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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

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The Playboy Interview: Richard Dawkins

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Loren Miller 2 hours ago. 16 Replies

I suppose it was the news that Playboy magazine was returning nudes to its pages after a year's hiatus that sufficiently perked my curiosity to check them out again.  I hadn't looked at Playboy since perhaps 2008, when I began to recognize that I…Continue

Tags: Richard Dawkins, Playboy

God's Annual Performance Review (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Mar 19. 6 Replies

I don't know about you guys, but there wasn't a performance review I had in 30 years of field service that I didn't LOATHE.  It seems as though Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, is up for turning the tables on the person you would expect would…Continue

Tags: review, performance, god, American's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Learning a Language as a Mature Adult

Started by Daniel W. Last reply by Joan Denoo Mar 2. 28 Replies

Trying to keep my mind exercised, and not interested in most of the reading materials that I can find.I decided to attempt to learn a language.  Actually, two.  The dilemma is, how do I do that without going to school - not an option - and without…Continue

Such Lyrics!

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Grinning Cat Feb 13. 9 Replies

Hello Friends,I was ruminating a bit today on my sixty-some years existence. My mind went back to teenage years when I first figured out religion is not only obnoxiously loud, but also nothing I wanted anything to do with. Truly. I knew by age 15…Continue

degrading love — part two (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Feb 11. 1 Reply

TheraminTrees set up religion with his left in Part One of his treatise on how religion demeans and degrades the value of love.  Here in Part Two, he brings in a devastating, "Mike Tyson" right, which negates and invalidates any claim that either…Continue

Tags: Christianity, Islam, TheraminTrees, god, love

Questions......

Started by Thomas Murray. Last reply by k.h. ky Feb 9. 6 Replies

   It has been 6 month now since I signed up for Atheist Nexus membership. The past year has been sort of a bi-polar wave of emotions for me. I hope I wasn't offensive to the folks on here and I think I have been but I don't know to who. My desire…Continue

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Comment by The Flying Atheist on December 9, 2015 at 9:14pm

Kathy, I'm elated to hear you vision is back to 20/20.   That's fantastic!  I'm really happy for you.

My sister is doing quite well.  Like me, she gets tired very easily but is healing from the surgery nicely. 

Is anybody else not hearing the audio for Joan's "Sammy" link, or is it just me?

Joan, I remember you previously saying that the staff at your cancer center became like friends, after seeing them so often.  Yes, it's becoming the same situation with me at the kidney center.  I see them very often and I have an assigned nurse to my case who calls me regularly.  I have gotten the best of care from one of the leading transplant centers in the country.  I'm so lucky to live in their back yard.  The clinic is part of Northwestern Memorial Hospital.  When you drive through the parking garage, you see license plates from all over the country.  I'm also proud to say that my transplant surgeon and quite a few of the doctors who have treated me have been women!

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 9, 2015 at 5:15am
Comment by k.h. ky on December 8, 2015 at 6:28pm
Yes Ruth and my vision is 20/20. You were correct when you said it is easy and worth it. Kidney transplants, or any transplant, are a much different story. But they can give a person life. It's amazing what modern medicine can do.
Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on December 8, 2015 at 2:27pm

Thanks for your health update, Flying Atheist. <sigh> It can be hard to come back when the medicine makes you feel bad. At least you can expect things to ease over time. Meanwhile, be careful to avoid contagious people.

Ian, it will be over soon. Too bad you can't just join the ranks of the retired after your three month vacation.

Thanks for the good news, k.h. ky. I assume your vision is good now. My husband just got his second adjustable artificial lens and has to do 12 weeks of eye exercises. Did you get the traditional kind, as I did?

Comment by k.h. ky on December 8, 2015 at 1:41pm
Randy, not a problem! Cataract surgery is nothing. In and out in less than an hour with an excellent outcome! Nothing to it.
Comment by Randall Smith on December 8, 2015 at 8:24am

Sorry I forgot to ask about you, Kathy! It's just that cataract surgery is really no big deal, certainly not compared to a kidney transplant. Thanks, Carl, for the update. Glad to hear of your progress, albeit a slow and frustrating one.

For me, this group site is a good place to air out our problems, concerns, and happenings. Joan's move, Daniel's upcoming retirement (and health issues), Ian's work woes, Carl of course, etc. I feel quite fortunate not to have any major personal issues. I know I have a selfish streak in me, so I try to compensate by asking about others. Afterall, we all like to talk about ourselves.

Comment by k.h. ky on December 7, 2015 at 10:11pm
Joan I join you in thanking Randy for thinking to ask about Carl's health.
I had my last cataract surgery and hadn't been on here much while I was trying to put three types drops in my eye four times a day. I couldn't see much while that was being done. Now that both eyes are finished, and I'm down to two eye drop a day I'm amazed at what I can see. And the procedures were the easiest things I've ever had done.
Comment by k.h. ky on December 7, 2015 at 10:03pm
Carl, l had a young sister in law that had a kidney transplant and I remember her meds being tweaked. It takes a while but after you get the correct dose it's much less tiring and time consuming. How is your sister recovering?


Ian, you're almost there now. Just a few more days and you have it made!
Comment by Joan Denoo on December 7, 2015 at 5:31pm

Ian, sorry to learn of your malaise. Depression can be a dreadful experience. I urge you to do everything you can to get out of the dumps.  Worry can be so debilitating; it saps your energy and the energy of those who care about you. 

There are many kinds of therapy and some work quickly and get one back on one's feet, others seem not to be so effective. 

I prefer "Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). It is designed to help people find new ways of dealing with hurtful thoughts and behaviors. Instead of delving into the past to determine where a feeling or emotion comes from, CBT helps patients become more aware of how their beliefs or actions are contributing to depression. Once those are identified, a therapist will work with his or her patient to replace those negative attitudes with more positive ones. There may be daily or weekly exercises and guidance involved to help patients apply the skills they learn in therapy to the real world. Research has shown that many people who undergo CBT for depression see significant improvement."

Learning new skills, identifying situations that influence me to feel anger, fear, sadness, guilt, or shame, and then exploring ways to solve a problem if it is solvable, or learning ways to let go of the hurtful feelings, or accept reality without creating delusions. 

Many people turn to religion for a crutch when they feel helpless or hopeless. That is just another delusion and doesn't solve anything. Some claim to feel better with religion; it is a mental construct that allows them to give the problem to god and let go. 

Letting go of a bad feeling requires solving a problem or reframing the experience into a healthy way of thinking. For example, when a person experiences the death of a child, instead of giving the pain to god, a healthy response is to face the reality of the loss, express gratitude for the one who died. Reframe the grief into gratitude.

Comment by Joan Denoo on December 7, 2015 at 4:50pm

Randy, thanks for asking Carl for his update. I watch each mail to see if there is a word from him even as I know the recovery of energy level takes time. 

 

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