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Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Peak Prosperity News Update - 2-12-2016

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Plinius yesterday. 1 Reply

Here is what is happening in the financial news today 2-12-2016Continue

...but intelligent people believe in God (DarkMatter2525)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat yesterday. 3 Replies

A ridiculous claim should be recognized as such as a matter of course, shouldn't it?  Shouldn't It?!?  What happens if that claim is so imbued and integrated into society over hundreds if not thousands of years that it has been taken as TRUTH…Continue

Tags: religion, indoctrination, ridiculous claim

Optical Illusions

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jan 31. 66 Replies

This one seems a bit creepy, like the middle one shouldn't be able to change rotation like that. from Cheezburger.comContinue

White House Petition: Change National Motto Back to "E Pluribus, Unum"

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by k.h. ky Jan 22. 8 Replies

There is a petition being sponsored by whitehouse.gov to remove "in god we trust" as the national motto and replace it with the original: "E Pluribus, Unum" or "Out of Many, One."  As of this writing, there are around 11,000 signatures on it, with…Continue

Tags: E Pluribus, Unum, in god we trust, petition

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISIS

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller Dec 24, 2015. 3 Replies

There Is Only One Way to Destroy ISISGrowth in population, policies and practices that create a gap between the typical person and the wealthy,…Continue

coming out (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Atheist in FundyLand Dec 23, 2015. 6 Replies

Whether as atheist, agnostic, gay / Lesbian or whatever, the process of coming out has been a repeated topic of discussion here on Atheist Nexus and for good reason: it is at once a necessary yet potentially supremely painful process, depending on…Continue

Tags: Lesbian, agnostic, gay, atheist, TheraminTrees

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Comment by k.h. ky on February 21, 2015 at 5:42pm
Cat, we were -12 last night. It warmed enough to rain today. Back to the cold tomorrow night.
Comment by Joan Denoo on February 20, 2015 at 11:56pm

Grinning Cat, I guess it is just as well I didn't get BDSM, not exactly my cup of tea. Now Loren's cartoon looks funny. Thanks. 

Ruth, that storm shouts out, UNSETTLED WEATHER PATTERNS! Maybe people deny weather change but they can't deny this.

Going from 7 degrees tonight to 46 degrees on Sunday ... OhOh that spells flooding in my neighborhood and if I remember my Washington  DC years, there is a lot of @ sea level ground. 

I think it is time for me to stop complaining about not having enough snow. 

Comment by Grinning Cat on February 20, 2015 at 10:54pm

Yup... going down to 7 degrees tonight. Some snow tomorrow afternoon; but 46 degrees on Sunday.

Comment by k.h. ky on February 20, 2015 at 10:31pm
I'm right here with you Ruth. Stinks doesn't it.
Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on February 20, 2015 at 10:05pm

I live in PA. Notice it's in the middle of this week's polar vortex.

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We're not used to 5°F.

Comment by Grinning Cat on February 20, 2015 at 9:56pm

It's a takeoff on the movie Fifty Shades of Grey, whose story revolves around a BDSM relationship.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 20, 2015 at 9:07pm

I guess I am going to have to do a little hunting to find out "50 shades of pink" means before I get the point. 

Comment by Loren Miller on February 20, 2015 at 8:56pm

Considering a recent release at the movies, I thought the following might be ... well ... interesting, if nothing else.

Comment by Ian Mason on February 19, 2015 at 12:05pm

Many wise words today. Thank you.

I'm stealing "go far" it's so good.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on February 18, 2015 at 9:42pm

Good luck with your snow-bound days, k.h. ky.

Ian, I’m glad your family is hanging in there.

I’m happy to see you back, Flying Atheist! I wouldn’t go so far as to assume “long-standing and festering personality and character issues”. We all have a suite of communications and thought tools, some better than others. Just one instance of using a poor tool can generate a landslide of pain. I remember an argument I had with my husband, years ago. He used one blaming word, in 20 minutes, and that one word hung me up as if a nail through my heart. He’s a highly skilled psychologist with graduate training in communications skills. It wasn’t until I’d worked out with him how that word hit me, and he retracted it, that we could reach an understanding and forgive one another.

So I urge you not to imagine deep seated festering character issues on the basis of a verbal argument. Just one or two poor choices can create an escalating painful episode, where pain makes us less and less able to communicate as adults, makes us regress and forget our skills. Very few people have the good fortune to study communications skills at the graduate level. We use the thought and word tools we’ve learned, and those toolkits can include blaming, defining the other person or ourselves by a few poor choices, invidious comparison, etc. It doesn’t mean we’re defective people, any more than we’d be defective people because we never learned gourmet cooking or computer programming.

This medium, of black and white words on a screen, is far more difficult to navigate emotionally than being face to face. It’s easy to offend at a distance, just as shouting insults from a hilltop is easy. We primates evolved means of reconciling differences and making up with nonverbal cues and touch, which require close contact. As I see it all of us are doing the best we can to be friends in this difficult medium.  

Joan, thanks for your support. :)

Love the African proverb, Plinius. Thanks.

 

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