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Hang With Friends

Location: Earth
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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

A comment is a shout-out, which will get lost in a few days, because the comment wall is just a random stack.

Please start a discussion to share stories, photos, and videos. Replies will pop up in your "latest activity" and a conversation can develop from the feelings and thoughts you contributed. Groups are built on discussions.

Discussion Forum

Goodwill to Few Men (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Donald R Barbera Jul 23. 3 Replies

Think Goodwill Industries does well by the poor?  Fact is, they do WAY BETTER for themselves, to the point where America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, thinks they're ripping off the christian playbook a bit too well!  Have a look for yourself:…Continue

Tags: ripoff, Goodwill Industries, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Plinius Jul 10. 12 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

losing faith (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jul 5. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees has recently begun producing a new series of YouTube videos, which added to a wonderful library of earlier observations regarding his experience of religion. Good as all those pieces are, I personally think they pale against this…Continue

Tags: story, history, faith, TheraminTrees

Betty Explains Religious Freedom (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jul 3. 10 Replies

Well, considering all the RFRA bills popping up all over the United States, plus all the fun and games ISIS is bringing to the good folks in Syria and Iraq, Betty Bowers, the epitome of well-dressed christianity, has decided to clarify the true…Continue

Tags: persecution, ISIS, Religious Freedom, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

Tags: dispute at Hang With Friends

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Comment by Grinning Cat on June 30, 2015 at 3:05pm

Ruth's argument convinced me that the ongoing reminder that there are quite a few supporting members is a good thing. ("...how collective moral behavior emerges in a group.") I don't mind continuing to display a star, now.

(I'd prefer not to have tiered access to information be part of the deal.)

Another choice could be a message on each page, "Special thanks to our n supporting members -- m joined this month!"

I agree with sk8eycat's idea: a colored star (or flame or crown) with a white outline, and no disk, would look good while taking up a lot less space. Or else a disk could be semitransparent:

Comment by Pat on June 30, 2015 at 2:15pm

Ruth, I appreciate your concern about keeping A|N going, and I share it. I also agree with Joan about tiered access to information, and I share that, too. And, I appreciate Richard's willingness to allow the donor to make the individual decision. If removing my little icon means I go back to being one of the Bleacher Bums (Carl will get the reference), pass the beer and hot dog down.

Comment by sk8eycat on June 30, 2015 at 1:59pm

Hmmm....after thinking it over a while, badges, private discussion rooms, and other exclusive "goodies" are a major turn-off for me.  If that is the way AN is headed, I will definitely take my cat and go elsewhere.  Hemant Mehta's "Friendly Atheist" seems like a good choice.

Gotta think about it some more.

Comment by sk8eycat on June 30, 2015 at 1:21pm

Redesign the "badge" to get rid of the circle and orange BG filler.  The star (or other image) is enough, and takes up about 1/3 the space that the "Whoopie Circle" does.

I still don't have enough spare cash to cover up my cat. I RESENT that, and I don't want him hidden anyway.

If a badge is so effing important, Why not put it by the member's name where it says "Comment by...."???

Comment by Joan Denoo on June 30, 2015 at 10:39am

Ruth, I did not have a fever, the outside temperature was 85 degrees F, a first as far as I know. August used to be our hot month and this year's temps for June exceed that of usual Augusts. 

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on June 30, 2015 at 10:23am

Joan, thanks for sharing how the nearby wildfires are impacting your family. I hope your fever is gone and you feel better. I didn't realize Washington was such a part of the problem. Wildfires are about twice normal now in Alaska and NW Canada.

Richard, the badges for mont hly donations are fantastic. My only suggestion is that they be maybe 25% smaller in the small profile pic associated with member activity. Notice how the badge eats a fourth of my face. I don't care about special rooms or privileges. I donate because AN is important to me, and I use it heavily just as it is.

For those of you who do not appreciate having a badge stuck to your icon, I remind you that this is science based. Research shows that for people to donate to worthy cause, most need to be seen as donors in that community. Plus visual identifiers remind people that others aren't freeloaders. This little "nudge" is perfectly justified, in my view. This sort of activity is how collective moral behavior emerges in a group. It makes us more of a community, not less. It's not dehumanizing. I want AN to survive.

Comment by Richard Haynes on June 30, 2015 at 9:40am

FYI: If you do not wish to have the member badge on your profile, just contact me. It is easy to remove. However, you will not have access to any exclusives that will come along with it.

The badges are a way for us to say thank you, and a proud way to display your support. Also, I understand that not all can contribute. I respect and understand that. However, to be frank, the only other option is to shut the site down. As I stated in the email, I cannot afford to personally pay for so much of it. 

I remain open to any creative ideas.

Comment by Joan Denoo on June 30, 2015 at 1:12am

Cary woke me at 5:00 AM this morning and the temperature was 85 degrees F. I have never felt a morning like that in Spokane before. I used to feel them when we lived in Texas. I worked about four hours and came in exhausted. 

Laura, Larry, Michelle and Jared are all geared up to move as soon as a call comes into about any fire. They volunteer and go out on called all hours of the night and day, 365 days a year. Jacob, the 16-year-old is now able to go on fire calls but is restricted about what he is able to do. They all have full time jobs to tend to, but leave for their various duties. 

Wenatchee is in the midst of a terrible fire now. 

Photographer captures heart-breaking scenes of wildfire's rage

Comment by Joan Denoo on June 30, 2015 at 12:55am

Carl, I like your new avatar! Very handsome indeed! I am relieved to learn that your federal assistance comes in for you. 

I like the idea of no badges and no tiered access to information. You offer a good idea about contacting Richard and appreciate that you are willing to do it. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on June 29, 2015 at 8:46pm

Pat, that's such a great movie!  One of Humphrey Bogart's many classics.  The Treasure of the Sierra Madre (1948)......in case anyone was interested.

I like your suggestion of having the badges display optional.  Perhaps I could get a note off to Richard about this conversation.  It's only been discussed here in Hang With Friends, as far as I know.  I'm curious what the rest of the users on this website have to say. 

 

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