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bending truth, or "We Can All Be Manipulated" (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Donald R Barbera 3 hours ago. 35 Replies

The following is one of TheraminTrees' most thorough-going pieces, wherein he looks at the process and techniques whereby a "religious" organization (which will sound VERY familiar to most of us, once introductions are made!) takes a person who…Continue

Tags: indoctrination, truth, manipulation, TheraminTrees

punishing doubt (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Sep 6. 0 Replies

If you are associated with religion and especially a fundamentalist religion, doubt is intolerable.  Certainty, however it may be achieved or imposed, becomes a necessary element, especially considering the utter dearth of any form of evidence or…Continue

Tags: religion, TheraminTrees, punish, doubt

We Don't Want Your (Atheist) Money! (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Idaho Spud Sep 2. 17 Replies

I suppose I've heard stories like this before:Conscientious atheist donates money to worthy cause.Worthy cause initially accepts money.Worthy cause discovers source of donation.Worthy cause rejects donation.Swell, eh?  Well Matt Willbourne of…Continue

Tags: American Baptist Churches Association, Murrow Indian Children's Home, The Thinking Atheist, Seth Andrews

The Whole Bible in 30 Seconds (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Randy Hatly Sep 2. 3 Replies

Ever decide that you wanted to read the whole bible, cover to cover, only to realize half-way through Deuteronomy that the darn thing is industrial-strength BORING?!?  Well, never fear!  America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, has done the Cliff's…Continue

Tags: bible, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Are You a Patriot? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris G Aug 29. 22 Replies

You might think that Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, would be stepping outside of her comfort zone in tackling the concept of patriotism.  As it turns out, not only does she have a proper handle on the term and its implications, she also…Continue

Tags: patriot, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

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Comment by Qiana-Maieev on August 30, 2016 at 9:39pm

Good, or bad, the not knowing drives me nuts, ruins my sleep, & I can't think of anything else other than something is wrong.

Comment by Qiana-Maieev on August 30, 2016 at 9:36pm

When I get called to the office, I stress out, & would much rather just be told right then & there so I can process it rather than stewing.

But no doctor I have ever dealt with will do that, its always come to the clinic whether it be right away or days away. I want to know, & I want to know NOW!

Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on August 30, 2016 at 8:59pm
Oh, I should have just said - calling you i to the office doesnt suggest bad news or good news, it may just reflect the doctor's style or even that of their staff,
Comment by Daniel Wachenheim on August 30, 2016 at 8:46pm
My experience was that there is no standard in how test results are reported, and the way they teach in residency does not reflect either reality ir patient emotions. Personally, I hate the phone, and the vast majority of test results were emailed or mailed. If a simple change was needed - cholesterontoo high, needs higher dose of lipitor - that was conveyed via the nurse pool. If more complicated - there is a polyp that needs biopsy - I called and the first thing I said was "This is Dr xxx and Im calling to discuss your test result". Depending on the tesult, I might say "Are you driving? We cant discuss any results in traffic so when can I call you back?". If it was absolutely bad news - cancer, usually - I first got their referral for further staging or surgery, then when I called said, "The radiologist felt that your result showed a type of cancer... then when that seemed sort of digested, I continued "This is the plan...". One reality is that often a radiologist is not always tight when they see an abnormal finding, and other tests are needed.

Personally, I think it's pathetic to call people in to the office for a result, especially after the test is done. When possible, before the test, I tried to discuss with them " How should we discuss your result? Do you want it over the phone, or in person". Probably 99% of adults want it in person and are adult enough to handle what you tell them on the phone.

I usually request my own CT scan results by email. They are too busy to call, it's ridiculous to return to their office. I just take control and tell them, "It's much more nerve wracking to wait. It either shows metastatic cancer, or something vague, or something else, or it's negative. In any case just send it to me and we'll go from there. I'm mature enough to handle bad news and prefer reading it to hearing it. I realize that my situation is different, but that's what I do,
Comment by Joan Denoo on August 30, 2016 at 7:42pm

Gosh, Kathy, I suppose it depends on the kind of relationship you have with your doctor. 

In 2013, my primary care doctor called and said, "Joan, it's cancer!" That is all. No, "Hi, how are you," or "Brace yourself" it was just "It's cancer". My response was, "OK now what do we do?" Then began the most incredible experiences of my life. 

Wow! Qiana, your experience is very different than mine. 

Well, Kathy, I suppose you could brace yourself for the worst, listen carefully to the diagnosis and proposed treatment plan, and then go from there. You might want to take someone with you so that you have a second pair of ears hearing what is said. 

Comment by k.h. ky on August 30, 2016 at 7:04pm
It's always be the reverse here.
Comment by Qiana-Maieev on August 30, 2016 at 6:57pm

I NEVER get results of anything over the phone. IF I get the phone call, I ALWAYS have to go in to see the dr., most of which is usually something simple & could have been done over the phone, but how do they collect a visit fee that way?

Comment by k.h. ky on August 30, 2016 at 4:50pm
I had a routine blood draw yesterday. And an ultrasound of my gallbladder. Today I had the hida scan. This a couple hours ago the doctors office called and told me they have the results of my blood work but I need to go see my doctor for the results.
Does anyone else have to see their doctor for that??? Prior to this they have always given me the results on the phone. High cholesterol, need vit d etc. They just call the pharmacy with the prescription. I can't imagine being called in for him to tell me everything is fine or I need vit d.

Anyone???
Comment by Joan Denoo on August 30, 2016 at 12:50pm

Gene Wilder's nephew reveals poignant reason Hollywood star kept hi...

Just about everything one can know about one performer. I like his silly smile, i.e. 

Don't pray for me; I'm an atheist 

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on August 30, 2016 at 12:35pm

That's funny Ian.

I like your lazy slug, Joan. Me too.

Didn't know Gene Wilder was an Atheist. Nice lol, Bertold.

 

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