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Picture yourself spending some time with congenial friends, sharing your lives and pictures from your cell phones." They're curious about that cool game, song, movie, camping trip, art show, or other event that fascinated you. You talk about all kinds of stuff, poetry, styles, personal achievements, relationships, and bad days. You can share your inner child, and laugh together. They sympathetically listen to your feelings about serious topics like politics or climate change, even when they don't agree.

Personal validation comes from paying attention to one another, giving more than you get. Everyone respects you and themselves, despite our amazing range of personal tastes and interests. They'll tell you they don't agree with an idea or behavior without implying you're a bad person or somehow deficient. It's an "I'm OK, You're OK" kind of fellowship, where nobody tries to make himself look better by picking on somebody else.

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The Playboy Interview: Richard Dawkins

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris yesterday. 14 Replies

I suppose it was the news that Playboy magazine was returning nudes to its pages after a year's hiatus that sufficiently perked my curiosity to check them out again.  I hadn't looked at Playboy since perhaps 2008, when I began to recognize that I…Continue

Tags: Richard Dawkins, Playboy

Such Lyrics!

Started by Donatien Alphonse François. Last reply by Grinning Cat Feb 13. 9 Replies

Hello Friends,I was ruminating a bit today on my sixty-some years existence. My mind went back to teenage years when I first figured out religion is not only obnoxiously loud, but also nothing I wanted anything to do with. Truly. I knew by age 15…Continue

degrading love — part two (TheraminTrees)

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Joan Denoo Feb 11. 1 Reply

TheraminTrees set up religion with his left in Part One of his treatise on how religion demeans and degrades the value of love.  Here in Part Two, he brings in a devastating, "Mike Tyson" right, which negates and invalidates any claim that either…Continue

Tags: Christianity, Islam, TheraminTrees, god, love

Questions......

Started by Thomas Murray. Last reply by k.h. ky Feb 9. 6 Replies

   It has been 6 month now since I signed up for Atheist Nexus membership. The past year has been sort of a bi-polar wave of emotions for me. I hope I wasn't offensive to the folks on here and I think I have been but I don't know to who. My desire…Continue

Proud Dad is REALLY Proud Now!

Started by Loren Miller. Last reply by Chris Jan 31. 15 Replies

As some of you may or may not know, my daughter is a television news producer, currently working in Nashville, Tennessee.  Her assignment is the morning news, which means she blasts herself up at umpti-ump in the morning to organize and prepare a…Continue

Tags: Emmy, news, television, daughter, dad

Men who challenge men to stop violence

Started by Joan Denoo. Last reply by Idaho Spud Jan 9. 19 Replies

Many men join in the effort to reduce violence against women and children and other men. He speaks of the need to place responsibility on men instead of focusing on women to stop violence. He offers a breath of fresh air, as do so many of the men on…Continue

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Comment by Joan Denoo on February 20, 2015 at 9:07pm

I guess I am going to have to do a little hunting to find out "50 shades of pink" means before I get the point. 

Comment by Loren Miller on February 20, 2015 at 8:56pm

Considering a recent release at the movies, I thought the following might be ... well ... interesting, if nothing else.

Comment by Ian Mason on February 19, 2015 at 12:05pm

Many wise words today. Thank you.

I'm stealing "go far" it's so good.

Comment by Ruth Anthony-Gardner on February 18, 2015 at 9:42pm

Good luck with your snow-bound days, k.h. ky.

Ian, I’m glad your family is hanging in there.

I’m happy to see you back, Flying Atheist! I wouldn’t go so far as to assume “long-standing and festering personality and character issues”. We all have a suite of communications and thought tools, some better than others. Just one instance of using a poor tool can generate a landslide of pain. I remember an argument I had with my husband, years ago. He used one blaming word, in 20 minutes, and that one word hung me up as if a nail through my heart. He’s a highly skilled psychologist with graduate training in communications skills. It wasn’t until I’d worked out with him how that word hit me, and he retracted it, that we could reach an understanding and forgive one another.

So I urge you not to imagine deep seated festering character issues on the basis of a verbal argument. Just one or two poor choices can create an escalating painful episode, where pain makes us less and less able to communicate as adults, makes us regress and forget our skills. Very few people have the good fortune to study communications skills at the graduate level. We use the thought and word tools we’ve learned, and those toolkits can include blaming, defining the other person or ourselves by a few poor choices, invidious comparison, etc. It doesn’t mean we’re defective people, any more than we’d be defective people because we never learned gourmet cooking or computer programming.

This medium, of black and white words on a screen, is far more difficult to navigate emotionally than being face to face. It’s easy to offend at a distance, just as shouting insults from a hilltop is easy. We primates evolved means of reconciling differences and making up with nonverbal cues and touch, which require close contact. As I see it all of us are doing the best we can to be friends in this difficult medium.  

Joan, thanks for your support. :)

Love the African proverb, Plinius. Thanks.

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 18, 2015 at 12:08pm

Chris, a wonderful poster! Thanks. 

Comment by Plinius on February 18, 2015 at 4:53am

Glad to see Ian feels better and Carl is back!

I'd miss you all very much, so don't disappear!

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 18, 2015 at 3:12am

Ian, Happy to learn things settled down in your family and that you have contact with a nephew and keep in touch. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 18, 2015 at 3:05am

Ruth, as usual your good sense and calm manner rise to the occasion. You know how fond I am of you and am very glad you are in my life. 

Comment by Joan Denoo on February 18, 2015 at 3:01am

Carl, I am so relieved to read your words. I was the one who dug into the story and reported back what I found and I am so very sorry that I did that. I didn't know what to think and wanted more information. Well, obviously, I got into a fake report and made matters worse. 

My memory is really going, or I don't think I read ugly remarks. I know I didn't read anything that Patricia or Mindy said. I did read Felains alarm and thought it appropriate tho strong. That was Felaine being Felain and I mean that in a loving way. That is why I wanted to know what happened to the dog. This is another case of Joan being Joan. Just the facts, no drama, just accurate detail. 

I feel like an old mother hen who wants to keep her flock together and not pulling out each others feathers. Well, for gosh sakes, I am entitled. I am an old 79-year old woman who has seen trouble.

Carl, I hope you forgive my for my part in the kerfuffle.

How are you feeling now? What is your next milepost?

Comment by Ian Mason on February 17, 2015 at 9:41pm

Good to hear from you, Carl and glad that your break wasn't caused by health problems. 

 

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