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An AN member passed away

Started by Deidre. Last reply by Deidre Aug 18. 4 Replies

Went into the chat room last Friday night, for the first time in a while, and learned that Mequa passed away. I had been good friends with him for a time, but we had differences and stopped talking back in the spring of this year. I knew however,…Continue

A Parable by Mrs. Betty Bowers

Started by Loren Miller Aug 17. 0 Replies

Betty Bowers is becoming SO GOOD at delivering as America's Best Christian, she now does 30-second parables!  (Okay, 32 seconds!  Picky, picky!) Have You Had YOUR Betty Today?Continue

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Goodwill to Few Men (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Michael Penn Aug 16. 8 Replies

Think Goodwill Industries does well by the poor?  Fact is, they do WAY BETTER for themselves, to the point where America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, thinks they're ripping off the christian playbook a bit too well!  Have a look for yourself:…Continue

Tags: ripoff, Goodwill Industries, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Steven Weinberg on his anti-theism

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller Aug 2. 4 Replies

I like the sound of Steven Weinberg's voice. He has a calming impact on me as I rush to get my home of 41 years ready to sell and plan and put into motion the new garden at my daughter's home. My home is full o empty boxed quickly filling with the…Continue

Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by Plinius Jul 10. 12 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

losing faith (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jul 5. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees has recently begun producing a new series of YouTube videos, which added to a wonderful library of earlier observations regarding his experience of religion. Good as all those pieces are, I personally think they pale against this…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on September 7, 2014 at 11:38pm

k.h. ky, I'm glad you don't agree with me. Of course, you are correct! Carl should do whatever works for him. If whining, pouting, asking "why me", or sitting on a pity-potty works for him then he should do whatever. 

Thoughts, words and actions of a victim pull a person down faster than anything I know. Depression is a great killer and the way to become depressed and anxious is to feel, think and act like a victim. 

Change the language/change the feeling. Give it a try. Talk to yourself using negative frames and see how quickly you go into the dumps. Using pro-active language, such as, "I can do this!" or "Just get through one more minute/hour/day ..." or "This challenge is real and I am up to it!" brings better outcomes for seriously ill people. 

If a seriously sick person needs to vent, we are strong enough to walk that walk with him or her. If that same person wants to mobilize all his or her resources toward flourishing, then language can facilitate it.   

I know I sound tough, and that is what healing is all about., Kidney failure, cancer, infections and diseases need a kind of toughness to make it over the hump. As participant observers we can hold their hands, listen to their feelings, hear their struggles, pay attention to their fears, respect their anger, appreciate their sadness, be sensitive to their grief, sit with them through treatments, encourage them and affirm them as being up to the tasks. 

Comment by k.h. ky on September 7, 2014 at 11:01pm
Hey, Joan, this is one time l don't agree with you.
Carl, whine all you like. If not now when.
Comment by Joan Denoo on September 7, 2014 at 9:20pm

Carl, I know the feeling of starting a process and not knowing how it will all end. Of course, we know you will be a good patient and follow instructions without whining. One day when I was trying to figure out all the scheduling and was confused, I started crying. Cary told me that crying doesn't help and boy did I realize those were my words coming back at me. Do be alert for any signs of depression and get on it right away with a person who works with kidney transplants. For me, Cancer Care Northwest has an outstanding cancer therapist and she was able to pull me out of fast spiral down. Nip it in the bud because depression can be very serious. 

My neighbor had a young girl and brand new baby girl about 20 years ago and suddenly went into cardiac emergency. She had a heart transplant and is now pulling hoses around her yard as if nothing happened to her. That young girl is now a dentist. 

Comment by Grinning Cat on September 7, 2014 at 8:41pm

Carl, I'll add one more voice to those of us who may not have met you face to face, but care and are rooting for you! I'll heartily second this page full of comments.

Patricia, that church sign is a keeper. (I think it's a well-done photoshop.)

Plinius, many U.S. states let you declare your wish to donate organs on your driver's license. (I did.)

Comment by sk8eycat on September 7, 2014 at 7:30pm

k. h., I used to do that, but "they" won't even let me donate blood anymore...age, diabetes, and the meds I'm on apparently make me ineligible.  Shameful.

Comment by k.h. ky on September 7, 2014 at 4:12pm
I've signed my drivers license to be an organ donar ever since ky made it an option many years ago.
I wish more people would. My daughter does the same thing.
Comment by The Flying Atheist on September 7, 2014 at 11:51am

My many thanks to everyone here for all your supportive words and thoughts.  I'm quite moved.  I can't ask for more than to have a group of cheerleaders in my corner rooting for me from miles and miles away.  Thanks so much. 

Joan, I will be making a phone call this week to start the transplant process.  This is all new to me, and I don't know the timeframe or any procedures.  I'm just going with the flow and hoping it goes smoothly.  I have an excellent kidney specialist that I've been seeing who makes me feel very comfortable and confident. 

Comment by Bertold Brautigan on September 7, 2014 at 10:21am

Carl, so sorry to hear you have to go through this. I'm glad you have a positive and supportive family situation. You're very lucky for that.

Comment by Randall Smith on September 7, 2014 at 7:39am

Patricia, the message is pure gold. But I'm confused as to why it's on a church board. Who's responsible?

Ian, I was having trouble with the letters being cut off. Seems okay today.

Comment by Joan Denoo on September 7, 2014 at 1:21am

Carl, a huge blow! You are young, you have good living habits, you have a strong constitution and a strong family. Yes, challenges. So, when does the program begin? 

We are here for you through good and bad. You know we walk this walk with you. 

 

 

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