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Your favorite photobombs?

Started by Ruth Anthony-Gardner. Last reply by amer chohan on Wednesday. 13 Replies

Running of the bulls photobomb.Continue

An AN member passed away

Started by Deidre. Last reply by Deidre Aug 18. 4 Replies

Went into the chat room last Friday night, for the first time in a while, and learned that Mequa passed away. I had been good friends with him for a time, but we had differences and stopped talking back in the spring of this year. I knew however,…Continue

A Parable by Mrs. Betty Bowers

Started by Loren Miller Aug 17. 0 Replies

Betty Bowers is becoming SO GOOD at delivering as America's Best Christian, she now does 30-second parables!  (Okay, 32 seconds!  Picky, picky!) Have You Had YOUR Betty Today?Continue

Tags: bible, parable, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Goodwill to Few Men (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Michael Penn Aug 16. 8 Replies

Think Goodwill Industries does well by the poor?  Fact is, they do WAY BETTER for themselves, to the point where America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers, thinks they're ripping off the christian playbook a bit too well!  Have a look for yourself:…Continue

Tags: ripoff, Goodwill Industries, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

Steven Weinberg on his anti-theism

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Loren Miller Aug 2. 4 Replies

I like the sound of Steven Weinberg's voice. He has a calming impact on me as I rush to get my home of 41 years ready to sell and plan and put into motion the new garden at my daughter's home. My home is full o empty boxed quickly filling with the…Continue

losing faith (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jul 5. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees has recently begun producing a new series of YouTube videos, which added to a wonderful library of earlier observations regarding his experience of religion. Good as all those pieces are, I personally think they pale against this…Continue

Tags: story, history, faith, TheraminTrees

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Comment by k.h. ky on July 31, 2014 at 3:21pm
Booklover, l was so sorry to hear about Molly. I've lost one to cancer too and it's not a bit easier.
Comment by The Flying Atheist on July 31, 2014 at 10:08am

Mindy, have a great lunch!

Comment by Randall Smith on July 31, 2014 at 7:29am

It's so nice not to have to hear someone say "doggy heaven", etc. I did check out the dogs at the animal shelter (remember when we used to call it the "dog pound"?). I think I found one I like. More later.

Joan, isn't "googling" something great?! (Ray Rice)

Brent, thanks. It was nice to read you're doing well after a rough year. Keep you spirits up.

Comment by Joan Denoo on July 31, 2014 at 1:59am

Mindy, I just read that your Molly died and I am so sorry that she had that terrible experience at the end. From your photos of her over the past months have shown a very much loved, well cared for, treasured part of the family. I am sorry for your loss. 

Comment by Plinius on July 31, 2014 at 12:39am

Thanks for your story, Brent! I'm glad you can share the burden with your sisters, but even so it's a hard job.

Comment by Brent Feeney on July 30, 2014 at 8:54pm

Joan, I have a few stories from my brief Wally World experience I could share. Found out after I'd been hired at that particular Walmart that it had been evacuated about a year and a half before I hired on because someone was caught cooking meth in a soda bottle in her purse while she was in the store - a couple of weeks AFTER she had been arrested for the same thing at a gas station!

Comment by Brent Feeney on July 30, 2014 at 8:51pm

Thanks for the kind words everyone. It means a lot to me. I'm glad things worked out so I could get paid for doing this, even if it's part-time. Started out at $10.05/hr, with a raise coming in November, so it does help with the bills and puts a bit of money in my pocket to enjoy life.

I agree with the sentiments about your Molly, Mindy. I wish we were allowed to have that kind of choice on when we go if the time came too. I hope you're doing well too.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on July 30, 2014 at 5:29pm

Thanks for the update, Brent. I'm glad you found at least a partial solution.

I hope your new pet at least partly helps with your grief, booklover and Randall.

Great LOL, booklover, and political quote too. Did you create that, or what? No author was credited.

Comment by Joan Denoo on July 30, 2014 at 3:43pm

Brent Feeney, thank you for bringing us up to date your your situation and challenges you face. It is never easy for a son to take care of a mother. My son, Cary, took care of me the year I was in cancer treatment and he did a wonderful job. My other two children were relieved  because he did a fine job and was trustworthy. 

Sorry your Walmart experience turned out the way it did. Frankly, I am glad you are not working for them anymore ... I boycott them because of their labor policies. 

It seems 2013 was a big transition year for you with your father's passing and mother's stroke and then heart problems. Taking on the responsibility of caring for her is a big job. There are many strategies that can make it easier and I am glad you had some training.

I cared for my dad after he broke his hip and began to fail. He lived with me the last seven years of his life. A home nursing organization came in and gave me instructions as his needs changed, and I had help from visiting nurses for his baths.

That is a good idea to get financial help while caring for her. It just makes sense that public funds be used in such a way, so that you can receive assistance with expenses when you can't work and care for her.

I tried to work and care for dad, but gave that up after about a year. I was teaching classes at the time and he would call needing help, and his needs became more intense. At the end I was doing body lifts and he was too heavy for me. We both realized I could no longer do all the tasks and instead of going back into a nursing home, he chose to die. He was 86, he couldn't hear, his sight was failing, and nothing tasted good. He had no control over anything and was not a happy elder. He chose wisely. 

Your experiences will undoubtedly be different than mine, and we are here to listen when you need to vent, and perhaps we can offer some suggestions that will help. 

In the process, I hear your challenge and respect you for the efforts you make on your mother's behalf. Stay in touch. I look forward to walking this walk with you. 

Comment by The Flying Atheist on July 30, 2014 at 3:25pm

Mindy, I'm so sorry to hear your sad news.  I know you've mentioned recently that this day would be coming, but that doesn't make it any easier.  At least you know that Molly had a wonderful life as part of your household.

(and Patricia, that's a beautiful candle posting!)

Brent, it's always good hearing from you.  What great news that you're actually getting paid to care for your mother!  I had no idea that such a program existed. 

 

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