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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

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What Annoys God Most? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris Nov 30. 9 Replies

Long story short, it's those near misses, the almost-but-not-quite, close but no cheroot moments, or, would you believe ... Near Death Experiences!  So what's the big deal?  Betty Bowers, America's BEST Christian and self-proclaimed expert on such…Continue

Tags: Near Death Experiences, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

degrading love — part one (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Nov 22. 11 Replies

Love is by many considered among the highest of positive emotions.  Yet when love of the type offered by deities is examined, something seems to go seriously wrong.  The love of Yahweh seems less a gift than a demand, not so much beneficence as a…Continue

Tags: TheraminTrees, god, love

Ning, Error 500s, and Whether to Migrate

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Nov 13. 47 Replies

I just got the following notice from Ning yesterday, (31 October, 2016), in the wake of this latest website outage:As some of you may be aware, we experienced a system outage earlier this morning. The cause was due to a specific network…Continue

Tags: downtime, Atheist Nexus, Ning

Introducing Douglas Murray

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 7. 4 Replies

Most of us who have been around atheism for a while know the heavyweights of our ilk.  Names like Hitchens, Dawkins, Dennett, Harris, Dillahunty and AronRa get nearly daily mention in posts and discussions on Atheist Nexus.  One name I was…Continue

Tags: Agatan Foundation, Douglas Murray

If There's a God - She's a Woman - The Author T

Started by Joe. Last reply by Chris Nov 3. 4 Replies

I came across this story and thought some here might find it interesting and humorous.It’s titled:If There’s a GodShe’s a WomanFrom the Series:Things You Can Learn from a VaginaIts on the website TheAuthorT.com under the tab, “Free to Read…Continue

His Dark Materials and the Catholic Church

Started by Tonya R. Wheeler. Last reply by k.h. ky Oct 30. 35 Replies

I recently watched the movie, "The Golden Compass" and since I could not find the sequels, I read the books. I enjoyed them, and I will be reading the first one, Northern Lights, starting tomorrow, since it just arrived via inter-library…Continue

Tags: Fantasy, Catholic, Religion, Atheist, Pullman

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Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on January 27, 2016 at 3:19pm

Plinius, the painting does reflect our current active core, but I’d rather not restrict ourselves by identifying with that. I particularly miss younger, more diverse An members sharing their experiences here.

Joan, I can relate to kind of "putzing" through one’s days, doing most everything in slow motion. With stable angina I need to carve out new routines that work for me.

Randall,  I agree with Plinius, Bertodd, The Flying Atheist and Joan about how to bring up the subject of parenting.

Comment by Ian Mason on January 27, 2016 at 2:15pm

My daughter became very annoyed some years ago when I broached the subject of the past and my drinking so I've let the matter drop. I think she's aware that a lot of it was self-medicating for depression.

Love the picture, Chris. Stealing it.

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on January 27, 2016 at 11:11am

On the arthritis front, I don't want to do a Dr. Oz here, but years ago I noticed significant stiffness in my knuckles. I read about a supplement that was new at the time called SAM-e. Time mag ran a big article about it back then, claiming it's a natural substance our bodies produce less of as we age. I've been taking it ever since and the symptoms in my knuckles have all but vanished.

Randall, my parents were divorced when I was 11. It seemed quite devastating at the time, but my mom didn't have a lot of choice. Our dad beat the crap out of us on the rare occasions when he was sober and beat the crap out of our mom on the more normal occasions when he was drunk. Of course my mom's boss, a stalwart Catholic orthodontist, promptly fired her because getting a divorce wasn't proper.

In your position I think I would open the door to your children to let them know you're willing to talk if they want to, and leave the choice up to them.

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 27, 2016 at 10:34am

Randy, I agree with Chris, "start by telling them something about your own feelings during that time," and listen for an answer. Prepare yourself beforehand to hear what you may not want to hear. If so, don't become defensive, acknowledge whatever you hear. Pay attention to how you feel and describe your feelings without laying blame. You have a right to stand tall and proud of raising your daughters as a single parent. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 27, 2016 at 10:18am

Chris, the painting perfectly reflects our group and makes me laugh.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on January 27, 2016 at 10:09am

That's a great picture, Chris.  I think it represents us very well.  Many of us have lost some of our physicality but not our attitude.

Always nice to hear stories of happy pets.  I wish Dito well.

 

Randy, I think Chris is absolutely correct.  Talking is almost always better.  Perhaps a good way to breach the topic is to tell them how glad you are to see them as happy, grown adults, and that you were worried for them at times because of the divorce.  Like Chris said, that's a good way to open up the subject. 

Comment by Plinius on January 27, 2016 at 8:48am

Scary, but talking is almost always better. You could start by telling them something about your own feelings during that time, to let them know the subject is open. 

Comment by Randall Smith on January 27, 2016 at 7:40am

Love it, Chris! 

Ruth, I've tried creams, pain relievers, fish oil, glucosamine, etc., for my arthritis, but nothing seems to work. I read where eliminating eating wheat products helps, but it doesn't. It's aggravating--fortunately, not life threatening.

On another note, I just finished reading When Parents Part, and I need some advice. My four adult children (ages 33-42) are products of divorced parents when they were approximately 6 to 15 years old. I was the custodial parent (rare for the father). I have visited all of them in the past several months, and they appear to be quite happy, with no apparent scars from having to go through a less than normal childhood. My question is, should I ask them about how they felt during that time in their lives, or just let it go? Perhaps, dredging up memories might not be a good idea, but then again, maybe they would like to talk about those times. For the most part, the subject has never been mentioned. I don't want them to think I don't care about their feelings, both then and now. 

Comment by Plinius on January 27, 2016 at 6:14am

Thanks for the wishes! There's no news about Dido yet, but he seems to feel good. When I came home an hour ago, he was so happy that he started to bounce against the walls of the corridor, happy mad jumps that leave footprints almost a metre high on the walls. And I'm the sloppy kind of housekeeper who smiles at those prints.

How's this for a picture of ourselves?

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 27, 2016 at 12:14am

Chris, sad news about your feet, knees and hips hurting. I know you use the public transit, but did you have to walk far to carry Dido to the vet? The alarming weight loss points to something; I hope you discover what caused the change.  

We do have to make changes as we get older to protect ourselves. After all, our muscles change as do our balance and stamina. I just kind of "putz" through my days, doing most everything in slow motion. 

My darling great-granddaughter, Katelynn, comes to help me walk to the greenhouse through snow and ice. I instruct her that if I fall, she is not to try to get me up but to go for help. Her mom and dad are trained as volunteer firefighters, as is Laura. They have incredible skills caring for people. 

 

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