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Hang With Friends

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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Goodwill to Few Men (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Donald R Barbera on Thursday. 3 Replies

Think Goodwill Industries does well by the poor?  Fact is, they do WAY BETTER for themselves, to the point where America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, thinks they're ripping off the christian playbook a bit too well!  Have a look for yourself:…Continue

Tags: ripoff, Goodwill Industries, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Plinius Jul 10. 12 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

losing faith (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jul 5. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees has recently begun producing a new series of YouTube videos, which added to a wonderful library of earlier observations regarding his experience of religion. Good as all those pieces are, I personally think they pale against this…Continue

Tags: story, history, faith, TheraminTrees

Betty Explains Religious Freedom (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner Jul 3. 10 Replies

Well, considering all the RFRA bills popping up all over the United States, plus all the fun and games ISIS is bringing to the good folks in Syria and Iraq, Betty Bowers, the epitome of well-dressed christianity, has decided to clarify the true…Continue

Tags: persecution, ISIS, Religious Freedom, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 6. 82 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Dominique Lutz Apr 16. 6 Replies

My take on the recent melt down at Hang With Friends, of which I missed part, is that some of us were tripped up by a habit of thought. It's something we learn growing up, and use without realizing how much pain it can generate -  failing to…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on September 21, 2014 at 3:16pm

Ian, that Peanuts cartoons is priceless. Exactly what happens to some. 

For me, I slept away 2013 and during the summer I slept inside at night and in the garden during the day. Now that I am recovered, I realize the Earth kept turning, people were able and willing to take the responsibility off me, and some of the things needed to be let go. 

Now, I am sitting in my garden, I paid all my bills, Arranged for repairs for the roof and blow out the pipes in Oct. I'm cooking a full meal tonight and all is well with my world. 

Including, Cary took a photo that I requested of him this morning and as I sit here, a squirrel climbed the huge sunflower stalks looking for ripe sunflower seeds. He watched me as he explored, just 10 feet away from me. All of a sudden I heard a "CRACK" and down went one of large stalks. The squirrel looked as surprised as I felt. 

I enjoy the critters and their adventures. I think the hummingbirds have left for this season, I haven't seen one for several days. With the billions and billions of flowers in my garden, they would fight like gladiators over one blossom. Isn't nature interesting? 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on September 21, 2014 at 3:04pm

If the rapture is anything like getting selected for school sports teams, I'm screwed.  I always got picked last. 

Comment by Ian Mason on September 21, 2014 at 2:26pm

Comment by Ian Mason on September 21, 2014 at 2:25pm

Joan/Felaine: having worked in elderly care for 18 years, I've met quite a few people who "enjoy" their illnesses. It means that they're no longer responsible for anything. I myself used the same tactic when I was active as an alcoholic - "I suffer from depression,therefore no-one can expect me to stop drinking".

A pictorial version, by Schutz:

Comment by sk8eycat on September 21, 2014 at 4:49am

Joan, my mother was born in 1905...the middle of 8 children...5 boys and 3 girls.  (Two of them died before age 18...scarlet fever)

  She quit school after the 8th grade to help feed the family. but she never stopped learning...married an MBA from USC (I think he became a closeted atheist somewhere along the line)....was an avid reader. was as thrilled as I was by the Apollo moon landings....but she was also something of an Oklahoma fundie...but stopped dragging me to Sunday School when I complained about not having a "day off" when I was about 10 or 11.

In her later years she went back to reading the buybull, and listened to Gene Scott on a tiny radio (with earphones.)  I don't know if she was more perturbed by my atheism (I made no secret of it) or my sister's JW obsessions.  She specifically said "NO funeral" when it became obvious that her body was failing...

We had no service for Dad, either.  (Pissed off his sister, who married "the son of a preacher-man.") And I paid off my membership with the Neptune Society years ago.

And that's the troooooooththththth,

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 21, 2014 at 3:40am

k.h. ky, when I was a member of the Presbyterian church, we had sessions after sermons when the pastor would meet with anyone who wanted to discuss his sermon. When I would bring up the use of man, I interpreted that as excluding women. The pastor vehemently claimed that man meant men and women. I would respond with something like, "If you mean men and women, then say men and women". He was a stubborn man, with absolute belief in scripture and dogma, and out of stubbornness, I suppose, or maybe out of principle, he never included women when he said man, meaning man and woman. 

The old fart! During one of his sermons, I got up and walked back. The bell had rung for me, I knew I did not belong there. The siren sounded in my head, and I had no other choice, but to leave ... for good. I had some doubts at first, I expected a bolt of lightning to hit my chair, but no such thing ever happened and I am content with my decision. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 21, 2014 at 3:27am

People respond so differently to having cancer or any life threatening disease. Felaine, your mother clearly was a troubled woman and caught in cycles of helplessness and hopelessness. At least with cancer, she could exploit the disease. Your description of her sounds so familiar. People learn how to think of themselves very young and I am wondering about the quality of parenting she had. People growing up at the time she was had very little access to mental health care and if she was born into a dysfunctional family, she probably didn't have any way to see beyond the traditional. 

The good news is, you live in an enlightened age and know how to access resources in order to change the patterns that pass from generation to generation, just as genes pass along. Behavior is different, it is a learned behavior and learned behaviors can be replaced with healthy functioning. 

I am so sorry your sister has Asperger's disease. I know you learned all you could about it, and that is about all you can do. She is a reality in your life. She must create a lot of stress for you. You manage so well, you deserve a lot of credit for your care of her. You are one of the unsung heroes that provides care without complaint, and understands her condition. That is about all you can do. 

Comment by Plinius on September 21, 2014 at 1:51am

There was no one like Orwell to help you see patterns.

Comment by Ian Mason on September 21, 2014 at 1:09am

So, anyone who criticises the Catholic church is a right-wing fanatic. Odd how we others didn't realise that.

Hitchens has been aknowledged, even by those who oppose him, as one of the best users of the English language in writing and debate. He said himself that his biggest influence was Orwell, another champion of clear and simple statement.

Comment by The Flying Atheist on September 20, 2014 at 1:03pm

Thank goodness we have books written by Christopher Hitchens and so much audio/visual material of him as well.  His words are timeless even though he is no longer here. 

 

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