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Guns: Both Sides Now (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat yesterday. 2 Replies

Oh, NO!  The gun debate has gotten so heated that it has Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, TALKING TO HERSELF!  Apparently, one of her has had a stroke or a serious breakdown in cognitive skills, as she does little more than parrot the NRA's…Continue

Tags: NRA, guns, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

the value of offence | qualiasoup & theramintrees

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Patricia Mar 3. 3 Replies

To me, this is a big deal (though it may not be to them): two great YouTube video producers have joined forces to deliver one very powerful message on an important subject.  TheraminTrees and QualiaSoup (brothers, I believe) have recently released a…Continue

Tags: offence, offense, QualiaSoup, TheraminTrees

The myth of religions

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Feb 16. 3 Replies

The creation myth of civilizations instructs men to dominate, to conquer, to go forth and multiply. No reasonable person would pay attention to such a god. No hunter-gatherer receives such a senseless message from wise elders.However, that idea…Continue

Tags: masculine, violation, imperative, go forth and multiply,, conquest

Winter Driving, Preparing for the worst

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Feb 1. 2 Replies

Now that we enter the time the Celtics called Imbolc, a pagan celebration of the beginning of spring and season of new life, I ran across this video on preparing for winter driving. It offers reasons for each thing he puts in his vehicles to be safe…Continue

Tags: prepare, driving, winter

A Powerful Message from an old wise teacher :

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Chris Dec 26, 2017. 10 Replies

I received a gift this morning from a virtual friend, Pamela Smith:A Powerful Message from an old wise teacher :" One day an old wise teacher was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on June 25, 2017 at 5:02pm

Randy, I am sorry to learn of the financial difficulties your kids have and that it puts you in a vulnerable spot. I like your plan to loan them the money, with definite conditions: cut back, save more.  

It is difficult in these days and many farms and businesses will be failing. Our city of Spokane, and also Newport, have so many closed stores, even as new malls go in. Even the doctors' buildings have vacancies.  

Sadly, too many people do know see what is coming, economically.  My daughter told me the other night that she and Larry and their friends just laugh at me because I tell them all indicators are in place for a depression like nothing we have ever seen.  

Under all is the land!

I decided to not sell my house because I know its value will rise in the recovery and all I have to pay are taxes and insurance. They don't think I know what I talk about. They make fun of me even as they are respectful toward me to my face.  

I'll be dead before the things that I expect to happen and they will not make any difference to me, so I agreed to sell.  

They don't realize that now is not the time to be in debt!

Smarty Pants! They know more than I do, they both own their businesses, they both have noticed a downturn in their businesses, they don't see that as a sign.

Oh! Well! the beetles and bacteria will be gnawing away at my bones and my children and their spouses will look back and realize I am not the old woman with wild ideas.  

Randy, you still have years ahead of you. Take care of your interests!

Comment by Joan Denoo on June 25, 2017 at 3:29pm

Bertold, life offers many pleasures when we focus on "caring about the environment, truth, justice or social issues." Sure, there are problems AND there are solutions. Whining not being one of them. 

Describing is different than whining. 

Describing calls attention to a problem, chronicles it over time, defines it, interprets it, names it, and reports it. 

Whining is the same as griping, wailing, moaning, whimpering, it makes a sound about a problem that has no description, definition, or action connected to it. I have family members, long ago dead, who spent their whole lives whining about this or that. Nary any effort to find a solution or end the " whiz or whistle through the air."

Whine: "to complain in a feeble way" is first recorded 1530. The noun is from 1633, a northern form of O.E. hwinsian survives, 

whinge "to complain peevishly."

Comment by Ian Mason on June 25, 2017 at 2:24pm

I've been away for the weekend, to the pleasant Jutland town of Silkeborg, visiting a good friend and enjoying the annual 'Riverboat' jazz festival. Good stuff, with everything from small swing trios to bigger jive bands. No photos because you can't take snaps of music but here's an ariel picture of the town. A pleasant place that sits on the mid-Jutland lakes.

Comment by Ian Mason on June 25, 2017 at 2:16pm

It's good that you can help, Randall. I hope things turn out well for you and them.

Comment by Plinius on June 25, 2017 at 3:15am

I'm glad you can help, Randall! Succes!

Comment by Thomas Murray on June 24, 2017 at 1:01pm


I agree with Kathy on this one. You could go in as limited partnership with them. I think C.S.A. is a great idea. We used to live across the street from these guys....

They were successful because their farm is right in the middle of community of houses and families plus they are CSA as well.

Do you think your family could contact other C.S.A. farms and see how they manage? I supposed if your farm was in Washington or Colorado you could grow "medical marijuana" as supplement income.... Wadda you think? Would Indiana allow this?

Comment by kathy: ky on June 24, 2017 at 12:23pm
Randy, with your money and farm at stake you have every right to be a more active participant in how the business is ran. Few of us like to get involved in our children's business but this is also your business.
Comment by Randall Smith on June 24, 2017 at 7:36am

My third daughter and her husband manage an organic vegetable farm (mine), in their 5th year ( Well, yesterday, they both broke down in my presence to say they can't pay their debts--to the bank(s), bills, even me. They were distraught.

I knew they were "overextended", but I didn't realize how much. Their income comes mainly from CSA customers and Indianapolis restaurant sales, the latter drastically cutting back on orders. They quit going to farmers markets because they thought they could make ends meet without them. Big mistake.

I offered to loan/give them a major chunk of money (6 digits) to "get them over the hump". They were reluctant, but ultimately resigned to accept. This is not the first time I've had to help them, but, hopefully, the last. Fortunately, I have the money.

I'm optimistic the farm will make it. They both work so hard. Usually, I stay out of their way--especially Nate (he's stubborn). I'm no farmer or even a businessman. But, I do know how to save money. So I'm going to submit my suggestions and recommendations in an attempt to save their livelihood (and my farm!).  Basically the message will be to downsize--"less is more". Spend half as much and save twice as much. I'm going to become their "manager", being less passive and more forceful. The loan will come with a caveat: "Listen to what I have to say!"

We'll see.

Comment by Chris on June 22, 2017 at 12:25am

I know I'm kookie because I don't follow  Abrihamic religions  that think/teach that  suffering is the way to redemption.

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on June 20, 2017 at 5:59pm

As Sister Teresa would tell you, the pain and misery aren't a bug, they're a feature.


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