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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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10 Tricks from 46 (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Nov 6. 3 Replies

Apparently, Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, has been slumming.  That is to say, she's been talking to Mike Pence [gasp!].  It would seem as though Mike has offered some of his not-so-personal tricks of the trade on how to be a 21st century…Continue

Tags: tricks, Mike Pence, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Grinning Cat Oct 19. 99 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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A Powerful Message from an old wise teacher :

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Plinius Sep 28. 8 Replies

I received a gift this morning from a virtual friend, Pamela Smith:A Powerful Message from an old wise teacher :" One day an old wise teacher was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have…Continue

Speak English? YOU FIRST! (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Donald R Barbera Sep 27. 5 Replies

Honestly, the title to this piece is badly under-representative of the content.  To be far more accurate, what we have here is Mrs. Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, going on a rant.  Before you say it ... Say WHAAAA?  Betty Bowers ranting? …Continue

Tags: America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

10 Things About Patriotism (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Plinius Sep 26. 2 Replies

It seems as though lately, Mrs. Betty Bowers, America's Best Christian, is evolving into America's Best Patriot.  She has recently been taking some fairly well-aimed shots at a certain Orange Nightmare and his sycophantic hangers-on, regarding the…Continue

Tags: patriotism, Donald Trump, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

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Comment by Joan Denoo on October 23, 2016 at 8:44pm

Bertold, some say that an adopted child is not as precious as a genetically born child. NONSENSE. Cary was as loved by all family members and we all grieve his death and value our memories of him. This pain is so deep because of him, not because of his genetics.

The sweetness of his care for me is priceless to me and to our family, the ideas and times we shared, the joys and sorrows were as real to us those who have the same blood lines. 

Yes, "outliving a child" is the hardest thing I ever experienced. 

Thank you for your comments, they comfort and empower me. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on October 23, 2016 at 7:53pm

Joan, I wept when I read your message about Cary, so please know that I am grieving with you and your family. Although we are not close in distance, we are close in friendship. I send you my love, hugs and support.

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on October 23, 2016 at 7:13pm

Joan, outliving a child must in some ways be one of the hardest things this life could ever demand. You did it with incredible grace and power. As ever, you're an inspiration.

Comment by Joan Denoo on October 23, 2016 at 6:28pm

Thank you all, your words give me strength. That is the magic that Christians claim they own and don't understand that the miracle of healing is to relieve those who life in constant pain after doing everything possible to restore quality of life. Cary shares the responsibility by not catching the cancer early. 

Take heed and have regular examinations and act when symptoms appear. 

I felt as though I had a cloud of friends who thought about Cary and me as we faced this demon-cancer. We were not alone. 

Comment by BenGee on October 23, 2016 at 6:27pm

Joan, this is sad news, I wouldn't even begin to know how to help comfort you, but I agree with everyone here who also cares about you and supports you. 

Comment by kathy: ky on October 23, 2016 at 6:21pm
Joan, rest dear friend. You are in our hearts.
Comment by Joan Denoo on October 23, 2016 at 6:21pm

Thank you, Daniel. The only ones with whom I wanted to have conversation I was blocked. We didn't talk to each other in the room about the events emerging and chose to stay with Cary and let discussion occur elsewhere. 

Last night, as the family gathered with the doctor we had the discussion in Cary's room. All the facts were laid out and we all heard the options for quality of life. Cary heard us even though he was heavily sedated. He was still communicating with his hands. We asked if option one was a tracheotomy  and two was to take him off all medication and remove his breathing tubes which meant  there was a probability he could not breath on his own and his heart support would stop. Cary chose #2. We all agreed and the process began. He died in a very few minutes, peacefully. 

Comment by Daniel W on October 23, 2016 at 6:08pm

Joan, thank you for the update.  Everyone understand that you were not in a position to send messages.

I know that you know how much people here care about you and what happens in your life.  If there is anything that you need that we can provide, let us know.  If not on here, then via email.

Now the most important thing is to get rest and do what you always do best - assess your situation and come up with solutions.  The most important part of that is getting the rest and not feeling pressured.

You are a true friend to everyone here, including me.  Thank you again for the update.  Despite all of his misfortune, Cary was very fortunate to have you and the family that you built and nurtured.

Comment by Joan Denoo on October 23, 2016 at 5:53pm

And I thought of those of you who overcame life's challenged.

Randy, I did not mean that you overcame alcoholism, I meant you have overcome powers beyond your ability to control. You raised your family and now have grandchildren to love.

Daniel, thank you for the link to ending Citizen's United. I will read it thoughtfully (meaning full of thought). 

Spud, in my experience of being a firebrand feminist in a sexist community, and an atheist in a Christian community, I understand what you say. The thing that works for me is to speak, write, and act, on well thought-out  principles with competence and confidence, i.e. C,C, squard.  I also learned to have a tough skin; don't take vicious attacks personally, even as you do not accept the nonsense slung your way. Be ready to duck and run; gather your strength to think and act another day. You will find like-minded people and begin to grow a coalition. Many poses more power than an individual; however the individual has to take the risks. 

Thank you all for your support while I went through a death with dignity of a son. Your words comforted me, profoundly. I could not send messages to you because all the messages that I tried to send from the hospital would not go through.I discovered there was an easy fix but only after leaving there this morning. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on October 23, 2016 at 5:36pm

Daniel, I agree with your political statement 100% and will have a lot more to say about it when I am rested. Sleeping in a hospital chair with bells, buzzers, and whistles going off day and night, I had little sleep. I know you understand. 

Randy, I thought of you as our little family gathered together to celebrate Cary's life, his overcoming alcoholism, and his responsible care of me for the last few years. 

Randy, hug your children and their offsprings often and tell them you love them. Life is so very precious and can melt before your eyes. That little spark exists for such a short period, even when it seems forever, it is not.  

I went to the stars knowing our atoms are "Part of starstuff" The October/November night sky presents another period of change. I grow comfort knowing that we are all part of each other. We need each other and build and destroy together. 

Look at what has happened to Syria or Yemen or Palestine in today's environment,  That is what will happen in the United State if we have another war, our building in shambles, lives and ways of life will change. 

Look at the dispute about climate change and know we have an opportunity to learn and live in nonviolent ways. We can make the effort to restore health to the planet or we can comfort each other as the planet responds to our choices. If we can do it, others can too. 

I love you, dear friends, even though I have never seen you in person, I have read our writings and shared ideas with you. That is enough to create a true friend. 

 

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