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What Annoys God Most? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris on Thursday. 9 Replies

Long story short, it's those near misses, the almost-but-not-quite, close but no cheroot moments, or, would you believe ... Near Death Experiences!  So what's the big deal?  Betty Bowers, America's BEST Christian and self-proclaimed expert on such…Continue

Tags: Near Death Experiences, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

degrading love — part one (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Nov 22. 11 Replies

Love is by many considered among the highest of positive emotions.  Yet when love of the type offered by deities is examined, something seems to go seriously wrong.  The love of Yahweh seems less a gift than a demand, not so much beneficence as a…Continue

Tags: TheraminTrees, god, love

Ning, Error 500s, and Whether to Migrate

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Nov 13. 47 Replies

I just got the following notice from Ning yesterday, (31 October, 2016), in the wake of this latest website outage:As some of you may be aware, we experienced a system outage earlier this morning. The cause was due to a specific network…Continue

Tags: downtime, Atheist Nexus, Ning

Introducing Douglas Murray

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller Nov 7. 4 Replies

Most of us who have been around atheism for a while know the heavyweights of our ilk.  Names like Hitchens, Dawkins, Dennett, Harris, Dillahunty and AronRa get nearly daily mention in posts and discussions on Atheist Nexus.  One name I was…Continue

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If There's a God - She's a Woman - The Author T

Started by Joe. Last reply by Chris Nov 3. 4 Replies

I came across this story and thought some here might find it interesting and humorous.It’s titled:If There’s a GodShe’s a WomanFrom the Series:Things You Can Learn from a VaginaIts on the website TheAuthorT.com under the tab, “Free to Read…Continue

His Dark Materials and the Catholic Church

Started by Tonya R. Wheeler. Last reply by k.h. ky Oct 30. 35 Replies

I recently watched the movie, "The Golden Compass" and since I could not find the sequels, I read the books. I enjoyed them, and I will be reading the first one, Northern Lights, starting tomorrow, since it just arrived via inter-library…Continue

Tags: Fantasy, Catholic, Religion, Atheist, Pullman

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Comment by Joan Denoo on December 7, 2015 at 5:31pm

Ian, sorry to learn of your malaise. Depression can be a dreadful experience. I urge you to do everything you can to get out of the dumps.  Worry can be so debilitating; it saps your energy and the energy of those who care about you. 

There are many kinds of therapy and some work quickly and get one back on one's feet, others seem not to be so effective. 

I prefer "Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). It is designed to help people find new ways of dealing with hurtful thoughts and behaviors. Instead of delving into the past to determine where a feeling or emotion comes from, CBT helps patients become more aware of how their beliefs or actions are contributing to depression. Once those are identified, a therapist will work with his or her patient to replace those negative attitudes with more positive ones. There may be daily or weekly exercises and guidance involved to help patients apply the skills they learn in therapy to the real world. Research has shown that many people who undergo CBT for depression see significant improvement."

Learning new skills, identifying situations that influence me to feel anger, fear, sadness, guilt, or shame, and then exploring ways to solve a problem if it is solvable, or learning ways to let go of the hurtful feelings, or accept reality without creating delusions. 

Many people turn to religion for a crutch when they feel helpless or hopeless. That is just another delusion and doesn't solve anything. Some claim to feel better with religion; it is a mental construct that allows them to give the problem to god and let go. 

Letting go of a bad feeling requires solving a problem or reframing the experience into a healthy way of thinking. For example, when a person experiences the death of a child, instead of giving the pain to god, a healthy response is to face the reality of the loss, express gratitude for the one who died. Reframe the grief into gratitude.

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 7, 2015 at 4:50pm

Randy, thanks for asking Carl for his update. I watch each mail to see if there is a word from him even as I know the recovery of energy level takes time. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 7, 2015 at 4:47pm

Carl, thank you for the update. I am very happy to learn the surgery and hospital experience went well and you came home ready to walk the road to recovery.

Your regime sounds very similar to my follow-up. When the first year was over, I felt a loss of not seeing my Cancer Care NW medical staff. I do have follow-ups now, but only every three months. Daniel's regime is different than mine. I experienced the weekly, then monthly, and now every three months check-up. I experienced the blood draws as virtually painless procedures. I hope your experiences are similar to mine. 

How is your sister doing? I think of you two often. If there is an energy that goes between people, I send you my thoughts for both of you reaching a new normal that works for you.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 7, 2015 at 4:06pm
Thanks for asking, Randy. Overall I'm doing well. Everything related to my transplant has progressed nicely. The surgery was a complete success and I'm healing quite well. Last week I had my thirty-four incision staples removed. The only problems I have is dealing with the anti-rejection drugs. They are causing nausea, hand tremors, and a general feeling of malaise and aloofness. Hopefully these symptoms will diminish over time. I left the hospital on very high doses. For the next several months the doctors will be tweaking my dose levels. The anti-rejection drugs lower your immune system so the body doesn't reject the new kidney, but too low is bad and too high causes bad side effects. I'm taking these meds twice a day, every day. I was told eventually I will be on a much lower dose daily or perhaps even once weekly. All this takes time and a lot of blood draws to determine the correct dose for me. I'm having to have my blood tested three times per week. Next week will start only twice per week for a month. The third month is once weekly. It's all a slow progression.

I'm also seeing a physical therapist twice per week to strengthen my legs, as my kidney disease caused such weekness. Getting my legs back to normal is expected to take several months.

I'm also on a 10-pound lifting restriction until December 24. Thank God the following day I'll be able to hold the baby Jesus when he arrives! :)
Comment by Bertold Brautigan on December 7, 2015 at 3:54pm

Tweak his cheek for me, Carl

Comment by Randall Smith on December 7, 2015 at 7:54am

Carl, what's the latest on your kidney transplant and all other health related issues? You're holding out on us!

Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 6, 2015 at 9:15pm

Ian, at least you can now see the light at the end of the tunnel. You're doing a good thing by putting your own priorities first.  

Comment by Ian Mason on December 6, 2015 at 9:09am

Thanks, good people. The nice thing is I'll still be getting paid for 3 months afterwards. Then the hunt for a new job starts.

Comment by Randall Smith on December 6, 2015 at 7:56am

Gracious, Ian! That's not a good way to end your work (job) life. All I can say is hang in there. It won't be long. Then, FREEDOM!

Comment by Plinius on December 6, 2015 at 1:18am

Rooting for you, Ian! 

 

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