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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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The Burial Waltz

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Donatien Alphonse François on Wednesday. 4 Replies

Hi everyone,It was almost a half-century ago, at age 15 or so, that I encountered one of the more important influences in my life: a crazy group of poets/musicians who called themselves The Fugs.They had a huge impact on me in that, though raised in…Continue

Some William Blake to Ponder

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Donatien Alphonse François Apr 25. 6 Replies

Hello all,I'm new here, and so hope this isn't old hat. But, I just had to point you toward a marvelous poem by William Blake in case you've never read it. Despite his sometimes heavily tinged biblical references in his other art and poetry, this…Continue

God's Not Dead - The Christian Persecution Complex (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Annie Willis Apr 20. 7 Replies

Doubtless most if not all of you have heard about that sorry piece of cinema known as God's Not Dead, and perhaps its sequel, cleverly entitled: God's Not Dead 2 (wow, how original!).  Personally, I have wasted neither time nor money on either,…Continue

Tags: God's Not Dead, patheos, Neil Carter, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

Confirmed: flagged by religious people for "bullying."

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller Apr 19. 4 Replies

According to Seth Andrews @SethAndrewsTTA  Apr 16"Confirmed. TTA was flagged by religious people for "bullying." Apparently, criticism and skepticism = persecution. #GodHatesFacts"Others reported as "Flagged" and taken off line: @The Thinking…Continue

Tags: @SethAndrewsTTA, @morehead_sarah, @Matt_Dillahunty, @jteberhard, confirmed

The Value of Atheist Nexus ... and of Keeping Contact

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Apr 17. 13 Replies

I don't know about you, but the last 24+ hours were VERY uncomfortable for me.  Why?  Because something I value a LOT, being Atheist Nexus and the people I care about on A|N were temporarily unavailable to me.  No, we're not Facebook; I don't think…Continue

Tags: maintenance, community, availability, Atheist Nexus

Atheist Pig STRIKES AGAIN!!!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Qiana-Maieev Apr 5. 1 Reply

There's no getting around it, Atheist Pig is fast becoming my fave secular comic, and as evidence, I refer you to the following.  Jesus and Mo had better watch their respective asses, 'cuz they got a porker coming up on the outside, and I'm pretty…Continue

Tags: Atheist Pig

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Comment by Ian Mason on February 19, 2015 at 12:05pm

Many wise words today. Thank you.

I'm stealing "go far" it's so good.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on February 18, 2015 at 9:42pm

Good luck with your snow-bound days, k.h. ky.

Ian, I’m glad your family is hanging in there.

I’m happy to see you back, Flying Atheist! I wouldn’t go so far as to assume “long-standing and festering personality and character issues”. We all have a suite of communications and thought tools, some better than others. Just one instance of using a poor tool can generate a landslide of pain. I remember an argument I had with my husband, years ago. He used one blaming word, in 20 minutes, and that one word hung me up as if a nail through my heart. He’s a highly skilled psychologist with graduate training in communications skills. It wasn’t until I’d worked out with him how that word hit me, and he retracted it, that we could reach an understanding and forgive one another.

So I urge you not to imagine deep seated festering character issues on the basis of a verbal argument. Just one or two poor choices can create an escalating painful episode, where pain makes us less and less able to communicate as adults, makes us regress and forget our skills. Very few people have the good fortune to study communications skills at the graduate level. We use the thought and word tools we’ve learned, and those toolkits can include blaming, defining the other person or ourselves by a few poor choices, invidious comparison, etc. It doesn’t mean we’re defective people, any more than we’d be defective people because we never learned gourmet cooking or computer programming.

This medium, of black and white words on a screen, is far more difficult to navigate emotionally than being face to face. It’s easy to offend at a distance, just as shouting insults from a hilltop is easy. We primates evolved means of reconciling differences and making up with nonverbal cues and touch, which require close contact. As I see it all of us are doing the best we can to be friends in this difficult medium.  

Joan, thanks for your support. :)

Love the African proverb, Plinius. Thanks.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 18, 2015 at 12:08pm

Chris, a wonderful poster! Thanks. 

Comment by Plinius on February 18, 2015 at 4:53am

Glad to see Ian feels better and Carl is back!

I'd miss you all very much, so don't disappear!

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 18, 2015 at 3:12am

Ian, Happy to learn things settled down in your family and that you have contact with a nephew and keep in touch. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 18, 2015 at 3:05am

Ruth, as usual your good sense and calm manner rise to the occasion. You know how fond I am of you and am very glad you are in my life. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 18, 2015 at 3:01am

Carl, I am so relieved to read your words. I was the one who dug into the story and reported back what I found and I am so very sorry that I did that. I didn't know what to think and wanted more information. Well, obviously, I got into a fake report and made matters worse. 

My memory is really going, or I don't think I read ugly remarks. I know I didn't read anything that Patricia or Mindy said. I did read Felains alarm and thought it appropriate tho strong. That was Felaine being Felain and I mean that in a loving way. That is why I wanted to know what happened to the dog. This is another case of Joan being Joan. Just the facts, no drama, just accurate detail. 

I feel like an old mother hen who wants to keep her flock together and not pulling out each others feathers. Well, for gosh sakes, I am entitled. I am an old 79-year old woman who has seen trouble.

Carl, I hope you forgive my for my part in the kerfuffle.

How are you feeling now? What is your next milepost?

Comment by Ian Mason on February 17, 2015 at 9:41pm

Good to hear from you, Carl and glad that your break wasn't caused by health problems. 

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on February 17, 2015 at 8:02pm

Hate to rub it in, but it hit 64 degrees today and it was gorgeous. Getting lots of yardwork done.

Comment by k.h. ky on February 17, 2015 at 7:59pm
Berthold, I absolutely agree with that! We got 13 inches of snow the last 24 hours with another 2-3 inches predicted tonight. Then our temps will drop below zero :(
 

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