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Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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The myth of religions

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Feb 16. 3 Replies

The creation myth of civilizations instructs men to dominate, to conquer, to go forth and multiply. No reasonable person would pay attention to such a god. No hunter-gatherer receives such a senseless message from wise elders.However, that idea…Continue

Tags: masculine, violation, imperative, go forth and multiply,, conquest

Winter Driving, Preparing for the worst

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Joan Denoo Feb 1. 2 Replies

Now that we enter the time the Celtics called Imbolc, a pagan celebration of the beginning of spring and season of new life, I ran across this video on preparing for winter driving. It offers reasons for each thing he puts in his vehicles to be safe…Continue

Tags: prepare, driving, winter

A Powerful Message from an old wise teacher :

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Chris Dec 26, 2017. 10 Replies

I received a gift this morning from a virtual friend, Pamela Smith:A Powerful Message from an old wise teacher :" One day an old wise teacher was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have…Continue

10 Tricks from 46 (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 6, 2017. 3 Replies

Apparently, Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, has been slumming.  That is to say, she's been talking to Mike Pence [gasp!].  It would seem as though Mike has offered some of his not-so-personal tricks of the trade on how to be a 21st century…Continue

Tags: tricks, Mike Pence, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Grinning Cat Oct 19, 2017. 99 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

Tags: surreal

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Comment by Plinius on May 1, 2017 at 12:57am

We're all right, Joan. Reading a lot about transgenderism, slowly connecting with different groups and organizations who can help find out the why and how and what to do next. It's about time to contact a genderclinic, and that means lots of talks, examinations and so on. It's a slow process that could take years and every step has to be examined and decided on. You know where you start but only general things about the rest - just like life.

In the meantime we go on happily. 99 percent of reactions on Luca were very positive and 1 percent crawled back into the woodwork. We're lucky to live in an apartment block where many people are higher educated, atheist and/or gay, perhaps there are some reasons that we have no problems with tolerance. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 30, 2017 at 5:41pm
First, production moved offshore to low-wage markets;
second, banking moved overseas to avoid paying US taxes;
third, robots use increased as the producer of products in the US and in international sites;
fourth, labor unions weakened as an excess of unemployed workers occurred.
Therefore, we have an increase in production, a decrease in the need for workers, and an excess of people looking for work.
Individuals cannot solve these problems, only nations with policies and practices that recognize the changes taking place on this planet.
The problems show up clearly.
The options to solve these problems do not become evident.
What say you?
Comment by Joan Denoo on April 30, 2017 at 4:55pm

Plinius, I don't want to intrude, and I don't want you to share more than with which you feel comfortable.  

I am curious about the challenge you and your partner face and how you resolve them.

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 30, 2017 at 4:52pm

Chris, the trend toward private-for-profit-prisons provides the wrong incentives for management of prisons and for communities. We should be trying to get alternatives to prison, the shortest terms possible, and offer excellent education in the trades for those who want to learn a trade. We need to be strong advocates for prison reform.  

Comment by Joan Denoo on April 30, 2017 at 1:02pm

Chris, it has been years since I read "The Crucible" and it evoked a particular emotion in me. My paternal grandmother descended from accusers and judges at the Salem witch trials. I returned to the place of the trials, visited the spot where a warlock was crushed to death, houses, and rooms of accusers. It was the 300th anniversary of the trials and witches wandered everywhere. It was a strange experience. 

My paternal grandmother and my father had puritan beliefs. My uncle was a Superior Court Judge. My cousins and I often discussed the nature of our upbringing and the learnings we had to overcome in order to be healthy. 

Comment by Chris on April 30, 2017 at 3:59am

The play "The Crucibal," written by Author Miller is a great play.


Comment by Chris on April 30, 2017 at 3:12am

As though gender Identity couldn't become any more complicated Facebook presents

What Each of Facebook’s 51 New Gender Options Means


For ten years, the social network limited billions of people identifying as either male or female. Now there are dozens of terms to pick from. Here’s how to understand them all.

02.15.14 2:45 AM ET

Imagine you’re a man. You think everything about you looks like a man should look. You have short hair and a little scruff on your face. When you were born, the doctors said, “It’s a boy!” and that’s how your parents raised you. You’ve always shopped for guys’ clothes and no one has ever called you anything other than a boy, guy, dude, or man. Then one day at a restaurant, the waiter asks you, “Can I get you anything to drink, ma’am?”

If feeling like a man, but being called “ma’am”, would be uncomfortable, jarring, or at least surprising, perhaps you can imagine what it might feel like to be perceived as a gender other than your own.

Most of us never question or think much about our gender, but it’s an essential part of our identity. And given the endlessly diverse ways people experience their gender, their bodies, and their masculinity or femininity, it’s a wonder there are so few words to describe it. Except there are actually (at least) dozens of gender terms, and Facebook is now offering its users numerous options to present their gender identity to their Facebook friends in the same way they do in the real world (or a different way – because, hey, and it’s your gender identity and you can do what you want)...."

Comment by Plinius on April 30, 2017 at 1:34am

You have to do what works for you, the gender expectations become a cage before you know it. Now that partner and I are considering changes - see my blog - we're happy that we made our own choices.

I've been struggling with a new provider and many pc-settings that I understand only partly. It will take some days more and I'll be off-line.  

Comment by Ian Mason on April 30, 2017 at 12:09am

Anger can be a part of things, Joan but not always the best tactic. Geldof and Bono work as a double act with Geldof being the angry one and Bono the reasonable one. It  gets results.

I too felt uncomfortable with the world's gender expectations. It felt like family, friends and lovers wanted something I didn't have but were not interested in what I did have. I'm somewhat over that now but, like you get annoyed when I feel that pre-determined roles are being forced on me.

Comment by Chris on April 30, 2017 at 12:03am

I'm glad citizens are finally begining to speak their mind and become political activists.

A poll taking company called me on behalf of a ballot measure to build another 'Jail' in the city to catch overflows from state prisons.

I told the polster I wouldn't vote to build a newer bigger city jail to hold state offenders because so many of them are in prison for drug crimes and may not be violent.

The Article Prisons, Jails, and People Arrested for Drugs reports:

(Number Of People Serving Time For Drug, Violent, Property, and Other Offenses In US Prisons)
Federal Prisons:
"Almost 50% (92,000 prisoners) of sentenced federal prisoners on September 30, 2015 (the most recent date for which federal offense data are available) were serving time for drug offenses (table 10) (appendix table 6). An additional 36% of federal offenders (67,500 prisoners) were imprisoned for public order offenses, including 30,200 (16% of all federal prisoners) for weapons offenses and 14,900 (8%) for adjudicated immigration crimes. While 53% of sentenced state prisoners were serving time for violent offenses, 7% of federal prisoners (13,700 prisoners) were serving sentences for violent crimes.
"Among female federal prisoners, 59% were serving sentences for drug offenses, compared to 49% of males. A larger proportion of white prisoners in federal prison (42%) were serving time for public order offenses on September 30, 2015 than blacks (32%) or Hispanics (37%). More than half of black (51%) and Hispanic (58%) federal prisoners in 2015 were convicted of drug offenses."

State Prisons:
"More than half (53% or 696,900 prisoners) of all state prisoners sentenced to more than 1 year on December 31, 2014 (the most recent year for which state prison offense data are available) were serving sentences for violent offenses on their current term of imprisonment (table 9) (appendix table 5). At yearend 2014, 13% of sentenced prisoners (171,700 prisoners) were serving time in state prison for murder or nonnegligent manslaughter. An additional 162,800 state prisoners (12%) had been sentenced for rape or sexual assault. On December 31, 2015, 249,900 state prisoners (19%) were sentenced to at least 1 year for property offenses. Sixteen percent of state prisoners were serving sentences for drug-related offenses (206,300 prisoners).
"Violent offenders represented more than half (54%) of the sentenced male state prisoners. More than a third (36%) of female prisoners were violent offenders. Eighteen percent (223,700) of male state prisoners and 28% (26,000) of females were sentenced for property offenses. Twenty-five percent of female state prisoners (23,500 females) and 15% of male state prisoners (182,700 males) were sentenced for drug offenses."

- See more at:

The U.S. is still fighting a "War" on drugs.

(Number Of People Serving Time For Drug, Violent, Property, and Other Offenses In US Prisons)
Federal Prisons:
"Almost 50% (92,000 prisoners) of sentenced federal prisoners on September 30, 2015 (the most recent date for which federal offense data are available) were serving time for drug offenses (table 10) (appendix table 6)....

State Prisons:
"More than half (53% or 696,900 prisoners) of all state prisoners sentenced to more than 1 year on December 31, 2014...

Portugal seems to be doing okay after decriminalizing drugs.


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