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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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A Powerful Message from an old wise teacher :

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Thomas Murray on Saturday. 5 Replies

I received a gift this morning from a virtual friend, Pamela Smith:A Powerful Message from an old wise teacher :" One day an old wise teacher was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have…Continue

Speak English? YOU FIRST! (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Thomas Murray on Friday. 4 Replies

Honestly, the title to this piece is badly under-representative of the content.  To be far more accurate, what we have here is Mrs. Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, going on a rant.  Before you say it ... Say WHAAAA?  Betty Bowers ranting? …Continue

Tags: America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

A Prayer for Our Nation (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on Friday. 2 Replies

I'm going to keep this one short and sweet.  Mrs. Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, has seen what is going on with the current occupant of the Oval Office, and my impression is that she is not at all happy with it.  True to her citizenship,…Continue

Tags: prayer, Donald Trump, Oval Office, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Any Babymetal Fans Here?

Started by Bruce Carroll. Last reply by Idaho Spud Sep 12. 5 Replies

Any Babymetal fans here besides me? I have to ask because 1) I really like Babymetal and 2) Babymetal unknowingly played a role in my journey out of religion.For those who are unfamiliar with Babymetal, here is a link to one of their most popular…Continue

Tags: Japanese Idol, Babymetal

If you could rid the world of one thing, what would it be?

Started by Idaho Spud. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Sep 11. 30 Replies

Today, I heard Seth Andrews talk about the question, "If you could rid the world of one thing, what would it be?"  My first thought was religion, but after a few seconds I decided it would be irrational or anti-scientific thinking.  That would take…Continue

Tags: anti-scientific, irrational

Ignorance is Bliss: Why Religious People Seem Happier Than the 'Nones'”.

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Sep 11. 16 Replies

“Highly Religious Volunteer More, Lie Less, and Claim to Be Happier”~ Houston Chronicle; “Strongly Religious People are Happier than Non-Religious”  ~ Christian Daily."The study determined that 40 percent of highly religious adults—defined as those…Continue

Tags: Nones, happiness, non-religiosity, religiosity, bliss

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Comment by Joan Denoo on October 23, 2016 at 5:11pm

This morning at 12: 27 AM Cary died of esophageal cancer with the aid of a doctor. His body was ravaged with the disease and was not able to have any operable or radiology that would prolong his live for many more days of life. He has been on palliative care since I took him to the ER as he hemorrhaged blood. 

The doctors, nurses and staff performed their arts and sciences impeccably and provided me with the clear description of what was happening in his body. Craig returned from Colorado, Laura and her husband and two daughters were with him for the afternoon and into the night. We discussed the prognosis with a clear understanding of what was happening and our options. We chose to pull the plug and see what would happen. They all stayed for the procedure and we touched his arms and legs as he breathed his last breath. It was very simple, just turned off the machines and he was gone within an hour. He was in no pain. We comforted each other.

Cary had a cough since last spring and we all, family and neighbors, and friends tried to talk him into going in. He refused, with strong anger. Laura talked to him privately why he would't go to the doctor and he said he had to take care of me. 

On Tuesday morning at 4:00 AM he woke me up hemorrhaging  blood. We went into the ER, immediately to ICU and processes began. He was in excruciating pain and was immediately heavily sedated. The family agreed on palliative care and then on Friday nigh all members of the family agreed that the tumor was not treatable, and with the advice of all the doctors involved, we agreed to pulling the plugs on all the machines. 

He breathed softly for a few minutes and then he was gone. 

Cary provided me faithful, loving, compassionate care as I was so very sick. I have many happy memories of him and he left us a legacy of a graceful and grateful death. 

I am at peace knowing he is out of pain, chemicals, and machines in order to stay alive for no longer than a month. 

Laura asked for a chaplain and she explained to him that Cary was an atheist and wanted no religious language in his comments. His thoughts and words comforted me and I could kiss Cary for the last time and walk away. 

I love you Cary, Mom 

Comment by Joan Denoo on October 23, 2016 at 4:46pm

I enjoy watching this family grow up even if they are teaching their children gender roles. There is much about their style that comforts me. The children's names are biblical but I don't hear biblical language. The parents are so different then my parents or me for the first ten years of their childhood that I enjoy a less violent way to raise children. I know some of you won't like it; go ahead express your opinion, I am able to have a  conversation with those who disagree with me. 

Comment by Randall Smith on October 23, 2016 at 7:39am

Yes, Joan is our rock. I miss her comments when she's "gone" for awhile.

As you can see, I survived the dinner and "sleepover". The kids were great. I had to work on table manners, however. That's what grandparents do!

Comment by kathy: ky on October 22, 2016 at 1:26pm
I hope Joan is trying to get some rest. And that everything is going as well as can be expected. She's been on my mind a lot.
Comment by Idaho Spud on October 21, 2016 at 1:08pm

There's usually 2 sides to an issue, and deciding which way to go is often a conundrum, especially the ones I get here in Idaho.  Most of them are not as easy to decide as the 3 you showed us (and not as important).

Comment by Daniel W on October 21, 2016 at 1:01pm

Randy, have fun!

Im usually not a fan of ballot measures.  However, I like these.  The State and US Congress have too much corporate control for those systems to enact there laws. 

Here is a website abouit ending Citizen's United

On the carbon tax, it's an example of how the people can take control of this issue.  I had some mixed feelings. It might not pass.   Commutes in my area are some of the worst in the country due to rapid Californication.   The infrastructure is overwhelmed.  But many of the people who pay the tax will be working people who can least afford it.  My county is more affourdable housing than Portland, so a lot of the movement to here is economic.  The people don't have as much control over where their jobs are.   Still, I think we need to encourage solar and wind, and electric when well managed, discourage fossil fuel when possible, so there is a carrot and stick.

Comment by Idaho Spud on October 21, 2016 at 12:31pm

Ballot issues sound good Daniel.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on October 21, 2016 at 8:43am

That sounds like a fun time, Randy. A good meal with fun company.

I like those ballot issues, Daniel. If we end up with both a Democratic president and congress, I suspect Citizens United will be fixed by law.

Comment by Plinius on October 21, 2016 at 8:27am

Have a good time Randall!

Comment by Ian Mason on October 21, 2016 at 8:06am

Have a great time with the grandkids, Randall.

 

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