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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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Did the American Revolution produce significant benefits for women, native Americans, blacks, propertyless white males, and indentured servants?

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner 3 hours ago. 3 Replies

Did the American Revolution produce significant benefits for native Americans, blacks, propertyless white males, and indentured servants?On blacks:"We think they are not, and that they are not included, and were not intended to be included…. They…Continue

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Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Chris G on Friday. 16 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

Men who challenge men to stop violence

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Grinning Cat on Wednesday. 17 Replies

Many men join in the effort to reduce violence against women and children and other men. He speaks of the need to place responsibility on men instead of focusing on women to stop violence. He offers a breath of fresh air, as do so many of the men on…Continue

Surreal, I haz it

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Ruth Anthony-Gardner May 22. 83 Replies

Surreal, not just found in art.Continue

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Such Lyrics!

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Joan Denoo May 19. 8 Replies

Hello Friends,I was ruminating a bit today on my sixty-some years existence. My mind went back to teenage years when I first figured out religion is not only obnoxiously loud, but also nothing I wanted anything to do with. Truly. I knew by age 15…Continue

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Comment by Bertold Brautigan on January 7, 2015 at 7:44am

Comment by Plinius on January 7, 2015 at 6:33am

Patricia, I wasn't trying to make your story look less important.

You and I have in common that we didn't fit in and I was very unhappy about that. No loving parents, no kind family or friendly classmates - I was seven when I calculated how long I had to stay in my parents' house. I escaped in reading and tried to learn from books what a normal life could be like.

I love the teenage pictures and look forward to more!

Comment by The Flying Atheist on January 6, 2015 at 8:02pm

Loved the Gypsy Airs, Joan.  As a classically trained saxophonist I was always practicing music of that same vein.  There's some great classical saxophone literature out there.  

I'm enjoying the teen-age photos that have been posted.  I'll have to see what I can come up with.  

Bertold, I love Pandora and have discovered lots of great music that was unknown to me.  As I type this I'm listening to my station of Spanish contemporary love and romantic songs by male singers.  There are some wonderful artists from Central and South America.  

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 6, 2015 at 4:54pm

Patricia, it doesn't sound like the classroom environment offered you something to compensate for your situation. 

There is no reason to try to change your emotions and feelings. They helped you to cope with whatever you had to face. 

Would you like o feel uplifted and positive in your life? 

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on January 6, 2015 at 4:45pm

Thanks Carl! I love the old 40s/50s jazz, especially sax, and I'd never known about Don Byas. Just started a Pandora station and it's great!

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 6, 2015 at 3:34pm

I didn't seem to have the angst in my high school years that some had. I loved learning, I had very fine teachers, and I made top grades. It was a place where I would not be hit and I would be acknowledged for doing a good job. 

My senior year was magical for me. A lot of successes occurred and doors opened. I wanted to go to college and my guidance counselors found some scholarships for me that made it possible to choose hairdressing (which I declined) and some other training that didn't appeal to me.  

I worked a year and continued to apply for scholarships. I finally got what I wanted ... a chance to go into horticulture at Washington State College,

I attended WSC for one and half years and then decided to marry Don, who was in dental school. Although it turned out to be a bad marriage for me, I have three beautiful children who make me very proud. There is no more violence in any of their lives! They learned how to be rational, and compassionate. I am proud of them, they discarded superstition, are moral, ethical, compassionate, and caring people. Isn't that just amazing!

I still hate hair and liked my bald head when my hair started falling out. I also liked the kids who wanted to touch my head-of-no-hair or reacted in some way. For those who were afraid of me, I was able to be a jester and make them laugh.

Comment by tom sarbeck on January 6, 2015 at 3:28pm

Enough of us have written of early unhappiness that I think it reasonable to consider its most likely cause: our being born to people who, like my parents, were for various reasons not up to the task.

It is, in my opinion, the only truth that Billy Graham told: the two most important tasks, citizenship and parenthood, require no training. That was in the late 1950s. I had just quit Catholicism and could hear him without committing a mortal--go immediately to Hell--sin.

Twenty years later I had moved to San Francisco and read in the newspaper that San Jose, a few miles south where a brother and his one-child family lived, was the first city in America to have a law that authorizes the City to remove children from violent parents and to require those parents to attend anger management classes.

More? Maybe in another discussion?

Comment by Joan Denoo on January 6, 2015 at 3:08pm

Patricia, your face in photos look lovely to me. I see no permanently miserable state. I see a bright woman with compassion and eager to help, especially eager to help me with my cancer treatments. 

You made a big difference in my life. 

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on January 6, 2015 at 3:07pm

HS graduation

Comment by Idaho Spud on January 6, 2015 at 12:40pm

This is the only picture of the teenage me that I could find today.  It's at age 18, graduating from High School.

I don't look as happy as I remember being most of the time, because I didn't want to attend the graduation ceremony.  I was a little sick and never have liked pomp & ceremony, but my mother talked me into it.

 

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