonderful library of earlier observations regarding his experience of religion. Good as all those pieces are, I personally think they pale against this…Continue

Tags: story, history, faith, TheraminTrees

Betty Explains Religious Freedom (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jul 3. 10 Replies

Well, considering all the RFRA bills popping up all over the United States, plus all the fun and games ISIS is bringing to the good folks in Syria and Iraq, Betty Bowers, the epitome of well-dressed christianity, has decided to clarify the true…Continue

Tags: persecution, ISIS, Religious Freedom, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

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Comment by k.h. ky on January 7, 2015 at 7:47am
Berthold, I need this for a bumper sticker,
Comment by Bertold Brautigan on January 7, 2015 at 7:44am

Comment by Plinius on January 7, 2015 at 6:33am

Patricia, I wasn't trying to make your story look less important.

You and I have in common that we didn't fit in and I was very unhappy about that. No loving parents, no kind family or friendly classmates - I was seven when I calculated how long I had to stay in my parents' house. I escaped in reading and tried to learn from books what a normal life could be like.

I love the teenage pictures and look forward to more!

Comment by The Flying Atheist on January 6, 2015 at 8:02pm

Loved the Gypsy Airs, Joan.  As a classically trained saxophonist I was always practicing music of that same vein.  There's some great classical saxophone literature out there.  

I'm enjoying the teen-age photos that have been posted.  I'll have to see what I can come up with.  

Bertold, I love Pandora and have discovered lots of great music that was unknown to me.  As I type this I'm listening to my station of Spanish contemporary love and romantic songs by male singers.  There are some wonderful artists from Central and South America.  

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 6, 2015 at 4:54pm

Patricia, it doesn't sound like the classroom environment offered you something to compensate for your situation. 

There is no reason to try to change your emotions and feelings. They helped you to cope with whatever you had to face. 

Would you like o feel uplifted and positive in your life? 

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on January 6, 2015 at 4:45pm

Thanks Carl! I love the old 40s/50s jazz, especially sax, and I'd never known about Don Byas. Just started a Pandora station and it's great!

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 6, 2015 at 3:34pm

I didn't seem to have the angst in my high school years that some had. I loved learning, I had very fine teachers, and I made top grades. It was a place where I would not be hit and I would be acknowledged for doing a good job. 

My senior year was magical for me. A lot of successes occurred and doors opened. I wanted to go to college and my guidance counselors found some scholarships for me that made it possible to choose hairdressing (which I declined) and some other training that didn't appeal to me.  

I worked a year and continued to apply for scholarships. I finally got what I wanted ... a chance to go into horticulture at Washington State College,

I attended WSC for one and half years and then decided to marry Don, who was in dental school. Although it turned out to be a bad marriage for me, I have three beautiful children who make me very proud. There is no more violence in any of their lives! They learned how to be rational, and compassionate. I am proud of them, they discarded superstition, are moral, ethical, compassionate, and caring people. Isn't that just amazing!

I still hate hair and liked my bald head when my hair started falling out. I also liked the kids who wanted to touch my head-of-no-hair or reacted in some way. For those who were afraid of me, I was able to be a jester and make them laugh.

Comment by tom sarbeck on January 6, 2015 at 3:28pm

Enough of us have written of early unhappiness that I think it reasonable to consider its most likely cause: our being born to people who, like my parents, were for various reasons not up to the task.

It is, in my opinion, the only truth that Billy Graham told: the two most important tasks, citizenship and parenthood, require no training. That was in the late 1950s. I had just quit Catholicism and could hear him without committing a mortal--go immediately to Hell--sin.

Twenty years later I had moved to San Francisco and read in the newspaper that San Jose, a few miles south where a brother and his one-child family lived, was the first city in America to have a law that authorizes the City to remove children from violent parents and to require those parents to attend anger management classes.

More? Maybe in another discussion?

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 6, 2015 at 3:08pm

Patricia, your face in photos look lovely to me. I see no permanently miserable state. I see a bright woman with compassion and eager to help, especially eager to help me with my cancer treatments. 

You made a big difference in my life. 

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on January 6, 2015 at 3:07pm

HS graduation

 

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