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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

Nobody here is into mind games. A discussion started with a loaded guilt-throwing question will be deleted.

This group is not intended to compete with other groups on topics they cover but to "fill in the cracks." Whenever a discussion dwells at length on a topic for which there's an existing group, we urge you to provide members a link to that group to continue along their tangent.

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Men who challenge men to stop violence

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Jan 9. 19 Replies

Many men join in the effort to reduce violence against women and children and other men. He speaks of the need to place responsibility on men instead of focusing on women to stop violence. He offers a breath of fresh air, as do so many of the men on…Continue

Ian, a beautiful New Years blessing.

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Chris Jan 5. 7 Replies

Ian, for some reason, my comment would not "send" on Hang with Friends; perhaps it will here!Ian, a beautiful New Years blessing. It goes in my file. I especially like the thought of surprising myself. Laura made a special trip to my Spokane home to…Continue

degrading love — part two (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller Jan 1. 0 Replies

TheraminTrees set up religion with his left in Part One of his treatise on how religion demeans and degrades the value of love.  Here in Part Two, he brings in a devastating, "Mike Tyson" right, which negates and invalidates any claim that either…Continue

Tags: Christianity, Islam, TheraminTrees, god, love

The Ark Encounter: A Less than Grand Opening (The Thinking Atheist)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Idaho Spud Dec 31, 2016. 27 Replies

The day finally arrived.  Ken Ham's Ark Encounter opened on 7 July, 2016 ... to something a bit less than Disney-sized crowds, and more than a couple dissenting voices!  Seth Andrews has gathered a quartet of significant participants in the protest…Continue

Tags: Tracey Moody, Dan Broadbent, Seth Andrews, David Silverman, AronRa

Learning a Language as a Mature Adult

Started by Daniel W. Last reply by Idaho Spud Dec 14, 2016. 27 Replies

Trying to keep my mind exercised, and not interested in most of the reading materials that I can find.I decided to attempt to learn a language.  Actually, two.  The dilemma is, how do I do that without going to school - not an option - and without…Continue

What Annoys God Most? (Betty Bowers)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Grinning Cat Dec 7, 2016. 10 Replies

Long story short, it's those near misses, the almost-but-not-quite, close but no cheroot moments, or, would you believe ... Near Death Experiences!  So what's the big deal?  Betty Bowers, America's BEST Christian and self-proclaimed expert on such…Continue

Tags: Near Death Experiences, America's Best Christian, Betty Bowers

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Comment by The Flying Atheist on February 17, 2015 at 6:42pm

Hello, everyone.  I'm back from a little break which I felt I needed after the recent blow-up here.  I was quite shocked at the response to that stupid dog gif I posted.  The reaction, I thought, was overly emotional and hyperbolic.  To me it was visually obvious that the cranking of the dog's tail was just pretend, and that the dog, its tail and spine were not being physically harmed or twisted in any manner.  Furthermore, like icing on the cake, I was even more astonished that shortly afterward, a post appeared addressing the issue of sexual abuse of dogs and bestiality (!), as if that topic was somehow related.  At that point I felt I needed a break from the insanity.  Abuse of animals is an important topic, but I think the dog gif I posted was the wrong springboard to start that conversation. 

I also have read Ruth's post, Let's not define ourselves or others by our worst behaviors.  In it she makes an important statement:  "As I see it, the video wasn't the real cause of our problem." 

Obviously, there were some other long-standing and festering personality and character issues that surfaced via an ugly display of nasty personal comments.  That exchange took on a life of its own, leaving me at a loss for words.  I'm deeply saddened that, as a result, we have lost not only members from our group but persons who we consider to be our friends.

Whether you agree with my above-stated opinions or not, I'm glad I could finally sit down and express my feelings.      

Comment by Ian Mason on February 17, 2015 at 10:42am

Thank you, everyone. I've chatted with my nephew and it seems that his heart episode should be a one-off event. (I had one like it years ago. Hasn't happened since) His 17 y.o. cousin is out of hospital although still under doctor's care. My brother and his wife are, it seems, coping as well as possible but are in bed and asleep before 10 p.m. every evening. They need the rest, especially my brother who is up at 5 a.m. for work. I'll get updates from my nephew as and when things change.

Thanks again, lovely people.

Comment by Plinius on February 17, 2015 at 7:53am

A cartfull of bad trouble in your family, Ian! It doesn't feel good when your help is unwanted, but it doesn't mean you are unwanted.

Comment by Randall Smith on February 17, 2015 at 7:39am

Yikes, Ian. Perhaps a phone call, email, or letter might be appropriate and appreciated. Shows you're thinking of them.

Yes, I had a feeling we'd lose Mindy. I'm still in a state of shock over all the fuss. On my old blog site, I made a mortal enemy when I mentioned the words "will power" when trying to lose weight, like "you gotta have...". Now, I can make new enemies over here!

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 16, 2015 at 10:37pm

Ian, sorry to learn of your family members with a lung infection, another with heart irregularities at 22 y.o., a collapsed lung in their 17 y.o. nephew., an elderly father in a care home, and their dog, old, ailing and incontinent. It sounds as though they need quiet and rest. Perhaps there is another way you can give them support and encouragement. The information that now is not a good time for you to visit them reflects respect for you, even as you could help in some way. 

With all that you list indicates these are long term problems and they may need your help at some future time. In the meantime, keep yourself healthy, your spirits up, and focus on letting them know you are available when/if they need you. 

I'm glad you shared your feelings with us; this is a good place to express your disappointment. 

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on February 16, 2015 at 10:02pm

I'd give your family their space, Ian. I know when I'm sick I don't really want company. It can be stressful to have visitors, even people you love, when your stress level is already over the top. Thanks for sharing.

Comment by Ian Mason on February 16, 2015 at 3:24pm

Something personal. Feeling a bit rejected. I mailed my brother and his wife about going over and they've asked me not to. Everything bad seems to be happening to them. My sister in law has had 2 weeks in bed with a lung infection. Their eldest son is being checked and scanned for heart irregularities (he's 22) Their 17 y.o. nephew is in hospital with a collapsed lung. My s-i-l's dad is now in a care home. The dog is old, ailing and almost incontinent. I understand that they don't want to entertain guests but also felt that as family I could support or help in some way. I must allow them that they know best what they can and can't cope with amid an avalanche of woes. They're really feeling the pressure. Makes all my problems seem petty in comparison.

That's better: got that off my chest.

Comment by Ian Mason on February 16, 2015 at 3:14pm

No, not going to Copenhagen. It's a long and expensive trip.

I too would like to hear from Carl again. He's going through a hard time and I'm concerned.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 16, 2015 at 1:57pm

I haven't heard from Carl since he sent me a message that he wanted to discuss the video with everyone but didn't have the energy at that time. I haven't heard from him since. 

I am no longer able to contact Mindy. She had given me her Facebook information and we had some very special conversations until my responses to her were blocked. 

I am sorry that I raised the question and that I tried to find what really happened. My concern backfired on me big time. 

Carl, I am concerned about you, I hope you feel better. I especially look forward to seeing you able to get on with whatever the doctors advice. You are the same age as my three children and I kind of think of you as family. I apologize to you if I contributed to your distress. 

Comment by Plinius on February 16, 2015 at 1:30pm

Waving to Carl.

Are you going to the Kopenhagen meeting, Ian?

 

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