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An AN member passed away

Started by Deidre. Last reply by Deidre Aug 18. 4 Replies

Went into the chat room last Friday night, for the first time in a while, and learned that Mequa passed away. I had been good friends with him for a time, but we had differences and stopped talking back in the spring of this year. I knew however,…Continue

A Parable by Mrs. Betty Bowers

Started by Loren Miller Aug 17. 0 Replies

Betty Bowers is becoming SO GOOD at delivering as America's Best Christian, she now does 30-second parables!  (Okay, 32 seconds!  Picky, picky!) Have You Had YOUR Betty Today?Continue

Tags: bible, parable, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Goodwill to Few Men (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Michael Penn Aug 16. 8 Replies

Think Goodwill Industries does well by the poor?  Fact is, they do WAY BETTER for themselves, to the point where America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, thinks they're ripping off the christian playbook a bit too well!  Have a look for yourself:…Continue

Tags: ripoff, Goodwill Industries, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Steven Weinberg on his anti-theism

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller Aug 2. 4 Replies

I like the sound of Steven Weinberg's voice. He has a calming impact on me as I rush to get my home of 41 years ready to sell and plan and put into motion the new garden at my daughter's home. My home is full o empty boxed quickly filling with the…Continue

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Plinius Jul 10. 12 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

losing faith (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jul 5. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees has recently begun producing a new series of YouTube videos, which added to a wonderful library of earlier observations regarding his experience of religion. Good as all those pieces are, I personally think they pale against this…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on December 30, 2014 at 6:16am

Thanks for your kind words, Chris. Yes, I tell myself as you advise. 

My life feels triumphal because of overcoming some big challenges. My kids seem to be successful, and their families flourish by any measure. Both granddaughters stumbled around for a while; their lives seem more settled now. All of them have fun together even as they work together. I have no complaints.  I am just a whiner. 

Seeing my five-month-old great-grandaughter hit me very hard. Laura was her age when I came home from getting my hair cut and found her with bruises from head to foot. I wrapped her in a blanket and ran next door to my neighbor, a nurse. She took one look, and we headed for the ER. We entered the crowded and noisy place, my baby screaming and I was hysterical. The noises of the room quieted as the doctors and nurses examined her. All I can remember was the room, once noisy, now silent except for Laura's screams and my hysteria. The doctor took me to another office and filled me full of whatever it is they do with hysterical women. A chaplain came in; I screamed that I needed help because I couldn't stop my husband's brutality. He recognized me because I was active in the programs of the chapel and Sunday school

Doctors found no broken bones; they treated cuts and abrasions, gave her painkillers. Laura was six months old. 

I took her home. I didn't pack up the kids and leave! 

No one talked to Don about his behavior. No doctor or social worker or chaplain or psychiatrist. Col Smith held a position at Madigan Army Medical Center. An army colonel is an officer and a gentleman. 

Seeing beautiful little five-month-old Brooklyn reminded me of Laura, all those years ago. I didn't protect her. She was so little; I didn't protect her.  

Comment by Plinius on December 30, 2014 at 5:14am

In hindsight we're all wise, Joan! Don't feel guilty, you probably did the best you could think of with the info you had at that time. No reason to blame yourself!

Comment by Plinius on December 30, 2014 at 5:10am

I feel the same, Mindy - can't they thank the people who helped them?

I hope you get better soon, Carl, the flu is NOT what you need!

What I got for xmas is a visit from brother-in-law - let's forget it a.s.a.p! The stupid oaf did nothing but complain and talk about himself. I think he only misses us when we no longer do things for him. People like that drain my energy and give nothing in return. I keep on helping him - because my husband feels responsible for his brother.

Next week I'll be back in the classroom - YIPPEE!

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 30, 2014 at 5:07am

Randy, you asked about my health. I am fully recovered from all the cancer treatments and my life returns to normal. I sleep a lot, and don't have a lot of interest in doing anything bur reading or reading A/N mail. I feel incredibly content and happy to be alive. Thanks for asking. 

The week with my daughter was exhausting! I don't know how she does all that she accomplishes. She has her own business, takes a lot of time to be with her two daughters and their families, volunteers for the Fire District, and spends time with me. We have great fun together. My life goes very well. I'm still working on shaking the guilt of not getting out of a bad marriage and getting the kids out earlier .. but that is just wallowing in old stuff that does no one any good. I don't know what I am going to have to do to shake that guilt. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 30, 2014 at 2:41am

Carl, boy! it takes some creative imagination to find the "good" in this event. Flu, especially now, for you, has no positive aspect. Bummer! 

Comment by sk8eycat on December 30, 2014 at 2:06am

One of the advantages of being a "loner."  I haven't had a flu shot in 10+ years, and haven't  had even a sniffle in all that time,either.

Well, my nose tends to drip when the weather gets below 50deg, but there's no infection.  (Just gross.)

I think that the older you get, and if you manage to stay relatively healthy, you immune system becomes more efficient.  Mom used to drag me to the doctor when I was in elementary school for a gamma globulin shot whenever there was a run of measles in the school (no vaccines then), so I was 20 years old and in Miami Beach when I broke out with roseola.  Cost me 6 days pay.  I've never had rubella measles.  Had chicken pox and mumps when I was 6 or 7....NOT fun.  And the chicken pox returned as shingles when I was 21 or 22.  Gaaaahhhhh!

But I have not had influenza or anything like that since I retired.

*knocks wood*

Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 30, 2014 at 12:45am

What I got for Xmas:  the flu.  I had my flu shot back in the Fall, so hopefully this won't last too long or be too severe.  Several members of my family are also afflicted.  The price you pay for family unity during the holiday season.  Ugh!

Comment by sk8eycat on December 29, 2014 at 1:09am

Comment by Idaho Spud on December 28, 2014 at 11:57am

Mindy, thanks for the quote from Pat Condell.  Excellent!

Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 28, 2014 at 8:24am

Sounds like you're having a wonderful time, Joan.  I really enjoy reading your posts. 

 

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